Annulment

India
February 15, 2011 6:18am CST
Last night hubby was talking to our god daughter in Manila, Philippnes. She said, her hubby left her and staying with another woman for last 5 years. He does not support the family, though they have a daughter 15 years young and son 13 years young. She is going to get annulment, that would cost her 90 thousand Philippens peso. I was astonished to hear they have no 'divorce' in that country. The female to male ratio is high. The male leave wife after marriage and live with another. I wonder how a person can do this, this is sin. [b]From where she will get this huge amount now, as a woman i feel so sad. What is your opinion? Your country has provisions for divorce or annulment?[/b]alyani
9 responses
@Hatley (152027)
• Garden Grove, California
22 Oct 12
hi kalyni thats so sad. and so expensive, I did not know that the] Philippines had no divorce. You are right , her husband is living in sin.For five years too.that's horrid indeed. Here in the US we do have provisions for divorce fairly cheap but to me sadly these modern young ones just live together,.to me thats sinful but they d do not see it that wa y. When we g ot married w e meant our wedding vows and we were married 33 years.Now he must not be much of a man as he is not supporting his own children, I am sad for her too. I have no idea where she can ge t t hat much money I wonder what that is in American Dollars?
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@Hatley (152027)
• Garden Grove, California
22 Oct 12
hi again oh my word thats over 7,000 dollars in A merican money which is really expensive. divorces here do not cost that much. that is sad Kalyni indeed. how will she c ope?
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• India
3 Nov 12
Mommy I am aware of guys and girls living together in your country, they have kids, but yet not married; wonder Here too many are doing this They say they are modern.
• China
16 Feb 11
I am surprised at what you said.It is inconceivable that there is no divorce in Philippnes and I have never heard of it before.The male has extramarital affairs,but the female has no right to divorce from him. No matter what extent the gender gap has reached,this approach is inhuman.
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• India
3 Nov 12
Yes there is no provision for divorce You can read the responses by members in that country.. Thanks for response, Sorry for commenting late. Kalyani
• China
3 Nov 12
That's all right!Wish you and professor good health and a long life!
@SIMPLYD (72897)
• Philippines
16 Feb 11
Here in the Philippines, there is no divorce. But you can file for an annulment which will cost you much and will take at least a year and a half before it could be finished. But as to your god daughter's case, if they are Filipinos, she could ask from The Public Attorney's office ( for indigent clients) to help her obligate her husband to give financial support to his 2 children. I hope this helps.
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• India
3 Nov 12
Sister Dina Both of them are from Cebu, hubby adopted the girl during his visit in 2004. Thanks for response, Sorry for commenting late. Kalyani
@SIMPLYD (72897)
• Philippines
4 Nov 12
It's okay Kalyni. It's better late than never as the saying goes. Wow, this was 2 years ago?
@JenInTN (27565)
• United States
16 Feb 11
That is terrible. What a shame that she can't move on with her life. Plus the fact the children are suffering for things. There are certain conditions for each here. Annulments are usually allowed but they have to be very early in the marriage. Very early. Like within 6 weeks or something close. Divorce is a bit more difficult. Most all divorces require the absent parent to pay child support but it depends on the state as to if there is alimony. There is no alimony allowed in the state that I live as far as I know. Most of the time, the assets are also split between the couple. It is quite expensive too.
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• India
3 Nov 12
Thanks for the details in your county and the place where you live. Sorry for commenting late. Kalyani
@margeryann (1853)
• United States
16 Feb 11
That is sad that the dad doesn't have to be responsible for his kids.In the USA they would have to pay for their kids even though some woman take advantage of the situation and take money from their exes and don't report it and still get paid because they give there exes a hard time saying that they need it and sometimes woman lie and say their exes beat them and the kids so they don't have to share the kids only when they want to. They will let the exe's see the kids when they want them too that way and tell them if you want to see your kids more give me more money when the exes are supposed to be paying back the place that is giving the money to the woman. In the USA there is Divorce and annulment. Annulment is only giving if they haven't been married for very long. I'm not sure for how long but it is less then a year and they can't have kids together. If they have kids together they don't even have to be married and have to have a divorce.
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• India
3 Nov 12
Thanks for the wonderful information on divorce and annulment in usa Sorry for commenting late. Kalyani
• United States
16 Feb 11
We have provisions for both. But along the lines of this there are still men who think once their wife reaches a certain age that the wife is then too old for them. My MIL was telling me about someone who once his wife reached 30 he'd divorce them for someone younger. I hope with the money she must raise for this that she can get back child support from him included in this as well.
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• India
3 Nov 12
30 is old age? The man is certainly mad Thanks for response,Sorry for commenting late. Kalyani
@daeckardt (6245)
• United States
15 Feb 11
That is very sad. I am the only member of my family that hasn't been married. I have one brother who has been divorced once (two kids 16 and 19) and his has two other kids that are now with their dad). That divorce was the result of her going out with other men. My youngest sister has been divorced twice. I don't know the details behind that. I think it is sad that a person should have to come up with that kind of money for a divorce or annulment. I think that country is primarily Catholic and they don't allow for divorce, only annulment. I know in America, you can get divorced, but if you are Catholic, you also have to get an annulment to be good in the eyes of the church (at least that's what happened when he wanted to marry his wife who had been divorced before).
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• India
3 Nov 12
Thanks for response with great details, i feel sad. Sorry for commenting late. Kalyani
@louievill (15507)
• Philippines
15 Feb 11
I would like to help but certain data is lacking, are they both Indian citizens living in the country, have they been naturalized citizens or is one of them Filipino and another one Indian? There is no such thing as divorce in the Philippines, only annulment and legal separation and I am not in in the know either about legal fees but you have to be very careful in choosing a legal council. Good luck friend and I hope this link would help http://www.bcphilippineslawyers.com/philippines-divorce-and-annulment/
• India
3 Nov 12
Thanks for response,Sorry for commenting late. Both are from Philippines Kalyani
@johnpillai (2083)
• Germany
15 Feb 11
I don't have enough knowledge in this matter. But here in Germany the Government is always protect the ladies. When a lady came out of her husband with children, the Government give money to her living and give accommodation. But some ladies misuse this help.
• India
3 Nov 12
Misuse of facility is everywhere Thanks for response,Sorry for commenting late. Kalyani