You will lend money to your best friend?

China
March 15, 2011 6:16am CST
As me know,the best friend you have ,you should not relate money issues with them.cos sometimes money is a bad thing to hurt friendship.But if you best friend have trouble,for example,economic difficulties,you have to lend money to her or him.so how would you do ?you will lend money to your best friend?
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30 responses
@alottodo (3061)
• Australia
16 Mar 11
I alway say this...because of past experience...once you lend money to a friend you will lose both... your friend and your money...I prefer to give it as a gift! that way if my friend pay me back! good...and if is not then I was not expecting it anyway! but I would make sure in the future this situation would not arise again.
@daeckardt (6245)
• United States
16 Mar 11
That is very wise of you. I usually don't expect to get back what I have given now. In the past I didn't have that attitude and it would upset me when people didn't pay me back. Great response!
@alottodo (3061)
• Australia
16 Mar 11
Thank you!
@thatgirl13 (7307)
• South Korea
15 Mar 11
Actually lending and borrowing money are the two things I never would want to do with friends. I think because of this money issues the friendship starts getting awkward and slowly start to drift apart. But if my best friend really needed that money I guess I'd give it to her. I can't say No to her
• United States
15 Mar 11
My point exactly money and friendships do not blend well. My thinking is that if we care enough for a person and we had enough to give, it would be nice to see the money back but on the other hand we should consider it a gift unless of course the person decides to hurt us in some way.
@lilaclady (28240)
• Australia
15 Mar 11
yes money can ruin a friendship that is for sure but I like you think if your friend is in trouble and you are able to help well thats what friends are for...but there is a way of looking at it...give it to help but never give if you yourself can not afford it and don't stress too much if you don't get it back if your friendship is important...
@Cherish14 (2695)
• Philippines
15 Mar 11
i agree with you. i have friends whom i tried to help because they were down, but now that they have money, they forgot about me now. it is funny yet annoying lol :)
@dismalgrin (2548)
• United States
23 Mar 11
No for more than one reason. 1. Best friends never pay the money back because they figure that as a friend you won't be on them all the time to pay it back. 2. There are other ways to help a friend in need. If my friend needed someone to watch their children for them so they could go and earn the money themselves, I would do that because it is a kind thing to do and I wouldn't expect any payment for my help. 3. I'm very poor myself so if for some reason I did have the money it would already have things that it needed to be spent on.
@raj7shot (842)
• India
20 Mar 11
Money is not important than my friends.I had/will lend money to my friends.
@pokumon (647)
• United States
16 Mar 11
Yes, I would lend money to my best friend. I couldn't give much because I don't have that much to begin with, but I trust that they would pay me back.
@Ladysu (25)
• China
16 Mar 11
Yes,I will.This is the normally practice in our country.
@ifa225 (11098)
• Indonesia
16 Mar 11
if he/ she is my best friend, then she/he must be understand that i need the money. maybe i won't ask to lend some money but prefer to ask him/her if i can do some jobs so i can be paid
@Ladysu (25)
• China
16 Mar 11
Yes,I will.It's the practice in my country.Everyone should lend money to his or her friend.Though there always have some examples that someone will never return the money,I think that's a way to test my friend.
16 Mar 11
If you ever see a friend in trouble then you may offer to lend them money or they may ask, then when they fail to pay back this causes huge tensions in your friendship. Money truely is the root of all eveil, it causes so many problems and arguements. If i had a friend that could not get by then i would help them to find ways of making changes, to lend them money is stupid as if they can't get by then you can't get the money back. It would be far better to work out if any changes could be made to the way they spend there money. We don't want to lend money not get it back and not only do we lose the money we lent out but also we could lose a possible friendship. No matter how bad times are, lending money is not the answer and how can they pay it back if they have no money to pay back, also what if you need the money back and they don't have it? It seriously is not worth the hassle it brings.
@Jlyn10 (10913)
• Malaysia
16 Mar 11
Yes, I would. If I have the money to lend her, I don't see why not. Who knows? Maybe one day we may need her to lend us the money in return.
@daeckardt (6245)
• United States
16 Mar 11
I would be more likely to give them what they need than to give them cash. If they need food, I would buy food. I wouldn't expect to get anything back. I have been in that condition and others have given to me. Many people will help people and insist that they don't need to be repaid (I am going through that kind of situation myself right now) and some only want to get back what was lent. I would be more likely to tell the person (whether it be best friend or mere acquaintance) that when they can do something for someone else that would be payment enough for me.
@derek_a (10902)
16 Mar 11
I would lend money to my best friend, because I know he would repay it. But there are many people who are never lend money to because in the past, I have never been re-paid. I rarely borrow myself, but when I have in the past, I have always paid it back. I feel that is very important otherwise friendships can be so easily lost. _Derek
@surekharathi (14134)
• India
16 Mar 11
First I never make best friend because now a days no one can make your best friend all friends are selfish or fraud. Second if this happend then never paid money to my best friend because recently I heard one incidence my cousin brother paid his best friend from third party 600,000 Lakhs Rs. without documents only by mouth and when they gone there after one month and say return money then he said which money I have no money and what time I was taken. So my brother is worried and shocked about this incident because no documents sign by him. He tell me sister how can bear this loss he was best friend and good party also but he is lossed in business and now he is telling me no I not taken any money. So this is second time I heard first time this incident was occured with me in my college life. So no help anybody even my best friends also
• China
16 Mar 11
money can indeed hurt friendship..i have some bad experiences. 5 years ago if friends borrow money from me,i was not hesitate to do it.but it is sad they hardly return the money to me! what's more,i was hard to open mouth to ask them to do it.until now the several thousand ammount money is not available. now what i only do is that i don't lend to anyone any more. dear friends,what about will you do if your money cannot be returned?
@sweet_pea (3326)
• Philippines
16 Mar 11
Hi Lynn! Welcome to Mylot! Yes I will if I have extra money to lend her. But if I am also not able, maybe I can help her find someone to lend her one.
• United States
15 Mar 11
Hi lynn00726 and welcome to myLot! Money and friends do not mix. If we loan out money to anyone we must always consider it money we had as extra because to try and collect will ruin a friendship. So as a general rule I do not borrow money from anyone and since I have none to spare I prefer not to loan any out.
• Canada
15 Mar 11
you shouldn't do that because you could have a fight and and your friend won't give back the money he or she owes you.
• United States
15 Mar 11
Yes, we have all seen or heard of situations where lending money to a close friend goes bad. It even goes to the lengths of even destroying years and years of friendship. Anytime we have dealings with money, its a sensitive subject. Everyone needs and wants it. You brought up a great point about our still current economic difficulties in which placed many in rough spots in life. Lending money should always be to someone you are close to or in your family.My honest opinion about lending money to best friend and family is if you have it to spare giving your financial situation, help out and when you help out,don't expect it back right away. The person you lend money to is a person that could and should help out in your time of need. I may sound confusing explaining this but I went through it so many times and it can get to be too much where your like, okay, if you give out money, you actually just pretty much gave the money to your loved one. If you expect it back and dont get it back, thats where feelings are hurt and friendships or relationships are at a crossroads, all because of you'd think i'd say "money" but it's actually all because we that lend the money didn't have it to spare giving our financial situation. However, lending money can turn out good as well. Not all situations have to come crashing. We can easily develop partners for borrowing money for those rough times if we help them out and they help us out and as long as we view it that way, we will always know that there's someone you can depend on if needed.
• United States
15 Mar 11
It really depends on which friend. Some are close, some are not. I`d lend to the ones I consider family. No problems.