Pregnant from One Night Stand Part II

Philippines
April 18, 2011 7:38pm CST
Friends. Two months ago i have released a topic "Pregnant from One Night Stand." I hope you read that one first so that you can relate to this one. Friends... What actually happened was that i did encourage my guy friend to take the paternity testing which almost all of you suggested. He, however, doesnt want to take it to avoid having "records." I even assisted him to the point that i have inquired with the hospitals on how this goes about. Paternity testing, ive heard can only be done here in St. Luke's Medical Center. Anyways... my guy friend insists on not taking it. I believe that he really is sure that he is the father of the kid. Anyways, my guy friend is now married. He has decided to fly back to his own country to start a living and family there. The mother of the kid has my contact number and is now asking for my help to tell my guy friend that she needs financial assistance. But this guy friend of mine doesnt want to give her assistance anymore, much more especially now that his wife is 2 months pregnant. Friends. My question is... do you think that this guy friend of mine is still a good man? Do you think that he is irresponsible? Do you think that he is still worth trusting?
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10 responses
• Philippines
19 Apr 11
It is irresponsible to turn away from his obligations especially if he is sure in himself that he is the father. Unfortunately, a lot of situations like this ends up like this. Because there is basically no emotional bond between the parents. Even though, your friend should be man enough to face the consequences of his actions and give his due obligation to the child.
@wadabski (764)
• Philippines
19 Apr 11
Yeah you are right. He should do that too.
@cream97 (29175)
• United States
19 Apr 11
Hi. Graceekwenx. If he is the father of your child why is he holding back on getting a paternity test done? It sounds like he has something very secretive to hide if you ask me. If he has a kid out there by another woman then I think that you need to reevaluate ever having a relationship with him. He just can't be trusted. He does not want anything to show up in any records, but it will. He can't stop what may happen. If this child is his that you are carrying, then he will have to step up to the plate and take care of what is his. Running away is not going to solve anything. Being a man, will.
@cream97 (29175)
• United States
19 Apr 11
Oh, I am very sorry. I can see that you are not the mother of his unborn child. Another woman is. Well, I hope that he will take care of his responsibilities. If he does not, the mother of this child, should take immediate legal action out on him to ensure that he does take care of what is his.
@maximax8 (27049)
24 Apr 11
I think that your guy friend should take the paternity test. Then he will know if or not he is the baby's father. Should he be the father he needs to pay money monthly for his baby. Your guy friend sounds irresponsible and the lady was too for having a one night stand. Now the guys wife is two months pregnant I think he is saving his money for her and their own baby. I think your guy friend might be trusted by his friends but not by a one night stand lover.
@Kalyni2011 (3503)
• India
24 Apr 11
He is not only an irresponsible person but a cheat, he should be dragged to the court of law, since you are one kind of middleman in this, you explain him, he must do the right thing, women are not cheap stuff. Thanks for sharing HAPPY EASTER SUNDAY Happy posting, cheers. Namastey. Kalyani
• United States
20 Apr 11
If he had taken the test and was not the father I would say no he is not responsible but if he believes the child is his then he is being a jerk. An irresponsible one at that and the mother of baby is out of luck since he left the country and there is no international law to make him pay. Trusting him I think is a dicey matter since it is clear by what you say that he thinks the child is his. I don't think I could trust him. As for her contacting you I would put an end to it. Give her an email and tel her that is all you can do. It isn't your business.
@junil_jk (498)
• India
19 Apr 11
i didn't read ur first part on this topic as i'd been away from mylot for several months. but from what ever i've read in ur second part, ur guy friend cannot be a good human being, not even a good friend. don't know why in the first place he had a one night stand with that woman. i don't think i will ever be able to do such a kind of thing as i'm not a very sociable person and usually stay away from crowded places like partying, discos,... so on. i'm not saying i'm a cold person or unfriendly. but i usually prefer to be alone. but if ever i happen to be involved in a one-night stand, i'll make sure that i don't make her pregnant by using the protective thing, or by.... u know what i mean. ur guy friend should've done the same. that little presence of mind would've saved both parties all these troubles and would've done justice to the 'rational animal' tag that we got for being humans.
@agrim94 (3812)
• India
19 Apr 11
Hi Graceekwenx, First of all I am really surprised that this girl not only went for the one night stand but also in this age of Sexually tramsmiting diease time.. she goes in for one night stand with no protection. This is foolishness. Also well if she wasnt financially ready to have a child why she didnt go for abortion and thought this guy would keep giving her money. Third she is talking about paternity test means she may have slept around. About the guy he is also equally responsible but if a pregancy is result of one night then it should be aborted. And yes he can be trusted , just because he is not ready to take responsiblity of a child which may or may not be his..doesnt mean he is a bad guy.
@junmae (1592)
• Philippines
19 Apr 11
Hi Grace! Unfortunately, I wasn't able to read your previous post. Though im not the girl, i felt the pain when i read your post. But my question is, why did the guy accept the fact that he is the father but now refuses to support the child? If he believes that he is the father then he must support the child. I felt pity on the girl, because I was my child also was denied by her father and family but we are on our 2 years of relationship when i got pregnant so it is really sad when he doubted my child. I even came to the point that i beg him to buy medicine for my child but he refuses and my baby was almost dying. it really hurts so bad, thank god i had my support of my family and god is always there to help us.
@wadabski (764)
• Philippines
19 Apr 11
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@wadabski (764)
• Philippines
19 Apr 11
Well to the fact that it is only a one night stand it is considered no strings attached. The woman should be responsible enough to make sure she knows what she is getting in to. The guy has no responsibilities on the child but it would be admirable if he would.