I'm not having some lazy musician crashing on my couch!!!

@uath13 (8207)
United States
March 18, 2011 9:50am CST
For those who haven't read some of my other posts, my oldest daughter is presently away at college. Her boyfriend still live around here & he's... well...a musician...A TEENAGE MUSICIAN at that. Don't get me wrong, I like the guy. He's just... lazy & not really inept but... I don't know, unskilled. A few weeks back my wife got a call from him wondering if he could use our AAA tow. Apparently he'd had a flat, changed the tire on it improperly & the tire had literally ripped itself off the lugs. How could you not notice a tire wobbeling THAT much? He then proceded to drive it around the corner & up the road ON THE AXIL!. I spent the rest of the day down there getting his tire & rotors repaired well enough for the truck to be drivable.... SHesh. My wife & I got him a job ( hard to come by around here ) where we worked that pays $9.50 an hour plus over an extra hundred a week bonus easy & he lost it. Not because the job was particularly hard but because he wasn't motivated enough to keep up the pace required. UGG... The most recent event, my daughter calls me. Apparently this guys mother is selling the house she'd been letting him live in ( she still gives him an allowence too )& he was having to live with his grandmother. He needed some "time away" so he could get ready to get out & look for another job. I told her, "Sure, he can stay. I have plenty around here he can do to earn his room & board." That killed that idea real fast... Apparently he needed some "REST" so he could go find work. Rest from what? Thankfully I don't have a musician sleeping on my couch, unfortunantly it seems my daughter might end up supporting him if things keep up like this.
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• United States
18 Mar 11
YIKES!!!! I would NOT want my daughter wasting time with this guy. The whole job thing: He should have felt very fortunate to have a job!!! I do not know what you can do. Your daughter probably isn't going to see what you see for awhile but maybe (before she wastes too much time on him) she will see he is too lazy to be a real partner.
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@uath13 (8207)
• United States
18 Mar 11
Yea, I already know that if I try to point it out it will just backfire on me. Of course my daughter is a whole different story... There's gona be some serious reality checks coming real soon.
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@ElicBxn (60895)
• United States
21 Mar 11
boy friends are all well and good until you find yourself supporting one while he's "looking" for a job...
@uath13 (8207)
• United States
21 Mar 11
& complaining because his mother won't buy the amp he needs or fix the truck....
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@uath13 (8207)
• United States
21 Mar 11
forgot to put the quotes around "NEEDS".
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@ElicBxn (60895)
• United States
21 Mar 11
Yep, I know the type
@dragon54u (31636)
• United States
18 Mar 11
You got my back up at first with the musician remarks, I'm quite fond of guitar players and at one time played fairly well myself. But as I read on, I could see the reasons for your attitude. That little boy needs a good swift kick of reality!! Sounds like he's been babied all his life and never had to try hard for anything, he's been ruined. It's not too late, though. He needs a hard fall and a taste of desperation, then perhaps there will be some hope for him. Tell me...is he a drummer?
@dragon54u (31636)
• United States
18 Mar 11
Yeah, my sibs and I used to help baling hay and putting it up in the barn, working in the garden and picking corn, etc. I hating slopping out the stalls for the cattle, the very worst job! My parents are from farming stock so all us kids got a taste of reality early on. I have a friend who plays the guitar better than most, he can blow away most people. Down on his luck, he works every job he can get no matter what it is as long as it's legal. He busks on down days and makes a few dollars. We need more people like him to set an example.
@uath13 (8207)
• United States
18 Mar 11
I think we've lost a lot because kids no longer have to do stuff like we did. They think sitting behind a desk for a few hours while a teacher talks to them & all they really have to do is pay attention is hard WORK. I'd have considered that a break! "Wait...you want me to sit? Just sit...here...& listen? I don't have to be lifting anything? There's no chance I could fall & break my neck, or get trampled by an angry bull?" Woohoo
@djbtol (5498)
• United States
19 Mar 11
I understand that he needs to start landing some income. But in the meantime, at least he is not sleeping with your daughter.
@uath13 (8207)
• United States
19 Mar 11
Not even possible, she's several hours away at college.
@djbtol (5498)
• United States
19 Mar 11
That's my point. Makes for excellent self control.