Are we Losing Sight of the Important Things in Life?

@Beaufly (994)
United States
April 6, 2011 2:18pm CST
I wonder with all of the great advances in technology if we are truly losing sight of all of the intrinsically good things in life like love, patience, kindness, humility, appreciation, etc.....There is rarely a time when you can just go outside and see individuals just sitting in the park or just taking in nature. Even when I go to the beach in the summer, I see people with I-pods, I-pads, etc....Is the world becoming increasingly too busy for our own good? I wonder. I also see people who have so much outer noise around them that (to me) seems utterly chaotic (like having the tv on, a cd or i-pod playing and they are on the internet). I wonder what that constant activity does to the brain. I'll tell you what I know for sure and that is, right now, as I type, I am just typing, no externals, no tv or movie, no music or radio, just me and my laptop and the warmness of the afternoon sun rushing through my windows and kissing my face. Ahhhhhh, I gotta get outside. Lunchtime for me.
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@rpingol (11)
• Philippines
7 Apr 11
Hi, Beaufly, Your topic reminds me of a famous line in the book, The Little Prince, to wit; "What is essential is invisible to the eyes". Thus, "losing sight of the Important Things in Life" was and has been a recurring situation from the start but rarely noticed unless there is something happen that makes a person realize that he/she overlooked on these simple yet essential things. I think that advances in today's technology is only one of the reasons that heightens the possibility of being "blind" to things that are of greater value but indeed a very influential one. It may also be possible that even an internal thing such as "preferring to be blind"--Avoidance- as a defense mechanism to cover oneself from a negative feeling/situation may also be a factor to "lose sight to important things in life". Anyway, I still believe that it is in the person's upbringing and ability in ensuring oversight to one's life that makes a person successful in the juggling act of balancing life. Thanks!
@Beaufly (994)
• United States
10 Apr 11
I like your insight. Some people may prefer and may even choose blindness and this could be for a variety of reasons---avoiding negative feelings, situations, escapism, voyeurism, many, many reasons could be listed here.......It is also a choice that we can open up our eyes, minds and hearts and see, which can also be dangerous because then we are vulnerable, we could be hurt, let down, etc.....but that is the realness of life and what would be the point of living and being alive and only being connected through computers.....wouldn't a real life scenario and story be much more thrilling and exciting and more importantly authentic.......
@ANTIQUELADY (36491)
• United States
6 Apr 11
I think there is no doubt that people have forgotten the basics of life. It is very sad to me. My children don't really have much time for me & that hurts alot.
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@Beaufly (994)
• United States
9 Apr 11
Oh AntiqueLady, you break my heart. I am sorry to hear that. It is the busyness of the culture and the society that we live in. I wish you so much joy and I am so glad that you are here. I know that we do not (and could never be) a substitute for your children but I hope that being here on mylot helps you to feel better and connected.
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@ANTIQUELADY (36491)
• United States
10 Apr 11
Good morning, u are very kind, thank u.Mylot has been a lifesaver for me. I enjoy it very much & have made some great friends on here. Hope u have a great sunday.
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@Beaufly (994)
• United States
11 Apr 11
There is a saying that states, "We are born into a family. but we get to pick our friends." I know that some of my friends are so much closer to me than some of my siblings. What makes them special is that we do actually choose them. We interact with them mainly because we want to not because we have to.....Have a great week, my friend!
@gloryacam (5546)
• Philippines
7 Apr 11
I hope that isn't really happening. There's so much in the world that we need to do, see, feel...and if we coop ourselves up and be busy all the time, we would be missing out on these. I try to balance my love by going out once in a while. I love the outdoors, always will, and my life won't be complete if I don't commune with mother nature even for a while. One need have a long vacation or be out of the city to enjoy these things. Even just an hour everyday to be quiet is good. I run very early in the morning, and my neighbors are mostly still asleep, and in the dark and in the silence, I feel at peace. Makes for a good day starter.
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@gloryacam (5546)
• Philippines
7 Apr 11
Err...my post should have read "I try to balance my life" and One need not have... Another thing that's going on now. We're all in a hurry that we tend to commit lots of avoidable mistakes.
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@Beaufly (994)
• United States
9 Apr 11
No worries. I know exactly how you feel. Once we hit that post button, all edit choices are gone. I no longer worry of such things (in an earlier post, I wrote Technology s instead of Technology is).....I did not add a new post, I figured the person would understand the meaning if they come back to read it. Some times I just want to get the words out and I want to make sure I get to all of my comments so that I can respond. I absolutely love reading these.....they are usually so good! You are a woman after my own heart. I also love being and getting outdoors. It just feels great to my being, my spirit. I also miss running in the morning. Albeit, I never ran in the dark (maybe early morning light is more of my thing). Quiet time centers and calms me. As I am typing to you, I am focused and concentrating on you so it's great. The afternoon sun is waning and I can hear the low hum of my refrigerator, just great.....
@Pranka (32)
• India
13 Apr 11
In the struggle for survival, the feelings you mentioned generally take a backstage. Nobody has time for anybody in cities. There are hardly any long lasting romantic relationships because people separate in order to make their careers. That is why, I always wanted to get rid of cities and settle in a peaceful town. But then, there are no jobs.
