Why do some woman agree to be the other woman?

Hello Sweet_pea, I wouldn't necessarily blame the women, but the married men. If they promised to be faithful to a woman, they must keep their promise. Many men don't tell to "the other woman" that they are married or that they already are involved in a serious relationship. In many cases they lie about their relationship, telling the girls that their marriage is over and they already started the divorce and so on and so forth.

It is hard to pin-pint an exact why. What I do know is that when the woman immediately finds out that the man is married she needs to resist the temptation to continue. There is no worse thing in life when women turn on each other. They should have enough respect to understand that the man is a married and if he strays with her he will most likely stray again. There is no worse thing then women turning on each other. Although the heart may already be involved a respectable woman should not intentionally hurt another by proceeding with the married or taken man. What she needs to remember is that this could be her situation one day and it will not be a pleasant one. I do know this feeling well and have never understood when a women knowingly knows that a man is taken that she proceeds with any form of relationship with the man. As women we need to stick together and stand up for what is right, meaning not allow a man to do this to any woman, but so as long as the other woman is willing the men who do this are more then happy to oblige.

hello, This is a question that remains unanswered in my mind. "why women wants to be the other woman" why can't they find single men for them. Now,since i do not know the answer,one thing i knew is those women are "homewrecker" And men,married men who keeps cheating their wives are "crooks" Whatever..that's my opinion.

Actually there are so many ways why woman agree of being other woman or they attracted to married man. Being a victim, yes sometimes women are victims of those guys pretending as a single. Woman attracted becuase they are thinking some guys are responsible and good lover, and no choice from previous wrong decision... a few mistake of some woman... see you around

I am amazed to know of what you said.It is really what is called "Truth is stranger than fiction."I think that those women who does so are either hunting for novelty or abnormal psychology.

Perhaps these women who get attracted to married men find the idea very challenging. I think they feel a sense of achievement if they become successful in seducing a married man from his wife. Moreover, married men perhaps give these women an assurance that they are attracted to a straight man.

I was the other woman for seven years. I met Tim (not his real name) at work, and we became friends. I was married back then (marriage was rocky then) so other than finding him attractive, I did nothing. After about three, three and a half years we began flirting. Both of us were natural cliffs so it seemed harmless. Then he gave a story about how his son Chuck (not his real name) wanted to meet the girl who sold him the Girl Scout cookies (my daughter). I didn't think anything of it, so I agreed. It was harmless, just two kids that were meeting for the first time. Tim and I let them explore the museum while he and I chatted. Later my daughter and I arrived home and my husband threw a fit, telling me that he was leaving in six weeks. Ok whatever--nothing had happened between Tim and me anyway but my husband was paranoid. The next time I saw Tim alone at work, he asked how my daughter was doing. I told him how much fun she had, then I confided what my husband told me. (I requested a divorce five and a half years earlier). Tim said he was sorry to hear, then left to do some work. Later he came back and told me how he 'wanted to get to know' me better, but said he didn't want trouble with my husband and wanted to wait to take me out alone until my husband was out of the house. And we waited. Now Tim had (as he termed) a roommate and friend named Monica (not her name)--and I figured maybe they were only friends. But it hurt that Tim so rarely wanted to spend time with me--it seemed that I was more of an 'appointment' than a girlfriend. And as time went on, I began to piece some things together. He had a quick excuse for everything, and I (sadly) believed him. I fell in love for the first time in my life, so I wanted to believe him. But about five months ago, I had had enough and decided to break it off. It was his birthday that Friday and since he usually called on Fridays, I was just going to wish him a Happy Birthday and make arrangements to see him the following day, when I planned to break it off. He didn't call and because I have some pride, I didn't call back. But when a full week went by and he hadn't called, I realized he ran away. It had become painfully obvious to me that I was just the 'other woman' all those years (seven), and while I'm embarassed that it went on that long, I realize that it was as much his fault as mine. I know the signs now and won't be so stupid in the future.

What do married men have that single man don't? A Wife. Many women are like me, I don't want to marry But I do want love. To me marriage is not a happy state. Since I was 13 , I preferred to be a mistress than a wife. To me, a wife Has to nag a man to do things , while as a mistress , you just ask. Wives Have to have babies , mostly, I Never want children. But the main thing is if I marry , I would have to change , to be a mistress, All I have to do is be myself! Yes I can do this with a single man Just as long he Never wants to marry. Like I told my guy , I will never marry him so if he Wants a wife , go find one!

Sweet-Pea, it takes two to tango as the saying goes. Since you ask the question about "why some women do it" I will stick to that and not discuss the men part of the issue. SOme women do it because they can get from the other man what they can't get from their boyfriends, spouses or causal dates in their life. The man they are after may be married, but sometimes he too may be treating the other woman better than his wife, even though he knows that he can't have her or is not willing to leave his wife for her. Some woman, are content with being the other woman in a married man life because they believe the relaitonship is better that way and feel that they can meet his needs better than his wife can...(sometimes because of religious views, the man can't divorce his wife, or do not want to divorce because of the kids still at home) So it is a broad subject and sometimes it is just the way life us!!

For some it may be that the other woman didnt know he was married. The male population are very good lairs too.

Hi sweet_pea. This is my observation. Here where I live the ratio of men to women is around 6.7 women to 1 men... It's a matter of best women wins when it comes to getting the men... We have now what they call penkid....I don't know what are they but from what I hear they are women having relation with women ...is it due to the ratio ...I don't have the stat... Married men are kind of secure and stable...and some of them are still naughty :)

Sweet, I will not tackle the other scenarios anymore. But I have a friend that always tends to have a relationship w/ married men, I think this is actually her preference. I am not really sure why, I do not have the guts to ask her. But if it is not, then why? It maybe because they want a thrilling and exciting relationship, I dont know. Just my two cents.