Do you think a single pastor is a good pastor

China
February 10, 2011 12:06am CST
I just read an artical that said the majourity of churches will not hire single pastors They say it is because it does not look good for the church and they pastors would not be good at councilling married couples or offering them help with their children Yet was Paul not single? I am not a pastor, but many married couples come to me for advice and many parents come to me for advice. Mind you I am in my fifties so I have seen a lot, had a lot of good guidence from Christian councillors Would you allow a single man to be your pastor
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@visavis (5945)
• Philippines
10 Feb 11
Being pastor or overseer in the church of God based in the bible as qualification should be married and only one wife and more experienced in life. But for me it is depends on the person who called for such position, like Paul he is a good pastor and single. What is his qualification dedication, commitment and joy. As you said advantages for counselling a married pastor, yes but single pastor may be can't but he can delegate such responsibility to other elders in the church... so it depends on the commitment of person wheter single or married pastor.. see you around
• China
11 Feb 11
I agree There is too much responsability put on pastors and churches need other councillors to help him, just like Moses did God bless you
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@ptower76 (1619)
• United States
10 Feb 11
I believe it is more important that a pastor be a true leader of the flock regardless of marital status. Pastors are human beings also and when the pastor finds someone that is compatible, he/she will make the choice according to his/her personal convictions. Men that are insecure might find a problem with their wives around the single pastor but I see no problem as long as the pastor is qualified to meet the needs of the congregation.
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@suspenseful (40326)
• Canada
10 Feb 11
It does not matter if a pastor is single or married or a widow. Now it would not be good for a divorced pastor to be hired by the congregation even if the divorce was not his fault. He should have made a concerted effort and used discretion in choosing a wife. This single not being good at advising married couples is as bad as people who adopted are not as good as looking after children as people who had their own natural children. It is not true. Some married pastors are bad at giving advise. Besides with single pastors, there are those girls in the congregation who are looking for a god-fearing husband. We already have a pastor and had a long time to get him. There was not that many around. For those congregations who do not have a pastor, they should not pass up any opportunity.
• China
11 Feb 11
I agree that some pastors give bad advice having experianed a few myself. There should be others there to help the pastor Unfortunatly there are too few pastors today so we should appreciate the ones we have
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@suspenseful (40326)
• Canada
11 Feb 11
I know what you mean. It is not easy to go to Seminary school. Not only does a student have to learn the whole Bible, but has to know Latin, Hebrew, and Greek to properly understand it, plus there are the practice sermons,getting in front of a congregation, psychiatry on a Christian scale, etc. And then one has to have the call of God.
• United States
3 Mar 11
I would disagree about not wanting a divorced pastor. I personally knew a pastor whose wife up and left him when their baby was only 6 weeks old. Why? Before getting pregnant, she was beautiful. After she had the baby, she decided that children and married life were not for her. There was no time for trying to reconcile. She left in the middle of the night and went to another part of the country. He was left behind to continue caring for his flock and his baby. That being said, a single pastor has the same problems as a married pastor, when it comes to giving advice and counseling to single women. Sometimes they are enamored with the pastor because he is offering kindness (in words). When I worked as a church secretary, I was asked to stay close by when the pastor had a single woman in his office, so it would never look to be inappropriate. And if he was to council at night, his wife came to the office. It's a shame it has to be that way.
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• Philippines
10 Feb 11
my both pastor is single and i am also single. i would really allow a single pastor to be my pastor. but there is a disadvantage of many single pastor who is still young when it comes to counseling parents or husband and wife. they lack the experience, the knowledge and wisdom and i observed that many of them are not effective when it comes to counseling especially when a husband and wife are in the the point of separation.
• China
11 Feb 11
That is why churches need councillors to help him, just like Moses had
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• United States
11 Feb 11
As Christians, we sometimes demand more than God requires. Is our comfort what the gospel is about? When we start letting God do His job the church will be better off. Worrying about appearance is ok when you are on the street looking for a wife, a husband or companionship. I am a minister in training and just happen to be married but if for some reason a church refuses to let me minister to them because I was single, I would think twice about what this church needs. You know that they are not there to serve God but to please man.
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@ebuscat (5949)
• Philippines
10 Feb 11
For me it is good because he is capable to serve and no hindrance of it specially if he serve the true God Jehovah God.
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• United States
11 Feb 11
Correct! Paul did advocate being single to do the work of God. He wasn't against marriage but saw the benefits of being able to do his work without the concerns of having a wife and family. I am not against married pastors either. What matters to me is if they are good in their work as disciples of God doing what they have been called for in ministering to their congregation.