Women Lie About Their Perfect Lover!
April 23, 2011 7:22am CST
I don't know if anyone of you has ever noticed but most women say they want a man who treats them nice. It makes me wonder why so much women oftentimes go for cocky, self-confident slightly arrogant bad boys who don't treat them nice at all. Anyone has a clue why they P.s. I don't blame women for doing this whatever the reason may be. :)
23 Apr 11
Ok I am some what like that what you describe. I am a bit cocky, just a bit but everyone around me definitely say I am. I am really confident. I have looks. And I am slightly arrogant(I also have anger problems). I usually find that alot of people love these characteristics. I have to say though that I am really nice when it comes on to romance and I dont like to see when a girl get hurt, but when she is wrong she needs to be put into place. I remember I tried to get over my anger problem so I said to my self I would not get angry no matter what the situation. My girlfriend realize my change in attitude and she came to me and said she doesn't like when I act so nice at time. She further went to say that she likes when a boy is a bit scarry. She likes when I am in control. She also say it makes her more faithful as she is afraid what would happen if she do try to cheat. She dont want a boy that is easy going, someone that will say nothing when something pops up. She wants us to have argument and arguments and problems every now and then do keep the relationship rolling. Even though I am talking about my arrogant behaviour, I have to say once again that I am really nice in the romance section. When it comes on to love, or being there for her, I AM ALWAYS THERE. If I can't make it there then I call. As for the cockyness, girls usually say they do not like it. Actually most girls I hear say they do not like it but yet still their boy friends do have it. Even though my girl told me she doesnt like it, everytime we go out together, it seem as if she really appreciate it. This SLIGHTLY cockyness in might case, gets me attention and at the same time, my clothing etc would be so beautiful. In the end it result in her friends(who see me and her go out) always talking about me and my looks and characteristics and how me and her go well together. And all this results in she feeling good inside, blushes and stuff. lol.
23 Apr 11
LOL hello diamania it is so true and i am not sure why it happens either!! But then we women are strange creatures and do you remember the line ' Nice guys finish last' from Mask maybe that is the reason or maybe the excitement of 'taming' a bad guy is too much for women to resist because if you notice the women in love with the bad boys - they truly believe they will be able to reform him not understanding that once reformed he will never be the same!! Catch22 if you ask me.....but in the end it is the nice guys who win in truelove :)
24 Apr 11
Well Arunadas. I've seen a lot of women tame their bad boys and I've seen women with boys being a little bit nice and 'roughness around the edges' being tamed into a near-perfect version of the guy of their dreams. So yes it seems plausible to me that at least a reasonably big percentage of women like taming their bad and nice guys. :)
23 Apr 11
May be they get in the relationships at wrong time. Like the kinda times when their self esteem hits rock bottom and they get a rebound guy, who turns out to be a jerk. They do anything and everything to please him, which gives that a guy some more boost to let her down. so its a phase and a lesson for everyone i guess.
23 Apr 11
I guess its not about lying, it is more pf misconception. Ofcourse anyone would wish to have a man who treats them nice, but its like the perfect guy, the ideal one. But the truth is, we always ask for the ideal, speak for the ideal, wish the ideal man. The fact that we don't know, they are not the true person we LOVE.
24 Apr 11
That sounds like a plausible explanation to me. I do think though that women when describing their 'dream boy' describe what they think they want in a man instead of what kind of men they 'get' in reality. Or is that what you said? Hmm, I am not sure. :)
• United States
29 Apr 11
There can be so many reasons and I can only assume from what I have seen within my circle of friends who are undergoing this. Some like the challenge, some like the daily constant bickering and some have low self esteem. All based on my own personal friends and their relationships.
24 Apr 11
i guess women who are naive find men who they feel to be very capable of themselves even if they are not experienced, less educated because these men are kind of not new to courtship and they make impressions such that the ladies never thought it to be otherwise just a cover on their true selves. so for the ladies to get their man.. the only best thing to do is know them by heart. dont settle for fancy looking and very handsome. be keen on characters more and the people he is with. then you will know him. ann
• Garden Grove, California
24 Apr 11
hi diamania I ca ught my bad boy after he grew up to be a fine wonderful loving man and my dad was fu rious with me as he had found out my hubby to be had been in prison for 10 months when he was just 16 . when I met him and we fell in love he was 37 and a kind wonderful man who had learned from his errors and grew up to be altogether differeent. He was a kind gentle optimistic man who lovef life,dogs,cats and kids and me too. he had been pardoned so that was off his record.We were married for 33 years.some bad boys grow up to become good men.