what is your fullfillment in turning your back to your career
March 12, 2011 4:27am CST
I was a working mom, until i decided to just stay at home and be with my kids. I have a 17 year old son and a 5yo. Everyday,I religiously follow my routines which at the end of the day is rewarded of being exhausted, benefiting of no pay, no overtime pay,and no vacation leave and aside from that demoted from being a supervisor to a but very well organized maid. I know I am intelligent but since I don't read anymore,I flank to just thinking of what business should I start but that did not work because I am not inclined to it. Am I getting too depressed because it was not my choice to resign but my husband's. I got so many things everyday I do miss, the waiting of the 15th/30th salary,company outing-anniversary,business gatherings,etc. How about,do you have that guts to leave your job and face a heroic job?
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13 Mar 11
I worked in the corporate world for 10 years before becoming a stay-at-home-mom when my son was born 7 years ago. I didn't really have a choice, due to an injury that just kept getting worse and worse, but I still missed work and the socialization. I used to get a little depressed about no longer feeling "important" and I have to admit that I really did miss the pay. A working mom pointed out to me something that really stuck to my mind and it helps me on those days where I'm feeling just a bit of melancholy... she said that becoming a stay-at-home-mom is not a step down to being a maid or a cook, but a step up to being one of the most important people in your kids lives. My friend said that she would love to be able to quit her job and stay home with her kids. I have had the opportunity to work on one of the most important projects in my life - to make sure I raise my kid to become a decent adult. I would rather do this job myself than have a baby sitter, nanny or day care worker do it. I would rather do this job from the time I wake up in the morning until I go to bed. If it includes doing some cleaning and a bit of cooking, that's okay. I know that my child eats properly and healthy. He is responsible for picking up after himself and learning to be clean. He can depend on me to help him on his homework, then we can reward ourselves by playing a couple board games or reading another chapter in his book. we cuddle while watching a bit of cartoons and we talk while he helps me with dinner. How can you do this kind of interaction with your kids when you only spend a couple hours with them after working all day if you were a working mom? I find myself very lucky to be a stay-at-home-mom. Yes, I do miss the extra money - or having any money, but my son is worth it. We don't eat out as much as we used to or go to the movies as often, but my son will not remember the toys he had as much as the stories and times that we spend together during these very important early years. So, to answer your question... do I have the guts to leave my job? Yes, I certainly do. Even if I were not already injured, I think I'd do still do it all over again. It is not a scrifice to become a stay-at-home-mom, but a privilege.
12 Mar 11
Interesting. I think it is a rare triumph over the ego ... The ego might tell us to put our selves on the center and tell the other members of the family that we need to do something else. If all can do as you did, to give totally of you self .. I guess this world would be a much better place :) What do you think ?