Life really stinks sometimes
April 23, 2011 4:22am CST
My poor grandson. He is so sensitive and gets his feelers hurt easy sometimes. His sister was supposed to come and pick him up tonight for a sleep over. She neither came or called to tell us why. I am so sad for him. He finally fell asleep and then woke up about two and came to my door way and asked me if I was as disappointed in Sister as he was. I told him I was. Have you ever just ached for your kids when something happened that was unfare and hurtful? This is when I get really mad. When my kids hurt. Not just sad for them but angry. Is this uncommon? Do you find you do too?
23 Apr 11
My mother feels that way for me. Whenever i'm hurt over my lil cousin sister, she aches for me. Because i'm from a broken joint family, i was once really close to lil cousin. She is now changed and i don't know what for,but she is kinda jealous sometimes(which isn't the case), she doesn't appreciate my love and lets me down. I'm fine with it cous no matter what i'll love her, she is my baby sister. its kinda like default, i can't help myself but love her. Once she told me she wouldn't care if i'm going out with some one bad like someone really bad, she wouldn't care, she wouldn't interfere because it isn't her problem. I always told myself i wouldn't expect anything from my loved ones, but couldn't help it and cried alot, cried all night thinking she doesnt love me anymore. Its something i always knew and my big brother had kinds told me not to be hurt about it in future. When my mother saw me crying she was furious , as she had always told me not to ache over her. She always said that girl is selfish and takes advantage of you and stuff and she was always so pissed. Now mother hates her like hell, wish i could change this feeling.
24 Apr 11
Its perfectly common and justified.. i know that feeling, everyone deserve good, specially with its someone that you love alot. and i feel bad for your grandson.. hope there is a decent explanation for what his sister did since it borke his hard pretty badly i guess.
23 Apr 11
now i am a daugher and i have no child,so maybe i can't totally understand your feeling as parents, but i can't tolerant anything bad happened on my family members such my mother&father or elder brother like your grandson,i think my mum share some same character with him,she is sensitive also and gets her hurt easily,but my mum have a kind heart and bear the disillusionary result by herself ,she always find excuse for the other which make me grieved for her,sometimes i lose my temper,i wish i could instead her to suffer,so that is common to get mad i think when something really unfare and hurtful happened on your beloved you'd rather to bear for her,that's kinship
23 Apr 11
I'm not a parent but I believe it's normal for parents to be angry when their kids are hurt. My mom always tells me that she doesn't want us (me and my brother) to get hurt (or physically sick). At times when we're sick, even just a headache, she wishes she has it instead of us. I guess it is the natural maternal/paternal instinct of parents. I hope your grandson felt better later on. That must have been a heartbreaker.
• Garden Grove, California
25 Apr 11
Celtic I still do aNd my son is 51 and will be 52 in June. I guess to us moms we see them aS still our kids.Back in o8 I was furious at his boss for laying my son off and myself for not having really urged my son to look for aNother job earlier when we wondered if the company he worked for was in financial trouble then. at that time they had asked my son to take a pay cut of five dollars an hour or if he wished look for a better job.he just took the cut but then there were a lot of computer programmer jobs and he just kept putting it off.My heart hurt so for him as they had started out giving him forty one thousAnd a year and then dropped the ball on him. The cut made it almost impossible for us to keep up with rent and utilities. well thats old stuff.now is now. just saying mother love keeps on after they become Adults.Poor little grandson. I was that way as a little kid, too sensitive and my problem is today I am still a bit too thin skinned but try to work on it.
24 Apr 11
at least he got you. children are truly vulnerable but things will not be so difficult having people around that cares. and i think he has that in you. i hope everything will be fine with him, and that he doesnt carry the grudge for long. :-)