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@Beaufly (994)
• United States
13 Apr 11
Well, I am from a city and currently living in a college town that thinks it is a city. My take is that it is a matter of priorities and perspective. I make it a priority to care about those things and I encourage it in those around me. We all have a choice. We can either follow the whims of everyone else and be like everyone else or we can choose to follow the beat of our own drums. My path involves nature, outdoors, being away from technology and being with friends and family. We always have a choice!
@polaris77 (2020)
• Bacau, Romania
7 Apr 11
I think it's true that in the last decades,especially after the explosion of new electronic devices and gadgets,people have become more and more estranged from nature and the simple pleasures of life;even normal friendship and face-to-face communication are no longer what they used to be,they were replaced by online friendship,and I'm sure that most people,even when they go out in the park or somewhere in nature,need their devices or they don't feel good.I think it's sad that this is happening,but there isn't too much we can do about,but at least we can try to spend a few days living a simpler like our ancestors who had no gadgets and yet they enjoyed life.that would certainly be beneficial for people who are more and more affected by the daily stress of modern life.
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@Beaufly (994)
• United States
10 Apr 11
I agree with your sentiments and for me personally, I refuse to be a slave to technology. That is why (often) when I go to the store, I leave my cell at home. I will only be gone for a short while and most things can wait until I return. I look at nature as our gift. It is calming and soothing to my soul. It quiets, calms and humbles me. I appreciate it. I do not have the same awe or calm from a computer, from a cell phone or any other gadgets but they also have a use but the overuse in my opinion, can be detrimental. It's a matter of balance and just striving toward the middle.
@zorif313 (43)
• India
7 Apr 11
According to me yes, we are loosing the most important and delicious taste from our life. My question for you to ask yourself is, Do we really needs this advance technology??? Till date mostly we have invited negative energy from this technology. Every thing is having two sides one is good and another negative. Technology too having positive and negative sides. But, negative side is more powerful than positive. May god bless all of us to stick on our values and ethics.
@Beaufly (994)
• United States
10 Apr 11
You bring up an interesting point about what we need and what we want. Much of the tech stuff is want. We do not need it to survive. The gadgets are great to have but they are not essentials. We need each other. We need nature. Many have lost sight of this because of the break-neck speed at which technology has been moving. We have to slow down and take the time to breathe and think so that we are living and moving from the core of our being and not just on automatic.
@dlemza (47)
• South Africa
7 Apr 11
I would think it is true that people rarely have time for each other because of technology. Ther are couples who are breaking up becuase a spouses spend too much time on their laptops. But to have all gadgets on and only one is attended to, is a waste. Honestly you can listen ti the radio while typing because you do not have to look at it, you just listen. But the tv is the most diturbing because you have to stop doing what you are doing and watch it. Some are not disturbed by noise, they enjoy it.
@Beaufly (994)
• United States
10 Apr 11
Well some people are so used to having noise on all around them all the times that silence and being still is foreign to them. Being outside and in nature is foreign. As for couples breaking up, you can imagine a person who is addicted to certain sites or certain people and just spending all of their free time with the box instead of a real-life, living and breathing person in front of them. That's just sad.
• Mexico
7 Apr 11
Hi Beaufly: I just have to agree with you. We are more individualistic because the new technologies make that people think they don't need anyone. They're just them with their computers, laptops, ipads, etc. Life was more simple before. Of course, technology is possitive but we forget about the simple and beautiful things around us. ALVARO
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@Beaufly (994)
• United States
10 Apr 11
Oh yes, Starsailover, we have to get to the center. I want to live around well-rounded individuals, not those who cannot function without some type of gadget or computer around them. We do live and exist in a world, that is full, vibrant and for lack of a better phrase, full of life. Technology is great but I cannot get the full feeling and experience of the ocean from the sounds from the computer. I cannot get the awe that I feel when viewing a sunset on my computer versus when I am outside gazing at the sky. We have to make sure the next generation can appreciate that and can know the difference.
@kukueye (1761)
• Malaysia
7 Apr 11
Technology dilute the importance things in life. - Family relationship suffers.
Yes, slowly the important stuffs in life in long term are slowly diluted due to fast moving and distracting technology stuffs.Family dinners where all the family members sit together to eat has be diluted with the children busy with their laptop and tv and handphones in dining table, while family time in sundays have been replaced by children playing PC games and game consoles hence no more talking face to face with parents.
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@Beaufly (994)
• United States
9 Apr 11
So true, yes so true, my friend. I will say that you can ban the gadgets at the dinner table...make it a sacred place for eating, talking and communing/communicating with each other. The Wii has definitely made some of the video game experience more family friendly. We adults have to do our part, put our gadgets away and be the example of balance. We all love technology but we have to strive toward the center.....sometimes things are easier said than done....
@sender621 (14956)
• United States
6 Apr 11
I hope that we never lose sight of the important things in life. it makes the people we are inside. If we lose sight of what is important to us it takes away the emotion and heart that we have to give and locks it away to hide.
