Manners

Canada
April 14, 2011 11:48am CST
Did you ever wonder where in the world common manners went --Over the years I have noticed that the please and thank you once so often heard are heard less and less--i have talked to some teenagers who seem to think it no necessary as they seem to feel life owes them--manners were invented as a way of navigating through society and reminded us to be kind--there is so much lack of respect perhaps if we remembered to be a little more polite life for all would go by easier
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@didi13 (2927)
• Romania
28 Apr 11
Replies sour, dreary girls, characters screaming ... blood increases. It is saddening, today, people no longer than their own aggression, because they care about themselves. For this we, I mean the code of good manners! I understand perfectly that the world today is not the world, once we learn at school, the rules of good behavior. It is too much rudeness around us. Sorry we could not catch a short outbreak of politeness, because today, tutuiala became fashionable! We keep the old rules of courtesy only fragments. When you do not cancel them completely, they simplify to the maximum. Moreover, talks often about as something old-fashioned courtesy. Almost as if an old coat that no longer suits today's man. Yet, new forms of politeness requires only a certain malleability, which is not the same with simplification. The old rules of politeness, which some grandparents taught them, seem quite stiff and can leave feeling a world where politeness put barriers between people, setting ready-made formulas of address and behavior. What is politeness? Apparently, we all know what it is. We shirk or make use of it. I know the rules, more or less well. In fact, her position is more complicated than it seems at first sight. It is obvious that politeness politeness today is different than yesterday. Once, a rupture occurred. But when? However the coup de grace was given. Are we in searching for a new code of good manners? Today, we witness not to a disappearance of codes of politeness, but a dilution of their simplification and rationalization. It's never too late to read the code of good manners that regardless of age. Each in turn, says he is a person with common sense and manners. But if you look on the bus see young people sitting on the seat and the old, standing. This is one of the examples I could give. Everyday life we ??constantly subjected to a test. Famous advice worth following, which must always obey: "Know thyself," you put into question, lest mistakes? The truth is that we are much more lenient towards us than for others, for which, of course, is a natural inclination-human. Always see the speck in another's eye, instead of the beam from our eye. Any person's purpose is to have a more beautiful life.
@ANTIQUELADY (36489)
• United States
15 Apr 11
Most people do not teach their children to have manners anymore. I think it is very sad they don't. I was taught manners when i was growing up, my children were to & thanks goodness my grandson is being taught to.It's up to the parents to do this & they just DON'T.Welcome to mylot, hope u enjoy it as much as i do.Happy weekend to u.
@jennyze (7048)
• Indonesia
15 Apr 11
I noticed, too. When I encountered some bad manner teenagers, I would first ask myself didn't their parents ever teach them manners? So, this phenomenon was happening since the parents time. Now, didn't the grandparents ever teach the parents good manners? Then I become confused, cause I belong to the younger generation yet I learned my manner well. Except when I want to be rude to certain people...
@jennbart (1333)
• Philippines
15 Apr 11
It is also the responsibility of the kid's parents why their kids grow up without knowing how to say thank you. During the younger years, parents should teach them already how to say thank you and please. I have a 6 years old nephew, who was taught how to say thank you and please since he was 1 year old. Yes, he talks already at 1 year old. When he forgets to say those 2 words, we make him repeat it.Now he is 6 years old, and he always say Thank you and please.
• Belgium
14 Apr 11
Well as a 16 year old I've also noticed that people are being less nice to eachother. I always say 'thank you' and 'your welcome' while others don't. I hope that in the future this won't happen. I like nice people
@Shellyann36 (8916)
• United States
14 Apr 11
I see manners or really lack of manners all of the time. Kids today were not brought up the same way I was brought up. I was taught to respect my elders. I have to constantly remind my young adult children that they also need to respect theirs. I did raise them to say "yes Maam', no Maam', Yes Sir, No Sir" etc but when they are with their friends it slips their minds. I get very aggravated at this. I do wish that some of the little snots I run into today could be taught some manners by my Granny. I would see switches flying and backsides burning up red! LOL! Today parents do not teach manners any longer.
@misc11 (384)
• United States
14 Apr 11
Every generation seems to have less and less. I think this has something to do with how each generation gets more and more liberal. I also think the amount of time parents are away from home affects this. In the past, more mothers have been at home with their kids and today, a lot of mothers are not home as much and kids spend more time figuring out things on their own instead of those constant reminders to say please and yes maam, yes sir. My dad always opens the doors before we go in, and I always notice how guys my age usually do not. It is not their fault. They are just not taught to. I think everyone needs to learn manners and it is sad how this new way of life is just being accepted as normal.
@petersum (4526)
• United States
14 Apr 11
Television isn't helping! Say what you want in 7 seconds and get off! No time for thank yous. Then chat to a stranger on the Internet - damn he's gone without a "bye"! There's all kinds of excuses, aren't there? But it is really the parents job to enforce some manners, but how many kids talk to their parents anymore? Society is going to the dogs!
@mallu30 (463)
• India
14 Apr 11
yes, todays world is like that. No body have time thanking somebody. Everybody running over material possessions like money, power etc., Let us hope for a day that everybody helps and thank each other.
@terryt52 (245)
• United States
14 Apr 11
I agree with you. However I think society expects for us to still have manners and we should indeed. I have an autistic daughter and her manners are excellent. I make sure of that. It is a parents job to teach their children manners as well as the school systems and churches if they go.
@Rtlsnk316 (1197)
• Mexico
14 Apr 11
Every little social circle starting with a family has their own set of values which were passed on to them by previous generations, if that type of behavior wasn't showed at any point in time, there's the answer to it. The education around the person's social life could influence how their manners are displayed towards other people and so will their personality. But in the end I would agree that besides manners, values, education, and several other concepts are being placed on second term which eventually lead to unnecesary situations.