Its I am Looks like too ugly...???
By Tushavi
@Tushavi (2077)
Karachi, Pakistan
February 23, 2011 10:50am CST
hi to all
well, I upload my Pictures on avatar, but I am so sad, I guess after I upload My pic on mylot avatar, peoples scared & don't commenting on my post, I am Disappointed again, I know im looks ugly, but its not my fault, guys please face is nothing if someone heart is clear.
have a nice day.
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22 responses
@mermaidivy (15395)
• United States
23 Feb 11
Your avatar has nothing to do with the responses. You create interesting discussions then you can responded. I don't care what other mylotters' avatar are, I just reply to the discussions that I think is interesting.
I think you should get rid of that thought and just focus on the discussions.
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@Porcospino (31366)
• Denmark
23 Feb 11
I don't think that you are ugly and I don't think that there is any connection between your avatar and the lack of responses. There can be a lot of other reasons why you don't get many responses: Maybe few people are able to relate to the topic, maybe you posted the discussion in the wrong category or maybe you posted it when there were relatively few members online (for instanse in the weekend). If you started getting few responses right after you uploaded your avatar it is easy to take it personally and easy to imagine that there is a connection, but I think that is it just a coincidence. Don't worry about your appearance, you are not ugly at all 
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@AKRao24 (27424)
• India
23 Feb 11
Hi Dear Tushavi , I really don't think there is any connection between your Avatar and the responses you are getting for your discussion! I think if your discussions are interesting ones then you are bound to get some good responses and comments! I really don't thing a beautiful face with bad discussion would get many responses for you!
That way there are many people here on this site who upload the Avatar of some famous celebrity, What does it mean? They are not confident about their own identity! At least you are not doing anything like that! You are presenting the way you are and it shows your honesty and truthfulness! There is no fakeness in your approach!
So,please be don't get dishearten and keep on posting some discussions of interest so that you will get maximum responses!All the best! Thanks ! 
That way there are many people here on this site who upload the Avatar of some famous celebrity, What does it mean? They are not confident about their own identity! At least you are not doing anything like that! You are presenting the way you are and it shows your honesty and truthfulness! There is no fakeness in your approach!
So,please be don't get dishearten and keep on posting some discussions of interest so that you will get maximum responses!All the best! Thanks ! 
@dragon54u (31636)
• United States
24 Feb 11
Tushavi, I notice that you read the responses because you marked one a best response. However, you have not commented to a single person, even the one who told you to shave your beard you have not bothered to make it clear to him that you are Muslim and your beard is an important part of your life. How do you expect people to get to know you and want to respond to your discussions if you refuse to interact with them?
There was one of your discussions about feeling the USA has no room for Muslims that I was really looking forward to engaging with you and learning your thoughts to my comments but you never bothered. So why should I bother with your discussions? That's how I feel.
@dragon54u (31636)
• United States
24 Feb 11
I can see why, now, that you don't respond. But it's alright to respond, just don't thank anyone for replies. That's against the rules, just don't say thank you but add other words as you did right now!
Your English is improving, I understand you perfectly!
My country shows us only what they want us to see so I do not know about Muslims being held without reason. There are several groups here that are trying to get at the truth of that fact and several other things. But our communities mostly welcome everyone no matter what race or religion they are. We have our share of crazy people, but every country does.
I'm so glad you decided to "talk"! You also make more money when you give your ideas when someone responds. I hope you'll share more with us in other discussions.
@Tushavi (2077)
• Karachi, Pakistan
24 Feb 11
I am so sorry dragon54u, Yes You are right i reading discussion, but I don't respond any because of old fear??? you know what is it??? When I am newbie here, I do start a policy, I thanked my all commenter, as a result mylot delete my several posts, also i got warning, so I am scared & change my policy, I am so sorry if you feels hurt by me, Yes ur right in Islam You have to having a Beard, but you see in my picture, its not a Beard wats Islam asks me, its just a style I am so sorry, but when I large my beard, I am feeling so shy, because im bad boy, & its very shameful for bad boy to having a large beard & do bad things, so i just trim to stylish one, may god forgive me, Yes I read a lot of news & media, US detains muslims without reason, so im disappointed, in last I am very thankful to you for you Participate in my discussion & learning my thoughts, I Don't think you feels something if i have some old fear??? lol, Sorry for my bad english & broken words, I hope my broken words answer is enough for you, regrads TAB
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@dragon54u (31636)
• United States
23 Feb 11
It is not because of your avatar. You are a handsome man, project a good personality and intelligent mind and you start interesting discussions here.