@Beaufly (994)
• United States
9 Apr 11
Balance is the key, my friend. Technology s not evil and can be a wonderful addition and enhancer of our lives. I also think that face to face interaction and connection is need to make us happy, healthy and whole. Technology should be helping us to be more efficient, more connected and happier in our lives. Not robotic with less people skills......
@dlpierce (476)
• United States
6 Apr 11
The fast pace we live in does seem to be spinning out of control. Life as we knew it is gone forever. But some technology has brought together friends and family that otherwise may not have had the chance to communicate. My husband's cousin has two half sisters who live in Michigan, he lives in North Carolina and the family origin is Pennsylvania. Social networking has brought this family together with pictures, videos, and chit chat that has made them much closer, even with the miles between them. I do feel all this multi tasking has left even the young people absent minded as well as the old. We do all need our quiet time.
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@Beaufly (994)
• United States
9 Apr 11
Well, you bring up some very positive points. I am a proponent of balance but I think many have become overly dependent upon the use of technology. Many students, including my own kids, are keeping closer tabs on their friends that they saw an hour ago versus our out of town relatives who would love to hear from them. Not to say, that we do not benefit from what technology can be because we all love skype and facebook for keeping in touch but in everyday life, many would prefer to sit and type than to actually experience the world around them. I think we can coexist with both but we just need to strive for balance.
• United States
6 Apr 11
So true on how we must force ourselves to balance. I live across the street from a beautiful park and especially during warm weather my boyfriend and I often even late hours because of him working late hours, go across the street to walk around so that we can spend some outside time together. We do not have children at home so we often do take the time out to have quality time, even if that means discussing day to day issues on the couch. I do spend a great deal of time online but know exactly when I had enough, I do enjoy mixing things up so I can get up at moments notice to do offline activities.
@Beaufly (994)
• United States
6 Apr 11
HWG, I love parks so you are very fortunate to live across the street from one. I also applaud your efforts to have "outside" quality time with your boyfriend, that's cool. I like being on-line too but I love engaging with life straight up and straight on......
• United States
6 Apr 11
I too am sitting here typing away on my laptop with my two dogs sleeping besides me, the windows all throw open so the sun can shine through with no TV or music on or anything else save for the quiet of the afternoon. I think that you are correct when you say that the more we advance in the technology world the less human we become. It's sad but true. People come to depend on them & rather spend time with them rather then their family or friends.
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@Beaufly (994)
• United States
6 Apr 11
Well for some,the friends that they make on-line may be their only friends, especially for individuals who are painfully shy or awkward. I actually thank God that they do have at least the internet to interact with someone and to have some outlet. However, I am a people person and nothing beats face to face interaction and the love of my friends and family. I love their energy, their passions and their quirks. That's something I cannot get from a computer or an I-phone. No matter how much I look at a sunset on the computer, there is nothing like watching one on a lake or beach. But, that's me....
@terryt52 (245)
• United States
6 Apr 11
I think you are right and I try very hard not to be one of those people nor let my children become one of those people. I love the beach, quiet time, and out door just taking in all the breath taking scenery. I love the simple life but love to be on my lap top. I am so grateful for all the little things in life and all God has created. thank you for your wonderful insight makes me think how I can make my life more simpler
@Beaufly (994)
• United States
6 Apr 11
Oh, I love both the simplicity and complexity of life. I know that I don't want to be overtaken by all the bling, the gadgetry and wizardry that modern life offers us. I love being near the oceans and since I live in the middle of the US, I am fortunate to be near lakes. I'm a nature girl. I love the grass, the trees, the water, the mountains,.....I could go on and on. It is just very calming for me. I am always impressed and awed by God's creations, just a pure delight. I have kids so it is hard to get them to put down all of the modern conveniences of our very modern day lives (just the fact that I have to remind them that there was a time when people actually survived without cell phones......lol---which I tell them is a luxury and not a necessity---- is a sign of the times that we live in). I think we all just need those reminders that many of these things are suppose to enhance our lives and not overtake them.
@GardenGerty (90274)
• Marion, Kansas
6 Apr 11
You are very descriptive and raise a really good point. I will sometimes have television or radio on when I am online, but I also have enough time that is quiet. I am less distracted by the television than I am by my husband trying to share something from a book. I guess because I do not have to really concentrate on the television or the music, but I must concentrate on my husband if he speaks. We have gorgeous sunshine out here today, and there are a variety of birds telling how much they appreciate it. In the winter, another balance, besides getting outside, is to grow indoor plants, to still allow you to be in touch with nature.
@Beaufly (994)
• United States
6 Apr 11
Oh GG, you are a woman after my own heart. I love nature and I think we humans could learn so much by just taking the time out to observe and appreciate it. I haven't heard any chirpers since early this morning and I have not been out early enough to catch a glimpse of the large (turkey) birds.....I'll have to take a picture...lol. I do appreciate quiet time and the presence of silence does not bother me. When I end my day on the computer in a few hours, I will be submersed into the busyness, noisiness and chaotic-ness of life. I am just grateful and I look forward to and I seek out moments of silence (or at least, one task at a time working).