how do you forgive someone for making a really big mistake????????????????

India
February 20, 2011 12:08am CST
can u truly forgive someone who has hurt you emotionally and physically .........can man really forgive,when you love some who has done things to u that has caused u pain why can't you hate them. if God forgive men's can we forgive them
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@1hopefulman (19508)
• Canada
20 Feb 11
Yes, I have forgiven many that have hurt me and some have done it big time. As you know, God wants us to be forgiving. In fact, if we don't forgive others then he won't forgive us. Our receiving forgiveness depends on the fact that we forgive others. And look how many wring things we have done. Matthew 6:12 (New International Version, ©2010) 12 And forgive us our debts, as we also have forgiven our debtors. At time. it's not easy but we have to do it and eventually we are happy to have done it. But just because we have forgiven doesn't mean that we have to be cautious with that person as we must avoid putting ourselves in a situation where they can hurt us again. All the best!
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• India
20 Feb 11
To continue with life we cannot afford to have hangovers, so we forgive: but this may not come right from the heart.The scar remains. To forgive we should try our best to forget, and remember forgiveness will make a better person of us.Making an effort is necessary.
• India
21 Feb 11
thanxs all giving your precious time and thoughts.
@1hopefulman (19508)
• Canada
22 Feb 11
Life has shown us that forgiving is better than harboring resentment. We forgive, we try to forget the hurt we received but we stay alert, as some will just keep on hurting others. Some care little for who they hurt.
@allknowing (55080)
• India
5 Dec 11
I am going through it right now. Someone whose future we had sponsored and who was in our life for well over 9 years, robbed us. It is a serious crime but going by our association with her I feel hesitant to report the matter to the police. But at the same time letting her go does not augur well for society as a whole. I am trying to get through it some other way.
• Philippines
5 Dec 11
To forgive someone who made a big mistake against us may not be easy. But I think we can still be able to forgive if that someone apologizes sincerely. It won't hurt much if we try to give the person a second chance as long as that person will promise not to do the same again. Forgive and forget, that is. It may not be that easy to do especially if the person hurts you so bad, but we can just let time heal the wounds of the past. And when we're ready to, let's just make sure it's never too late.
@grace147 (223)
• Philippines
4 Dec 11
To forgive and forget is the hardest thing to do for a human being to do. It takes a lot of courage to do so and it goes with loving unconditionally. As for me i can forgive in due time and only if he or she is sincere to his or her actions. Everyone deserves a second chance if he or she truly ask for it.
• Philippines
24 Mar 11
Well you can really forgive a person even if how painful it is you can still forgive a person. But the scar is there and it will never be erased but it can be forgotten and instead of painful memories you can start with happy thoughts. You can forgive your men.. I think if you love this person you accept him for who he is. for whatever he had done wrong to you. You still accept him and give him a chance.
• United States
28 Feb 11
I have been hurt on numerous occasions and find it difficult to easily forgive. I do with time forgive but do have to say I do not forget. I do not penalize the person forever, but can say that I am very cautious as to not watch for signs of being taken for granted.
@paula27661 (15900)
• Australia
23 Feb 11
I believe that forgiveness, although not always easy to do, is more for our own peace of mind than the person who has hurt us because to carry anger and resentment is not good for our spirit. I think that practicing the art of forgiveness does not mean condoning what was done to us but it is a way of saying, “I release this incident and I go free…” It is a much happier way to live...
@ifa225 (11098)
• Indonesia
22 Feb 11
it is hard. my father had hurt me emotionally and physically. every time i remember him, it is only pain that i get. well then i am not forcing my self to forgive when i know that i can't even i had push my self. i am not God, i am only human.
@katie0 (5212)
• Japan
21 Feb 11
Sure, to forgive them but in time, it will take a long time. I had a cousin, she had a problem I think and is a b***. She even hit on her sister's boyfriend. She and I were close since childhood and then she hit on my boyfriend. I didn't want for her to do the second time. I think it took 8 years to forgive her, but I have. But is she my friend? No we don't even speak. Why? Because she is not a friend, she can't be, to anyone. Yes we can forgive, just know it takes a looooooooooong time. What doesn't allow us to forgive it's our ego and pride, once we realize there were good things that came out from there and by that I mean: you didn't turn like your enemy for example, wich is already a good thing, then it was a good thing. See the positive of everything surround that happening, did you turn to be stronger? Did you learn more about people?
@irene66 (1671)
• Philippines
21 Feb 11
Forget what she had done to you! That is if you can. but anyway no matter how difficult it is to do it, it can be done. Forgetting is always a way to forgive. You cannot be able to forgive if you always put in your mind what was done to you by someone else. You are right that God forgave men and who are we not to forgive them too!
@toniganzon (39808)
• Philippines
20 Feb 11
It depends on who has hurt me physically and emotionally. If it's my husband who will do that to me, I think time can only tell if i can forgive him but definitely i won't live with him anymore. I can't imagine living with a man who will abuse me physically and emotionally so it's really goodbye for me. However, if a family member has done that to me and somehow i provoke it like it's my brother, i can forgive him for doing that. But it really depends on what the situation is.
@yoyo1198 (3644)
• United States
20 Feb 11
Since I have been deeply hurt by someone who I thought was my friend, I have found it most difficult to forgive. It takes time and some day I will perhaps forgive, but getting there is hard. It has been close to 3 years since the particular incident and I've had no contact with the person. I just try not to think about the betrayal. Perhaps forgiveness will come with time.
@velvet53 (15379)
• Palisade, Colorado
20 Feb 11
Yes I can forgive a person for hurting me. I will not carry the baggage with me of constantly being upset with someone. What is done is done and it is easier and healthier to let it go. Like you said, God forgave, and I can do the same.