People may not be replying because you never acknowledge their responses. These topics are supposed to be discussions between you and the other myLotters and after you post the discussion we never hear your feedback, your thoughts on our comments or even agreements with others' opinions. That makes replying to your discussions unrewarding and frustrating.
By the way, I think your English is getting much better.
@sais06 (1284)
• Philippines
23 Feb 11
Hi Tushavi!
Please don't get disappointed. I'm sure it doesn't have to do with your looks. I know that you are not alone with this kind of problem but I guess it's just how you present your ideas in the discussions that you made. I actually tried to look at your profile but unable to see the discussions that you started.
Honestly speaking, you are not ugly because I know what ugly is especially when I look at the mirror.
Have a nice day!
Honestly speaking, you are not ugly because I know what ugly is especially when I look at the mirror.
Have a nice day!1 person likes this
@youless (112123)
• Guangzhou, China
24 Feb 11
Your post is somewhat amusing. I don't think you are ugly. Maybe people just don't get used to see the beard, including me. But perhaps this is your religion. It is nothing wrong to it. Don't be upset, I am sure people won't judge you by your look only. If so, then they are just ignorant.
I love China
@sajuman (1854)
• India
24 Feb 11
what is this yaar...is there any connection between your face and the response..No dear..it has not.It only depend upon your ability to write and get the peoples attention.You got so much response for this discussion..so what is it about.It is only about the peoples mind.You have to catch their attention by posting interesting discussion..hope you enjoy here..may god bless you..
thanks for the dicussion
@savypat (20216)
• United States
24 Feb 11
Your face has nothing to do with why I don't respond to your discussions, I don't respond to the interest. Working on line, making money on line, earning on line hold no interest for me. I looked at the record of your discussions on your profile and it looked to me like your responses are growing. Hang in there, it takes time to learn to use this site and for people to get to know you.
@for3verfamous (2190)
• Canada
25 Feb 11
I don't think it has anything to do with people being scared or thinking you're ugly. People don't get that many picture comments here, we're not exactly Facebook. 
@kh_rabbe (195)
• Bangladesh
24 Feb 11
Hey friend,
Don't be sad. It's not true that you are ugly. I don't know why people compare beautiful and ugly with black and white of skin. It's not good at all. Allah made us like this so it's not our fault.And about you it's not true that you are ugly only for that anyone not commenting in your post. So leave it yar!!!!
@Jonasdk49 (2)
• Denmark
24 Feb 11
you dont look ugly, and i dont think that you picture in any way have connection to that people dont comment you post,
@akangirl (2436)
• India
24 Feb 11
I Don't think uploading your own photo is a bad thing.Before i used to use ashwariya rai's pic in my profile and many people who were not not familiar with her thought it's mine pic so i got comments i am very beautiful.so now i changed profile pic with my own and i never had a problem with people not responding my discussions.If people judge you by looks then they are not really your friends.Now you can easily judge who were your real friends
@macdingolinger (10386)
• United States
24 Feb 11
I don't think it makes any difference about your avatar! I don't pay a lot of attention to the avatar although I do like to see who I having a discussion with. But I know most people don't like to put thier real picture up there.. don't know why either. But I don't think you are ugly...
@voldrox (7191)
• India
24 Feb 11
Hi Tushavi,
I have gone through your other discussions, but hey there is no connection between your avatar and your discussions, coz people don't respond to other by looking at their profile. Just start interesting discussions and respond to them too, i don't see why others would not respond to your discussions. Good day. 
@jujunme (2501)
• United States
23 Feb 11
What a terrible way to describe yourself, you are not ugly and should never refer to yourself as this. Your avatar has little or no affect on how many responses you may receive. People respond to discussions because they're interested in the topic and how it may apply to thier real lfe experiences, or if they feel they know enough about the subject to give a quality response. I may notice an avatar, while i'm "already"responding to a discussion, but, it has nothing to do as to why i respond in the first place.
@Kate34 (656)
• France
23 Feb 11
Your not ugly and if you think you are your just being negative and you don't even have to put up an avatar if ya don't want too. Their not scared you don't know maybe your topics don't interest them just don't jump to conclusins and have fun on mylot and don't think about being ugly but handsome and interesting topics.
@LaLaNoShade (45)
• United States
24 Feb 11
Don't worry about what other people think! You have to build confidence within yourself. You can't let things get to you as easily. Be good to yourself and others will have no choice but to be good to you as well. Keep your head up and keep moving forward.
