develop myself

@indahfth (11173)
Indonesia
February 10, 2011 7:16pm CST
I would love to develop myself, in my very limited circumstances. I do not know, how to get started. Because I can not do anything for free. How should I develop myself? Do you want to develop yourself? How do you develop yourself?
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9 responses
@ybong007 (6659)
• Philippines
11 Feb 11
It's easier said than done not unless you have lots of money to spend. What we are is a product of years of molding, we can't just change with a blink with an eye but you can develop yourself by reading books to expand your knowledge.
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@indahfth (11173)
• Indonesia
11 Feb 11
You are right, it's very easy to be spoken, and very difficult to do. I'm just bored with my life, that does not change. I would like to have the opportunity to develop themselves. You have a point, I must read books, to develop my knowledge.
@CJscott (4184)
• Canada
11 Feb 11
Free is easy. First thing, know that your subconscious mind is far more powerful then your conscious mind, and more naive then a child. It will believe anything you tell it, if you tell it enough times. So decide what you want or want to be, and start IMAGINING yourself as that, as vividly as possible. You are what you think about most. If you want help, I would recommend http://30daymentalcleanse.info, as a place to start. Great Forum on personal development. Then, use your library or computer for good and look for - Earl Nightingales the strangest secret, and Anything by Napoleon Hill. There are many options available to you, alls it costs is the time to learn about it, and the will to apply it. No money down. Sincerely and With Appreciation.
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@indahfth (11173)
• Indonesia
12 Feb 11
Thank you, I became much understand how I have to develop myself, with my limited circumstances. Despite the progress that I can be, limited in knowledge. I will try my best to myself.
@carmelanirel (21108)
• United States
11 Feb 11
ybong probably has the best idea for you, to read as many books as you can. As for how I am expanding my knowledge, I am afraid I am fortunate living here in America, because I am eligible for a pell grant where I get some much to attend college. My first quarter I used all but 100.00 towards my classes and book, and got that back in a check which I in turn bought a printer to help with my online classes. This quarter though, my classes and books went over budget, so I had to pay 20.00 for my books. (because the pell always pays for the classes first, then the books)
@indahfth (11173)
• Indonesia
11 Feb 11
I am very limited circumstances, because I can not do anything. my activity only at home, obey and serve my husband. I do not dare to do any activity, without my husband's permission. Maybe I could just do as suggested by ybong, reading a book.
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• United States
11 Feb 11
Or maybe your husband will give you permission to take some classes? You never know unless you ask and I hope you can, because even though I struggle in some subjects, I really am enjoying learning so much..:)
@indahfth (11173)
• Indonesia
11 Feb 11
I often ask permission to my husband, for the course to make a cake, but my husband does not give permission.
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@sql_cell (1429)
• Indonesia
11 Feb 11
the steps are not as difficult as we imagine, it only takes consistency and a willingness to do so. Maybe you can sample, duplicate people more successful than you.
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@indahfth (11173)
• Indonesia
17 Feb 11
But this is not easy for me. You really know how my situation right now. And you certainly will truly understand all my limitations.
@ifa225 (11098)
• Indonesia
17 Feb 11
beyond your limitation- and i believe that many people are being limited too- is the key for you how to turn your weakness to be the strength one. many handicaps which have limited in their body could develop their self and be a success person.
@sql_cell (1429)
• Indonesia
22 Feb 11
@ Indahfth: you will be filled with limitations, if you are always afraid of your husband. He is your husband, not the person who hired you, he's not your boss.
@ifa225 (11098)
• Indonesia
11 Feb 11
Hi Indah, first you have to looked yourself what do you want to change from you. then make a point or step to make it. i want to be more passionate mother, so i am trying to listen what my kids said and try to understand what they want.
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@indahfth (11173)
• Indonesia
17 Feb 11
Actually, very much that I want to change about my life. I would like my life is more developed, do not stop like this constantly. I want to be like other housewives, who can still see her friends, or simply go sightseeing, and much more. During this time, I just spend my life in the home. Maybe I'm a little bored.
@ifa225 (11098)
• Indonesia
17 Feb 11
the strength of a house wife in the eyes of husband is we can get our own money. they would respect us more if we have strength in monetary. maybe you can try to earn more money from home like opening a home business or sell something
@jak2010 (1550)
• Papua New Guinea
16 Feb 11
Develop in what sense, some skills or knowledge or what? like I am trying to develop my skills in acessing internet site with easy and I am still trying. Yes, we need to develop some things like abitlity or skills to stay competitive with young people. I wish you well in your endeavour.
@indahfth (11173)
• Indonesia
16 Feb 11
I want my life to grow in every way. So far I have only been at home, and doing the housework. I want to be like other housewives, who can go out to meet friends or family, or perform other useful activities.
@jak2010 (1550)
• Papua New Guinea
16 Feb 11
Thank you for answering my question, socially or culutrally you are (I guess) restricted. You need to come out. May join groups that you can cope with, and then from there you can progress on. Good luck.
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@indahfth (11173)
• Indonesia
17 Feb 11
this is my problem. I could not leave the house without permission from my husband, and if I ask for permission, it would not be allowed.
@Hatley (149161)
• Garden Grove, California
12 Feb 11
hi I think you do not need a ton of money to develop yourself asyou put it. go to your local library and read and learn. if you have a junior college in your area enlist in the subjects that will expand your mind and stretch your mental abilities.decide what you want to become and work towards s goal always remembering what you really like and aim towards that asyour goal in life.
@indahfth (11173)
• Indonesia
13 Feb 11
My house was very far from the library. I did read a lot of books that I have at home. It really helped me to increase knowledge. But last night I think, is not this self- development as I expected. I want to develop like other housewives, can do whatever they want, even if they have a husband and a son.
@tigeraunt (6331)
• Philippines
12 Feb 11
hi indahfth, read from the internet searches. if u like baking, there are many things you can try from there. but you have to have the oven and other stuff in making the cake. practice is the best teacher or so they say. i hope your husband will open up and not be selfish with this little knowledge you want to venture into. good luck to you. ann
@indahfth (11173)
• Indonesia
13 Feb 11
Unfortunately, I do not have any tools to make the cake. Besides, I do not have the money to buy materials to make a cake. Because spending money given by my husband is limited.
• Indonesia
11 Feb 11
Limited circumstances... more specific....? Me, I'm improved myself by reading, doing and interact with people around me, look for their commentary and their reaction for improvement that I've made. You know the best for you, while your hands are tight up, you can jump up by your feet. Just pick up your tools and gear and use it, wisely.
@indahfth (11173)
• Indonesia
11 Feb 11
space and my activities are very limited. I have only space for my house. and activities of my obedient and devoted to my husband.
@paula27661 (15900)
• Australia
16 Feb 11
If you are unable to enrol in some classes try reading as much as you can. Give yourself a chance to get to know yourself. It is all too easy for women to become focused on taking care of children and husband and forgetting all about themselves to the point where they don’t even know what they like or don’t like anymore. I would take some time to meditate and read as much as possible in order to expand your mind and get to know the wonderful person that you are.