Do opposites really attract??

Australia
April 12, 2011 11:08pm CST
I have found that most of my friends are very similar in nature and although some of them have very different traits or quirks and skills, we are all very much alike in many ways. So do you think opposites really attract why aren't our friend circles more mismatched then?? I have seen some very unlikely couple who seem to be inlove but my partner is my soul mate... we are pretty much 1 in the same.
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@keshia2007r (2886)
• United States
13 Apr 11
Opposites really does attract. I have friends or know of people with experiences like this. For instance, there is a 4'5 guy at work, really short, but he dates and only dates tall women. Thats just his taste. When I look around, its short and tall, big and small, black and white or other difference races, men and women. All couples, I think opposite attracts because it brings more excitement and keeps things interesting in my opinion.
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• Australia
14 Apr 11
Yes i think that's right! i think there is more to a relationship or person in general than their appearance. Never judge a book by its cover, as they say. Thanks for your response.
• United States
14 Apr 11
I agree I was just giving the basics on how a relationship start, on general appearance.
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• United States
13 Apr 11
I think both types of couples can work, and both types of couples can fall apart for different reasons. My husband and I are like night and day, but it really keeps the admiration and respect going between us. I admire his abilities to cook something from scratch...I probably wouldn't eat if it weren't for him, since I'm too impatient to wait for food to cook. He probably wouldn't have any of the bills paid or the finances together if it weren't for me...not because he doesn't have the money, but because he simply forgets to pay them. In public situations, he's quiet, I'm outgoing. He's awkward, I'm not. He's said before that if it weren't for me, most people would avoid him like the plague because he's so awkward and doesn't really know how to act in social situations. I like bringing people together and relating to them, so I often include my husband into conversations in which he'd never be involved if it weren't for me. He also causes me to be even more outgoing than I used to be before I met him, since he's so quiet. We complement each other extremely well, and since we met over six years ago our personalities have encouraged each other to excel in certain traits. He's great at homely things, so I've learned that if something breaks in the house or we need to build a new bookshelf, I'll be the one getting out the hammer. Other couples I've seen are very alike...my husband's father and his wife are both very hard-working, equally outgoing and devoted people (I've always thought it had to do with both of them being Aries, LOL). They even kind of look alike. They work so well because their relationship begins with a mutual understanding and respect. They respect one another because they can relate to the trials and tribulations that the other has had to go through...whereas with my marriage, I respect my husband for his ability to do things in which I would find hard or trying, while he respects me for doing things that he wouldn't do on his own. I also believe it has a lot to do with horoscopes and how signs work with each other and complement one another...but don't get me started on that.
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• Australia
14 Apr 11
Thanks for your post! Im marking this as Best response i believe it is a really honest and open perception of your relationship and views on my question and i enjoyed reading every part of it! Keep up the great posting!
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• United States
14 Apr 11
You're welcome! Thank you for the compliments. I try to be open and honest...there's no reason to respond if I wanted to be anything else. Thanks for the thoughtful question!
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@jennyze (7048)
• Indonesia
13 Apr 11
I do think the phrase is correct. I often found out a couple got married based on their mutuality but in the way, the husband or the wife is attracted to someone opposite of themselves and left the marriage without blinking an eye.
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• Australia
20 Apr 11
Yes i think that its good to share interests and thought patterns but sometimes its peoples difference that get our attention in the first place!! Thankyou kindly for your response.
@jennyze (7048)
• Indonesia
20 Apr 11
I would rather have someone with opposites traits than I am and see if life can get boring because of it...
@youless (91533)
• Guangzhou, China
14 Apr 11
Yes, I found the difference is very attractive. Actually my husband and I are quite different. I speak in Cantonese and he speaks in Mandarin. We also like to eat different food and our habits are not the same. I won't think it is a problem. I think it can match well since his shortcomings may be my virtues and he can cover my shortcomings, too. I love China
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• Australia
20 Apr 11
I like your input, thanks for sharing... it will be a hard choice to choose best response.
@fedeborgo (104)
• Argentina
13 Apr 11
sometimes yes, sometimes no. but if we were all the same... the world would be more boooring dont you think?
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• Australia
20 Apr 11
Yes i agree it takes something unique to obtain your attention. Thanks for your post borgo.
@SViswan (12072)
• India
13 Apr 11
Not necessarily...though it does happen in many cases. A lot depends on what one is looking for in a friend or life partner. If it is something that they don't have that they are looking for, then 'opposites attract' works for them. If not, they look for people who are similar to the kind of person they are to make friends or while choosing a life partner.
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• Australia
14 Apr 11
I like to be similar to my partner because infact we are so different from most, not in a weird way just... birds of a feather.
• India
13 Apr 11
Well i don't think it's true. If it were my soft hands would be loaded with hard cash! Just Kidding! Yes mostly it's true that opposites attract. That's why my girlfriend and i are so attracted to each other. She is so hot and so short tempered while i take my time and play it cool. However though we have many differences we have been together for a long time now almost 4 years now. Now she has to study so she's staying some place far away but we manage to keep our relationship through facebook now. We chat, talk have fun and even though she yells at me we love each other a lot! You are really lucky to get such a lovely soulmate for yourself! All the best! Cheers!
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• Australia
14 Apr 11
Thanks for your post Ravi!! I wish you all the best too!
@kquiming (2999)
• Philippines
13 Apr 11
lucky you that you have your soul mate for a partner... anyway as for me and my partner, who's gonna be my husband soon, we're both opposites and yet similar in some ways.... i don't really know how to use the term "soul mate" or whatever it really means exactly, but I feel this sense of belongingness with him... we're opposites in some ways, which is ok and I think it's great because what the other lacks, the other has it....so it's like we complement each other. of course there are times when we argue and disagree, but then we always agree to disagree to a fight doesn't become a big one every time it happens. i wonder what it's like for other couples out there...
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• Australia
20 Apr 11
That is probably the smae thing i think, just different choice of words. you too are truly happy and inlove and getting married and want to spend your lives together and things just feel better when your around them... then he is your soulmate.
@tlb0822 (1412)
• United States
13 Apr 11
I have heard this saying many times, but have found it hard to believe. My husband is my soulmate, and we are so alike. I mean we oddly say the same thing at the very same time, or we are thinking the same things. We are opposite in other ways such as he is good at math and construction, and I am good at english and raising children. I think that complete opposites do not attract. I think that there has to be more alike amoungst people the opposition, otherwise people wouldn't get along with each other.
• Australia
20 Apr 11
Thanks for your response, I also think i am very similar to my partner and believe he truly is my soul mate! I hope we spend our lives together and wish you and your partner all the best in life.
@sashakiddo (1104)
• United States
13 Apr 11
Similarities bring people together because it gives them things to talk about. If you like sports but the other doesn't, it will be hard to talk about it - but this isn't a big problem unless you are a huge sports fanatic. Usually couples can get along as opposites if they have something to tie them together. Maybe it's work- they do the same work so they enjoy working together despite their differences. Or maybe it's religion or education. As long as there are some ways they can share some kind of experience and they enjoy each other's presence, I think couples have a good chance of getting along.
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