Is letting go a sign of giving up?

@acey76 (1278)
Philippines
April 14, 2011 10:02am CST
I got an almost 3years relationship , but now the one special to me is asking some space , I have given her space, but now he wants to let go...will I be fighting for him, or let him go, I'm afraid I will lose him without giving a fight for this relationship. Please share your views my lotters thanks.
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9 responses
• United States
14 Apr 11
If it is a fight to keep him there now then it will always be a fight or a waste of time. Three years is a good enough amount of time for you to have worked through most issues. Sit down with him and try to talk it out. If he is unwilling to talk about what is going on then he is already lost. If he is willing to try to work on what ever it is bothering him then fight your heart out just be ready to make some changes (both of you) and listen.
@acey76 (1278)
• Philippines
14 Apr 11
Thanks Opinionatedlady.. He's not here now.Got so many questions in my mind, there is no third party issue just all of a sudden he just said that he is not coming back for now:-( I would like to fight for him , but I just don't know how?
• United States
18 Apr 11
Well he needs to speak to you and get him to open up about what is bothering him.
@maean_19 (4663)
• Philippines
14 Apr 11
Letting go does not necessarily mean that you are giving up on him. It is not even a sign that you don't love him anymore. Letting go is just a way of loving him so much that you sacrifice your love for him for his happiness. Letting go and fighting for him will depend on the reason. The length of relationship will not be a criteria if the person you love lost interest or no longer happy with the relationship. It would not be worthy also if you fight for him when he will be pretending to be happy after. Why stay in a relationship when you are not happy? Therefore, it is better let him go than seeing him no longer happy with you. A relationship is worth fighting for if that someone is willing to have second chances. But not worth fighting for if he insists to end the relationship.
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• United States
18 Apr 11
Very well stated.
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@maean_19 (4663)
• Philippines
18 Apr 11
Thanks for the thumb's up my dear. I guess, that statement of mine was dug out from experience.
@jaiho2009 (39079)
• Philippines
14 Apr 11
If you think you had given your best,then let him go. Give him space,don't make things too hard for you. 3 years is enough to waste your time and life. If you think there is nothing or no more good reason for keeping relationship with him...then free yourself. It's not your loss...HE LOST YOU! Sometimes you have to let go of someone to let someone better comes IN. have a great weekend ahead
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@acey76 (1278)
• Philippines
15 Apr 11
thanks for the needed boost jaiho2009 :-)
@alottodo (3062)
• Australia
15 Apr 11
Oh acey I feel sorry this happen to you! but at least is only 3 years...just imagine if this would happen 15 or 20 years later! and you are not giving up on him he is giving up on you! so I would say keep your head high and never beg! and remember if you have to fight for a relationship may be the relationship is not worth it after all!
@syoti20 (5296)
• Philippines
15 Apr 11
For me letting go is not a sign of giving up. But a sign of moving on. Because I believe in the saying if we are really meant for each other we can surpass all trials in life and live as one. Try to watch the movie CLOSER. Your story can relate to them. You are like the Doctor, husband of the Julia Roberts.
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@ybong007 (6659)
• Philippines
15 Apr 11
What's the use of fighting for someone when that someone that you are fighting the relationship for is the one giving up on you?
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@edsss17 (4398)
• Philippines
14 Apr 11
3 years is a very long way you both have been through, my dear! You don't want to make it wasted, right? and so you're partner too! Maybe, the thing missing in your relationship is just a little spice I guess! I have read an eBook on how to make a relationship good and strong! It says one of you must flirt to him/her partner! In that way, you can get his/her attention one more! :)
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@asliah (11149)
• Philippines
27 Apr 11
hi, letting go is not a sign of giving up but a rest, letting go of someone is because you really loved that person,giving your best efforts and fight are enough that you really showed your affection to that person,Love comes to those who still hope even though they've been disappointed,to those who still believe,even though they've been betrayed,to those who still love even though they've been hurt before.
@lyamsitiy (104)
• Philippines
19 Apr 11
Ask him why he wants you to let him go then you can decide after finding his answer. If he says he just need more time to be alone then i think you can still fight for what you feel. But if the reason is that he has found someone then i think its a losing battle, because even if you fight for your love but he loves another then even if your together he would still end up hurting you. Remember that in love it has to be from both parties in order to work out.