People telling you what to do
@greenmachine45 (430)
United States
May 2, 2011 4:31pm CST
Don't you all hate when people try to tell you what to do and how to run your life and household? I just moved but my old neighbor mainly his friend is always trying to to tell me what to do when it comes to my daughter and household. Yes I'm a single mom but I don't need their opinions unless i ask. I told my daughter she couldn't do some my old neighbor tells her she can. His friend tells me that I shouldn't live in the mobile home I just bought for no more than a year to save up to buy a newer trailer. If he wants to move me and buy the mobile home for me yes but otherwise he isn't the one who lives here or paying my bills. I know these 2 guys mean well but I'm not in a relationship with neither am i married to neither one. If I wanted to be told what to do I would get or stayed married. I don't want to say anything to neighter one since they are good with my daughter, they help me with things like fixing and putting stuff together. But I'm on the brink to saying something.
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@polaris77 (2040)
• Bacau, Romania
3 May 11
Yes,it's pretty annoying when people come and tell you what to do;sometimes it's good to receive a piece of advice,it can be helpful if you ask for it,but if someone simply stick their nose where it doesn't belong and try to teach others what to do even if it's not their business,then it's better to try to avoid these people or if that's not possible to try to suggest them to mind their own business in a polite way.It takes time and patience to deal with this kind of people,and sometimes we don't have too much patience in this stressful world,but if we can convince those people not to tell us what to do without hurting them and they understand us,it's a great achievement.
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@sachiare22 (50)
• Philippines
3 May 11
sometimes other people notice something in our life than us that we need to improve.. listening to them is okay and its up to you if you wanna do it or not.. i know its annoying people tells you to do this and do that... we'll, do what you think is right cause you know yourself better than any1 else..=)
@shorty08322 (1270)
• United States
3 May 11
I knw what y'all talking about it happen to me everyday I get sick of it but sometimes it is good and then it is nt to good now I been told what to do my hole life and I'm close to 30and ppl still telling me what to do I feel your pain it is a pain in the but it is ok it is a part of life
@greenmachine45 (430)
• United States
3 May 11
I moved over an hour away from my hometown about 4 yrs ago so I can pretty much live my own life without family butting in. Mainly a step-sister that likes to try to run and use people. My nephew and his family moved here shortly after I did then my sister moved here about a year ago. None of them try to run me or tell me what what to do other than to get out of a flood area back n 2008. Actually they have been helpful. Then comes along non family members that seem to think they know more than I do.
@KrauseHome (36448)
• United States
25 May 11
Personally sometimes there are people like this that even though they mean well, they can be irritating and sometimes trying to control everything going on around you as well. The problem is they know even though you are not in a relationship with them as long as they are good to your daughter than everything is cool and they can say anything they want. Maybe it is their way of saying "I Care about things" without getting involved more. If it is bothering you, maybe you just need to have a heart to heart talk with them, let them know how you feel and hope for the Best from there. Just do not stir bad feelings unless you're truly wanting to go there.
@greenmachine45 (430)
• United States
25 May 11
I'm trying not to stir up bad feelings since these guys have done a lot for me and my daughter also helped me move. But I'm afraid their going to push my buttons 1 day where I will snap back especially my old neighbor who has no kids and will never have kids tells me how to take care of my daughter at times. His friend is telling me I need to turn off my tv when were not watching it to keep it cool in my trailer in the summer. I suppose they think everyone runs their household the same as they do. They don't pay my bill so I don't know why they think they have the rights coming in my home telling me what to do. That's pretty much why i live about 1-1/2 hrs from some family members so i can live my life without them butting in. I have a sister that lives near me and she don't butt into my life unless i ask her advice.
@greenmachine45 (430)
• United States
3 May 11
Good advice. Pretty much what i do. My neighbor's friend telling me that I don't need to worry about getting the other wall oven put in since the one that came with the trailer doesn't work since he is loaning me his flavorwave for now. It's cool but I tried making brownies in it and it didn't work so good. I'm going to have it put in anyway. When I was married I would do the opposite what my ex would tell me.
@yspmyl (3435)
• Malaysia
3 May 11
Hi,
I know how you feel when there are many people tell you what to do and I think they like to interfere your life. I have such a experience that this guy of my friend who like to tell others what to do. And he keep telling me that what I did is not correct and should follow what he told me to do, and he keep repeating each time I meet him, one day, my patient have reached the limit and exploded and I told him to shut up and I can do my own thing correctly with my own way without referring to others, from there on, he never try to tell me what to do anymore. From there you can actually see that sometime we need to tell other to shut their mouth up. It works.
@stary1 (6612)
• United States
2 May 11
I hear your frustration and can't blame you at all. No one likes to be told what to do especially on their own family and personal business.
Maybe you could tell them tactfully you appreciate their interest but disagree. I would pick my battles though since they are helping you out. Good luck to you!
@greenmachine45 (430)
• United States
3 May 11
ty..Funny thing is one of them don't have any kids and the other what I heard didn't raise his own kids. The one don't understand that not everyone makes 60,000 a yr like he does.
@hardworkinggurl (37063)
• United States
2 May 11
I completely understand and would not like to be told how to do my own things. I have calmly listened to what they have all had to say and thanked them for their input, in the end I pretty much did things not completely opposite but in my own ways.
@sophiecheer (931)
• Philippines
3 May 11
Its perfectly understandable how the way you react to other people's meddlings. But as you've said so yourself these people just mean well. It would be unwise to rant to these people..it would be far more honorable to just tell them "politely" on how you feel. Feel the ropes, perhaps they are just unaware that they've gone beyond the limits. Good luck and try to stay calm..
@greenmachine45 (430)
• United States
3 May 11
ty..I stay clam for the fact they help me in some ways far as helping me move and fixing things. I suppose because they are older than i am they think they know more than I do. I don't know. The funny thing is my old neighbor doesn't have a job or life. He tells me you should be applying for another job. I work from home and he don't get that I'm not one to put my child into daycare. I can't afford daycare anyway. was thinking about saving back a couple things for my niece in case she has a girl my old neighbor is like I wouldn't save it I would get rid of it or sell it.I was letting it go out 1 ear and out the other but sometimes it get annoying.
@lsdshrooms (214)
• United States
3 May 11
There's a fine line between advice and dumb preaching. Some people mean good by telling you what to do while others are simply control freaks and want you to live life by their standards. My advice? Don't take others' advice. Hehe. Or at least take some into consideration.
@greenmachine45 (430)
• United States
3 May 11
I know they mean well but enough is enough. Maybe they don't realize they do it. I just moved outof a very small apt. I found a mobile home for sale on contract so i took it. To me it was cheaper than moving to a bigger apt and besides I will own it in 2 yrs One of them was telling not to put any money into the trailer to pay it off quick as I can then trade it for a newer one I plan on putting money in it as I go along also lan on building an office onto it eventually If The one says anyting about it I will tel him if he wants me to move to a newer trailer he can buy it for me and move me into it This move was tougher than any move I had done since I had to do most of it myself needless to say unpack by myself One of the guys is like you need to get this kitchen in order to get the old frig out Ok like I didn't realize that but give me time or do it themselves
