Adoption and Giving Birth

I think that it is the responsibility of the Adoption agency to get all the information they can about the couples that want to parents. It is their job to be assured these people are right for the job at hand. We all need to be the best parents we can. It isn't an easy job.

It doesn't seem fair at all. I sit and watch people who should never have kids have too many and ruin their lives while others try and try and would be great parents. I come from a very mixed family meaning there are almost as many adopted kids as blood. We do not find it strange or weird. We have four of our own and would love to adopt but in our state we do not apparently have enough square footage to have more kids then we have at least to adopt. Down the street (these are good parents though) they have the same cookie cutter house we have and they are raising 6 kids in it. It is not illegal for them to have this many kids in this house but it is for us to adopt any more. Aggravating isn't it.

I will agree with you, but the system is base on the welfare of the children, I won't blame them for it. No single system is perfect and fair to everyone in the world. We just try to do the best, and the government and those law also apply for the best for the common goods. I hope that in the future, everyone should understand it better.

hi, you have your point to that, why when it comes to legality they are so strict while there are some parents who really not deserving to have there own kids because they dont give care to them.

Adoption undergoes that process to ensure that the child can be given a bright future ahead of them. You have a point about parents who abuse their children and were not routinely checked or not checked at all. One reason is that there are children who are abused but nobody has the courage to go out and speak or let the authorities know about it. They are lots of factors that's why it is very hard to generalize. As for parents who are not able to have children, undergoing that process means that you must possess that patience and endurance to withstand the long process if you would really want to attain desirable results. Remember, you would appreciate it more if you would get it after working hard for it.

It is very unfair that people have kids that don't even want them. Other people long to have them badly but can't. Adoption should not be that hard either. Take care

I think the way that authorities think of adoption is different from what infertile couples feel about adoption and that is part of the problem. The way that authorities think is that they are choosing a family for the child, at least that is what is like here in Canada. Whereas most people and that includes people who want to adopt want a child that will fit in their family, either if they have brown hair and brown eyes and are stocky, they want the child to be mistaken as a child they were born to. Now years ago, that is back in the 1950s and 60s, where they had the rule that every couple needs a baby or a child to love. and made sure that the baby looked as much as the couple as possible. They also wanted the family to be financially secure because then the girls who gave up their babies often did because they were poor and no one cared to help them and some of them were living immoral lives, at least for the time they went with the baby's father and got pregnant. However, the idea of checking the background, other then seeing if the potential adoptive couple are decent people, and they are of good health, stable, and have a decent income is wrong. That is assuming that most infertile couples are potentially bad people and a test has to be done to prove they are not. If this were given to every one who wanted a baby, there would be a problem. .

In my home country if a lady wants to have a baby she usually has to get pregnant and then at the end of her pregnancy give birth. Some ladies find it challenging to get pregnant and some of these have medical assistance. It is very difficult to get approved to become an adopter of a baby or a child whether from my home country or from overseas. The lady or the couple to adopt would need a good income, a spare bedroom, live in decent area, be completely sane and be fine with checks from social workers. They are keener to find adopters from children that have waited a long time to be adopted. It is such a shame that to be approved as an adopter they must go through so much and may have to wait two years.

If you can't adopt from institution due to these standards,why not look for a person who is willing to give her child for an adoption. My husband niece search for someone she personally knew,and was lucky to found a friend who get's pregnant out of wedlock. So they have this agreement and after her friend gave birth,they have all the papers done and she get's the baby with all the legal documents. Now the kid is 10 years old and my husband niece is waiting for the right time to tell the kid that she is an adopted..not to keep the secret (since she believes,truth always prevails) or you can go to some hospitals where babies are being left by mothers. I know institutions requires a lot before you can adopt one.