Stuck In No Where

@remo86 (252)
Egypt
March 29, 2011 3:58pm CST
I have to important curves in my life till now: First curve, when i travelled to my country Egypt and studied there in collage,at that time my daddy was with me .Those days with happiness and sadness times were my best days and i got alot of good and faithful friends .Also was so close to my cousin and big family. Second curve,after graduation i came back to Kuwait to live with my family and work here But my parents put many rules in way that effecting on my life and badly making my social life very tiny and small because they mostly prevent me to hang out with friends,and even i meet my two friends here rarely because of many limitation.I'm single for two years and i don't have the space to me anyone .I'm working in place with very conservative and silly environment ,people where are totally different from me.Even i lost my interest in the course that i paid for learning web design and can't think to create anything. Ending, i'm so disappointed,sad and become so sensitive easy to cry. I don't like my life style. I need huge Help.
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@daeckardt (6245)
• United States
29 Mar 11
I don't know if this means you actually live with your family or if you have a place of your own. If you live in your family home, it might be useful for you to venture out and get a place of your own. Your family might look down on this action, but you need to think about your survival. You might "live", but it is little more than an existence. In order to really LIVE, you need to be in control of your own life and making your own decisions. I'm sure that if you felt more in control that the sadness would lift. How hard would it be to move into another place? I won't say totally disconnect from your family, but be far enough away that they know that they can't treat you like a baby. If you are able to work and support yourself, you should be allowed to make your own decisions. Good luck!
@remo86 (252)
• Egypt
29 Mar 11
I'm living with my family in same home but i can't move out because these is against our culture as arabs .Some i'm stuck at this point,my parent like to control everything and give themselves right even to take decision related to my future intend of let me get it. But to declare it for you not all arabs parent like that ,just my family are so care about and consider me as baby but baby forever. I'm 24 yrs and i'm working so so baby:S
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@daeckardt (6245)
• United States
30 Mar 11
I wish I could make it all better. I guess you can either break tradition so that you can be happy or you can continue to be miserable. I don't know what to suggest to solve that problem. If you were to stay in your current situation, you would keep your family happy, but would you be living? Being unhappy is not a good thing in life. Obviously this doesn't matter to your family. Try to do what is good for you so that you can be happy. Good luck!
@remo86 (252)
• Egypt
31 Mar 11
Yeah plz wish me good luck,because moving out is not easy step,it needs huge huge effort to face all Objection.
@mythociate (15963)
• Oklahoma City, Oklahoma
4 Apr 11
HAVE FAITH IN GOD! that He needs you to become whatever he wants you to become FROM wherever you are. That's what I hate about most people's picture of heaven---they think it's some far-away, impossible place, while it's really wherever you put it. Have a friend invite you out. Do something big that will make your parents trust you. (What? I don't know, what can you do?) Most of all, HAVE FAITH IN GOD!
@remo86 (252)
• Egypt
5 Apr 11
I didn't do any bad thing that made my parent didn't trust me ,But their answer always that life is wild and we can't trust people outside :S:S "Suck answer:@"
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@mythociate (15963)
• Oklahoma City, Oklahoma
5 Apr 11
Do your parents have any goals in mind for you? Sit down and talk about that with them. And while you're there, discuss how 'going out with your friends' might help you accomplish that goal better. What goals DO they have in mind for you?
@SomeCowgirl (32266)
• United States
30 Mar 11
I am so sorry that you are always stuck at home or working. I am not sure if its' your culture or just finances that are preventing you from getting out but I really hope that you will be able to break free and have a social life soon. I hope I have not offended you in anyway and I may still offend you, please forgive me for what I'm about to say if it offends you. It seems to me that you need to work on getting your own place so that you can have a social life with friends instead of having to just go to work and come home. It seems you seriously need to just get out of the house and have fun and so I hope you are able to figre out a way to do that soon.
@remo86 (252)
• Egypt
31 Mar 11
hello SCG :) from along time i didn't talk with you..i'm lolyz :D and sure no offend my dear..my culture :S not financing. Yes i neeed friends i need social life
@Monkeyrose (2850)
• Canada
30 Mar 11
This sounds like an opportunity for you. When you don't like your life its time to change it. See what you can do. What are your options for change? You could make small changes to your enviroment or you could make big changes and move to another country. Maybe get your own place close to home. This way you can be near your family but you can also have space to yourself.
@remo86 (252)
• Egypt
31 Mar 11
I'm reading what you wrote..thinking alot And i feel that is good time for change
• Malaysia
30 Mar 11
hi there, i always stuck in my country only where i can't go anywhere else.
@remo86 (252)
• Egypt
30 Mar 11
helllo :) and what is your country ???
@dismalgrin (2602)
• United States
30 Mar 11
Web design is an awesome thing to study. I wish that I could have continued in my studies, but I had no patience for it at that time of my life. I have been in your shoes. My parents also thought that it was perfectly acceptable for them to control me as an adult in life. My mother ended up kicking me out on the streets and only called to ask me to do stuff for her. I ended up in a homeless shelter for three months. It was so depressing. But, now I've found my own place... I have not gotten a job in my field of study yet, but I hope to someday soon. I'm able to make my payments on my apartment right now, but it is very tight and I still have so much that I need to take care of to make life more comfortable. You have to use every road block in life as a stepping stone to spring yourself forward into the life you want to lead. My thoughts do go to you right now, though. I hope that you will be able to find some happiness and some get what you need to do done to be in a place where you feel more comfortable with where your life is going.
@remo86 (252)
• Egypt
30 Mar 11
Yes i like to design too much ..i can spend hours with it and i hope to go to study for year in graphics field to be more specialist. I'm praying for any good chance come to me and move me to better
@xien2xien (1383)
• Philippines
30 Mar 11
if you don't like the way you're living your life there why don't you come back to egypt where you live happy with your dad and cousins.. plus how old are you? why does anybody needs to control you're life? and i don't know who exactly is controlling your life... though i pity you're situation cause my parents let me live the life i've wanted they were both very supporting and loving
@remo86 (252)
• Egypt
30 Mar 11
i'm 24 years girl so i'm not baby ..but my parents like to treat me as baby too much care and too much interest :(.i hope to come back to Egypt or even get any chance to travel for study out alone.But now is not prefect time to go back Egypt because of political issues .i'm waiting my mama to be retired then we all can come back .by the way my dada is here with me in Kuwait
@lakshmi11 (279)
• United States
29 Mar 11
Hey remo86, You are not the only person stuck with conservative and silly environment issues. Everyone has some kind of issue like that. Nearly everyone grows up with family telling them about the do's and don'ts of their culture and family. And most everyone has the choice of freeing themselves from it. Your feelings and thoughts of being stuck and your thoughts being: I don't like my life style- are holding you in a place of negativity. Science shows that if you change your thoughts you also change things around you. Try to find things you are grateful for, go through your day finding all the things you really, really love. Think about what you really want and make this picture in your head truly wonderful. Dream as realistically as you can how your situation is about to change to something you love. Try to change one little thing after the other this way. - Thinking positive about it and making the affirmation that all will be well and you will get what you really want.- You will feel better and your situation will change too.
@remo86 (252)
• Egypt
30 Mar 11
Yes i know everyone has his/her own issues and i know that i have good stuff makes me not in worst situation ..but i'm so hopeless ,for two years nothing happened, even i'm taking course because i like designs but whose days i lost ,y interest in that. I'm ambitious person (thanks god) but maybe i'm moving with very very slow steps