someone insulted me

@indahfth (11173)
Indonesia
January 31, 2011 7:58pm CST
During this time, I was always silent, if someone insulted me. I do not reply to insulting, or angry. But this morning, I can not withhold my anger. I spill my anger. I feel tired to be insulted constantly. What should I do?, So I'm not insulted people. I am very tired to always succumb.
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27 responses
@nangisha (3504)
• Indonesia
10 Feb 11
Hi Indah!. I think we all had limited in our patient maybe mine were sorter than yours. I am not kind of people who except been succumb if I was not guilty even if I were guilty they better tell me what wrong like adult talk to adult or I will not let it. I think if you let others think you are week and 'pasrah' they tend to behave the way they like with you. I told you Indah only in soap opera the week and pasrah girl got his happiness not in real world. I think let your anger out maybe its good for your soul keep pain inside really bad for your mental. I think we can live the way we want as long it not bothers others. So pursue your own happiness and don't let others let you down. Put smile in your face and see every thing will change. Don't walk like the whole world has beaten you up, got up your chin and smile. Have a nice day.
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@indahfth (11173)
• Indonesia
11 Feb 11
Thank you. But in reality I have to re-surrender and accept all the insults. My anger is not useful. During this time I kept quiet because I respect him, and much indebted. It was all like in soap operas, but I experience it now, and not in the soap opera. All seemed so difficult. There's nothing I can do except be quiet.
@shibham (17025)
• India
8 Feb 11
Hi, if you have no fault regarding that issue then you should give a sharp reply so that he cant repeat it again with another woman. On the other hand a police complain may be registered. If it was me i should give him a punch. have a nice day.
• United States
3 Feb 11
Sweetie we are human and we cannot always walk like a board in a straight line no matter how much we try. There are times when we have to release and allow some of the deep feelings out. So my suggestion is sure go right ahead and say something, does not have to be yelling, rude and or insulting but at least say something to relieve some stress, as if you hold, you hold some day you can have a nervous breakdown. If at worse you cannot say anything do pray and release and ask God for strength.
@paula27661 (15900)
• Australia
3 Feb 11
Good on you for expressing your anger indahfth! You should not have to succumb to insults! If someone offends you he or she should be made aware of your displeasure and informed that it will not be tolerated again! You should not be afraid of standing up for yourself.
@sql_cell (1429)
• Indonesia
2 Feb 11
If someone were to insult you, it means people that envy you. So, you do not need to be angry. You are humiliated, then you have a surplus, which is not owned by the person who insulted you.
@ElicBxn (60083)
• United States
2 Feb 11
if it is here, report them to the admin if it is in your private life, well, you need to decide on what action to take - personally I would remove that person from my life, but that's just me
@emine08 (1531)
• Indonesia
2 Feb 11
you can ask the person, why he/she insults you.after that tell him/her to stop it. tell him/her that everything he/she said insults you. donot just keep silent indah, do something. communication will help you. you can tell her/him nicely. good luck
@elmiko (6640)
• United States
2 Feb 11
you boiled over. that's called implosive anger. people who keep the anger all in like that are more prone to bigger outbursts of anger. i let the anger out at least somewhat to so i don't blow up. it lowers the stress and at the same time it keeps the anger from getting too bad.
@ifa225 (11098)
• Indonesia
1 Feb 11
it is okay to show your feelings. i guess that is how other can understand that you are human too. could angry and to repect.
@ifa225 (11098)
• Indonesia
1 Feb 11
it is important to show other what we exactly feel. so they know that our heart is ache because what they had done. that is a lesson too for them to not do the same thing in the future. just feel free to show your feelings, anger is normal but do it in a good and manner. everybody will respect you if you do this way
@dawnald (84157)
• Shingle Springs, California
1 Feb 11
A person can only be so patient. If somebody keeps picking and picking at you, eventually something is going to give. You can't control the other person, you can only control yourself. Instead of insulting them, maybe let them know that what they are doing is hurtful and is making you angry?
@savypat (20248)
• United States
1 Feb 11
Why do you agree to be insulted? It's how you respond and you have sole control of that. A smile or laugh and turn away will sooner or later make the person who is speaking to you loose interest. I just smile and shke my head no as I go on about my business. They may grumble and speak behind your back, but you have no control over that so why waste energy on them. Blessings
• Nigeria
1 Feb 11
well it happens sometimes in life,people will want to hurt you,well i think u should always be patient and dont make people turn you into a bad woman,just try to be patience and you will see that the almighty allah will reward you very well.... continue to be patient and nice,,,..i think those people will later come back to beg you...ok
@dearlene (78)
• Indonesia
1 Feb 11
I think I agree that you should spill you anger, but in a polite/positive way, so that not make any other anger. I have try once. While I live in a boarding house my neougbour always get cough and It is kind a distrub me, you know what I decide to do to show my anger to her. I take a cough medicine and give her. She took it and very thankfull of what I did, and she feel I very care person. I myshelf shock of what I did, with my anger I event help her to heal.
@checapricorn (16072)
• United States
1 Feb 11
I am like that before, I will just tolerate it and forgive them but the more we tolerate them, the more they will take advantage of your goodness so I learned to insult them back! I hate fight but I always let them know they can't just treat me that way... Maybe it is best to stay away from them and find good people to hang out with!
@sender621 (14956)
• United States
1 Feb 11
I can usually blow off an insult or two if it is directed at me. I try not to let things other people say bother me. It just isn't worth the drama. If the insult is directed at someone i care very much about, that can be a different story entirely. I would probably not let that insult slip by without voicing an opinion.
• Philippines
1 Feb 11
hello indahfth! sometimes, we have to give them their own dose of medicine, to make them realize that what they're doing is wrong. Insulting people is not nice and speaks of one's undesirable attitude or personality of being feeling superior than other people and if you are at its butt-end, for the longest time, it is normal to lose your cool and retaliate. let's just say that sometimes you have to make it an eye for an eye, to make them realize that what they're doing is bad and hurtful. Even patient people would lose their patience if insults are done constantly and unjustly.
@lady1993 (15739)
• Philippines
1 Feb 11
Gosh, if it's okay to ask how were you insulted? What did you do that some people insulted you. I thin that you did the right thing, no one has the right to insult and look down on others, everyone is equal. I'd never let anyone insult me either..i'd really fight back.
@tvarasu10 (101)
• India
1 Feb 11
Really it is very difficult to be passive when someone insuted.Better to move away from the place and you will let him/her know that wrong by friends or phone.The person who insulted you may realise the mistake and feel sorry.
@ybong007 (6659)
• Philippines
1 Feb 11
You should fight back. You are not a child anymore. Taking everything in silence gives a signal that you're OK with it and with that impression there will be other insults coming your way. The earlier you let people realize that your not a push over the earlier this abuse will end. We are all equal, so people insulting other people is like telling that they are better than others which is wrong and something that shouldn't be tolerated.