How Can We Turn Our Children BETTER KIDS?

Australia
April 22, 2011 5:36am CST
There are lined of books that propose effective ways to parent. If we tried to put a label on our way relating to children or our parenting style, what would it be? Are you the permissive parents who says "You really shouldn't, but I guess so"? Or are you the autocratic "Because I said so, that's why!" parent? Or the martyr who sighs "After all we've done for you"? Perhaps you are democratic in style, suggesting, "Let's discuss the pros and cons, then you can make a choice." Children must be reared knowing how precious and wonderful they are-even if they stray.
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@sender621 (14956)
• United States
22 Apr 11
All e can do i teach our children and guide them. Being better people and individual i up to them.
• Australia
23 Apr 11
Children must be reared on a program that tells them how precious and wonderful they are - even when they are stray. Children must be able to hear that we love them. We can find something we can commend, something we can reinforce by our approval. It doesn't have to be a magnificent accomplishment. It may be a good strong knot.
@whyaskq (7532)
• Singapore
22 Apr 11
In my opinion, kids take after their parents or those who brought them up. So to turn our children to be better kids, their parents have to be able to set an example to them. When young, they are not able to analyse except observe as they have rather good receptors. If the parents send confusing signals to them, they will be confused and there goes the better. I feel the key is still communicating. Parents and child need to communicate. Their caretakers need to communicate with them too.
• Australia
23 Apr 11
Yes, the ability to make children feel loved. Supportive parents express love out loud in easily understood terms and they do it often. More than that, they gave loving physical demonstrations of their love by hugging, kissing and patting.
• United States
22 Apr 11
I would say that I am a little bit of each of those. I think you need to be to raise children. Nothing is black and white and certain situations need certain ways of dealing with it. There are times a kid needs to see what the parents are spending on them to understand about money and life, how to be financially independent. There are times when they need to be told no. There are things in life that are inappropriate and do not need to be explained to them and the "because I said so" needs to be said. There are times when discussing things and working them out to a reasonable ending is what needs to happen to teach them how to listen to other, to compromise. Children need their good attributes pointed out and celebrated but they also need to be shown their downfalls and taught how to make them better. Life cannot be labeled it has too many twists and turns.
• Australia
23 Apr 11
I agree with you and I am using the phrase "Strike while the iron is hot" now is the right time for our children to turn them a better person while at their very young age. The most powerful factors that influenced children were parental control and parental support as simple as that. I am also "because I said so" parent, There are several ways to control our children. Since we, parent is bigger than our children, they can by physical means ensure good behavior- atleast while the children are smaller.
@macayadann (1235)
• Philippines
23 Apr 11
I have a teenager boy, all I can say is I do not know how because he is being carried away by peer pressure. Good when he was a kid, he has had served God by being a member of a church choir up to grade 5 but stopped when his height got higher than his co-member. Good that he still feels the call of attending his responsibility to hear the words of GOD. I just pray that if it happens that he will be stricken by punishment so as for him to see his wrong doings and to get away from the track of the wrong , he can still stand to start all over again. He is at the aggressive stage of his life and I know that a lot of ups and downs will be encountered by him and these I hope will help him to fight the heaviness of trials in life. His experiences will teach him and I know God will not let him to be drowned by evil influences. I leave everything to God when it comes to this son of mine and also for my little girl. I will stay a loving parent to them until their strength is already enough to move by themselves.