Just when I thought that I was neighbor stress free, annoying neighbor, again!
By cream97
@cream97 (29087)
United States
February 13, 2011 10:25am CST
I had not been staying in my new place but a month, and my neighbor has become so darn annoying!! He has not stopped himself from coming by so much. He has asked us for some ant spray, some sugar. He has asked my husband to use his cell phone. His wife has asked me to use my cell phone. He has came over and asked for our phone book, which he did not return until a month later. When he borrowed it, he said that he would bring it right back, but he did not. I now have been living here for about 4 months now. This guy is so annoying! Every time that he gets a new ride, he makes it his business to ride over to our place just so he can make himself known. It is like he wants our attention so badly. Doesn't he realizes that his new whip does not impress me or my husband in the least way?? He has came over to our place around 11 pm at night once. I thought that he was drunk since he came over this late. He also came by one time after Thanksgiving, early in the morning when we all were asleep. I was so exhausted that day. Me and my husband spent the day before Thanksgiving preparing and cooking dinner on the day that he popped up. I have gotten so tired of it until I told him about it. I firmly and politely told him that he can't be just coming by when he feels like it. He has to learn to respect my home and marriage. I just am not the type of woman to just be letting a man run in and out of my house whenever he pleases, especially if he is practically a stranger. I am so uncomfortable, I don't trust him at all. I never will. One time he knocked on my back door. He wanted to know if my husband was home. I told him that he was not home. I did not open the door for him at all. He did not even knock on my front door which I found to be quite strange. The mobile home that he was staying in faces the front of the back of our trailer. But that still gives him no reason to not walk around and knock on our front door. I find this guy to be an odd ball. My intuition is strongly constantly telling me to stay clear from him and his wife. And I forever will. I don't know what is up with this guy, but my gut is saying it is not good.
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8 responses
@celticeagle (159359)
• Boise, Idaho
13 Feb 11
Some people are just very needy. And I think sometimes some people want to be friendly and are not sure how to be. I feel that it is so easy to get into to a mess with people just by being nice. You don't know how people are going to be and you want to be nice and then it get way out of hand. I think that sometimes we really need to be honest and straight forward with people. Hey, this isn't a good time for me, etc. may seem alittle rude but oh well. Life goes on and sometimes you really have to put people in their place or have an awful time if you don't. I really think a person needs to go with their gut instincts too.
@cream97 (29087)
• United States
27 Feb 11
Hi. gabs8513. You are right! I was told this by another myLotter too. I will do this from now on. He tries to act like he is trying to reach my husband, but he is up to no good at the same time too. He has to understand, that I am much smarter than he thinks that I am.
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@mermaidivy (15395)
• United States
14 Feb 11
I have a very very annoying neighbor as well. Couple punk kids moved in recently and they play loud music all days and nights, would not give it a break until after mid night or later... it is driving me up to a wall...
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@bounce58 (17387)
• Canada
16 Feb 11
Even I, just reading your post, am getting annoyed with your neighbor. I am also getting the feeling that he(and his wife) is up to no good. His knocking at the back door seem very suspicious.
I hope you be careful. I know that you are the new comers, and that you have to be polite and everything, but not if they are acting this way.
@Ladyslipper (1327)
• Philippines
2 Mar 11
That's really scary. If I'm in your situation I'd do the same thing. I would stay away from him and his wife. I have this special sense that I consider a gift. The first time I meet a person and I feel bad about her/ him I already know that they just mean trouble. My intuition has never failed me yet. If I have a neighbor like that I'd not feel safe and will not be able to sleep in peace at night. I hope everything turns out well for you and your family in your new home. Wishing you all the best and nice day always...
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@katie0 (5203)
• Japan
14 Feb 11
How horrible. I had my share of terrible neighbours. Do you believe in the loa? (Law of Attraction). What I did was first to imagine my self without the neighbour, after a while I was believing that I was already without them, like going out and the apartament was empty. Guess what? It happened and it was good to everybody, I actually was the one that moved to a big home with my love.
I think that when we think about someone annoying that's when we keep calling them to our lives. I get rid of people this way all the time, it's not magic, it's just something we didn't know it worked yet.
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@moondancer (7433)
• United States
14 Feb 11
Cream from experience I have learned to always listen to my intuition and my gut. no pun intended no joke... if you have a feeling not to trust this guy, DON"T trust him. If he has a lady then ask him to have her come over to request anything they made need, like sugar or flour or anything else. I think it's odd in this day and age for anyone to come over and ask for anything.
In the old days neighbors use to do that but only because we knew each other for years and went to church together and talked across the yard everyday.
It is just not proper for a man to come to a home when the husband is not home.
Also next time he comes over. Don't tell him your husband is not home. Or don't let him know if you are alone. He may already think or may think he knows you are.
But you could kind of trick him and call back as if you are talking to someone and say...
"It's the neighbor, He wants..... I'll be right back there in a minute, Joan!" Then he will think you are not alone.
I would not let my guard down around this man. DO not open the door to him, even a tiny bit. He could force it open the rest of the way.
I know he asked if your husband was home and you told him no, but add to that...but he is suppose to be home real soon. Make sure to let your husband know what you think about the man, so he knows your fears so that if anything happens or just to be on the safe side...if he feels funny about anything he will listen to that voice in him and he will call and come home too.
Trust your feelings, always trust them.
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@classicalgeek (185)
• United States
13 Feb 11
I could understand the first few days, before he got all unpacked. But this seems like it is going on too long. (As for your husband being home, he could have wanted his help on some "man" project.) You must set boundaries with people, though.
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