How do you feel when all of your so called friends disappear when you need help?

Friends  - How do you feel when all of your so called friends disappear when you need help?
Hong Kong
April 25, 2011 12:39pm CST
It would be a frustrated experience for anyone if all so called friends leaved when you need help the most.I think it is getting harder to have good friends in todays world especially when you've been betrayed by lots of people before. It would be hurtful enough when your freinds just leaved when you are in all kinds of difficuties.Where are all the good friends when you need help. If you hav egood friends ,it is trueky a grace. If you don't , you are not the only fish in the ocean.Share with us about your opinion and experience.
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12 responses
@EdnaReyes (2628)
• Philippines
23 Jun 11
I don't think good friends can leave their friends in need, they may not be there for the exact time but will still be there in times when you have given up hope. I have experienced this before, I just thought there's no friends around in my times of need but after some time, when I almost giving it up, they came, maybe a little late but still there to give me support that i really need. Friends are not hard to find if only you are also a friend.
• Hong Kong
21 Jul 11
I think I am a good friends to many people and many times I did give more than I suppose to. I would say that I ma a giver and never a taker. However, the experience I had three years ago had really gave me a negative feeling toward those I once help them for many years.Although I understand that they owe me nothing but still it is a kind of feeling that will always in my mind.Well, I am not sure if I still want to see those people anymore but I still pray for them everyday in my prayer anyway.
• China
26 Apr 11
I don't agree with you. Not all your friends to do so. I introduce myself. I have only several friends,but they are hearted. They are my college classmates. they are like another family .Several years ago,when i was in trouble,they tried his best to help me. I appeciated my friends. Then I decide to help them when they are in trouble.
• China
27 Apr 11
they are like a second family.
@CTHanum (8254)
• Malaysia
26 Apr 11
I will feel a bit disappointed but it will only affect me for a while as I will stand up and get through the life faster than wailing and feeling sad for it. Anyway most of my time I get through everything by myself - fiends influence me not as they are only there when happy time or feeling to take advantage or needing help to others rather than having there to hear the sad story or problems.
• Hong Kong
26 Apr 11
I agree with you that life has to go on. We can't keep on staying in a stage of sadness and disappointment. life is not easy and there are alwyas hurtful experience not just in frinedship and sometimes in family , career nad finnace as well. If we don't keep on fighting for the exit and victory, we will fall during the crisis of life. No, we have to stand and that's why I enjoy writing in mylot and talk about it , then that's it. I will keep on going and keep on fighting.Thank you for your encouragemnet anyway.
@sender621 (14956)
• United States
25 Apr 11
A friend should truly be your friend no matter what the circumstance or situation may bring. a friend should not only be around for the good times. /they should be there when you need their support and concern too.
• Hong Kong
26 Apr 11
Yes, I agree with you and I think just never mind about those people anymore. I still remember that those pople will alwya shang around me because I will buy them stuffs and made them happy. But when I experienced hard time , they don't feel like to help at all. They will go to somebody else in whom they think might find them some advantage as well.Well, maybe one thing is true that. They weren't my friends from the very beginnning and they weren't just worth to be trust anyway. But I think my difficulties do help me to clear up some unescessary friendship as well. In a sense it is not that bad .
• Philippines
20 Jul 11
real friends can be determine in times of problem, in times of you needed a friend because you have nothing, sad to say most of the time most of your friends are harder to find if you needed them some will stay but you don't expect them to stay and some will just left you even if you don't expect them they will.
• Singapore
22 May 11
Definitely it would not be a good feeling. I can testify to that. But I will always ask myself this question: have I done much to help my friend when he/she is in need before? A friend isnt like some sort of an unlimited emotional atm waiting for you to withdraw when you need it. A healthy relationship is based on give and take. But I can tell you, in this competitive world, more and more people are starting to care more for themselves. It seems that the new holy grail is about personal material success, status and power. Everyone is fighting, climbing on one another's backs and currying one's bosses favour in hopes of that big promotion and bonus. Do treasure your friends, even if they are fair weather friends. Better to have some than no company in times of trouble.
@dorannmwin (36698)
• United States
28 Apr 11
A good friend is something that is few and far between in the world today. With that said, I've learned that you can really never expect anything out of the people that we think are our friends. There are a few people in my life that I would trust to help us out during tough times in our family. However, when it comes to the majority of people, if they want to help, that is fine, but I also make sure that they know that they are under no obligation.
@tiina05 (2319)
• Philippines
27 Apr 11
hello, Yes, you are right? it is really hurtful when you treat someone as your real friend but then he/she not around when you needed him/her most. It happened to me how many times,I got betrayed they leaved me all alone when i needed them most. Yes, for me it is also difficult to find a friend that will true to you. That is why all I do is take good care all my those people I consider real friends. Though I met people everyday, It has a process to me because I want to know them first. that's it. good luck
• Philippines
26 Apr 11
This is one of the bitter realities of life. I know how it feels. Especially, when you give invest so much on that friend. Emotional investment, I mean. It's really hard to accept such things. But these incidents should not break us. They shouldn't. Sometimes, we need to be independent. Independent of others' emotional support. Also, in situations like this, we should try to divert our attention to the things in this life that bring joy and happiness.
@RobtheRock (2485)
• United States
26 Apr 11
I don't have friends I depend on for help. I call on God. With the economy so bad, I don't look for friends to help me. My best friend, my cousin, in most cases will take me here or there in his car, if I need it. He has a Godfather mentalility although he is poor. It surprises me that he has not too much feelings for those who can't help themselves. And he brags about his conquests of women. So I avoid him as much as I can. I will help the friends I do have, but I don't ask them for help.
• Philippines
26 Apr 11
Its truly a sad experience. Its like losing a family member. If they left me upon seeking help. I will be sad. I thought theyre real friends whos gonna be beside me like me family to help me through the trials. Ill be sad coz ive wasted my time on them believing were real friends. Somehow i will feel grateful, at least i already knew theyre true colors. Ill still a friend to them. Ill pray for them still.
@blue65packer (11835)
• United States
26 Apr 11
That happened to me alot in high school and right out of high school! Back then I trusted everyone and alot of people took andvnace of me! So when I got out of high school I was craving friendship big time! I didn't know what was real freiendship was until about 15 years ago! When it is true friendship,your friends are always around!