Parents divorce, children breaking personality.

Vietnam
May 6, 2011 10:48pm CST
My old neighbors are a young couple. They had a daughter about 5 years old. She is very cute, vivacious, or speak, or laugh. But then, the couple divorced. Every month, the husband brought her and old wife to go out following decisions of the courts. After they divorced, I realized that their daughter very much changed. She looked very sad and shy. She rarely smiles and to speak to outsiders. When I saw the little girl and her mother, she appears timid. Her mother said that she would become aggressive and cry if there are any girls close to her father. I'm really poor this girl. The divorce of parents makes her character more negative change?
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17 responses
@isloooboy (1733)
• United Arab Emirates
7 May 11
I feel very sad for that young angel who is suffering without knowing what was her crime. I am lucky I born in a country where family values are still strong enough to tackle such incidents. I am not against love marriage but I prefer to arrange why, because when two families agreed for a good cause than they have the right to force couple to step down from his position. So that's why we have very miner portion in which divorces are happen. Also our religion condemn it strongly by saying this is the worst and biggest sin even divorce is allowed in it too. Before taking any action couple must sit with their elder's and talk with them the situation first and try to resolve it not to obey their ego.
• Vietnam
9 May 11
Right. My old neighbor have not had a good preparation for their actions. So, their daughter must be stand suffering. I hope that they'll realize the problem soon. And they'll have many good methods to care her.
@stephcjh (38473)
• United States
7 May 11
Yeah. I have seen this happen in my own life and childhood. When parents break up, the child starts feeling so alone because they want their mom and dad to be together and be with them all of the time, not just part of the time.
• Vietnam
9 May 11
I'm sorry to hear about your childhood. I believe that you was hard to pass that time.
@cerebellum (3863)
• United States
7 May 11
This happens in a lot of cases when the parents divorce. The children suffer the most. The child probably feels like it is her fault that the parents aren't together anymore. Even though that is rarely the case, children feel guilty.
• Vietnam
9 May 11
Right. It's poor for the children. They don't have faults. But they don't know that. I'm sorry that they must spend a bad time.
• United States
7 May 11
It is quite sad and sometimes no matter how amicable the parents are with one another the child still holds a lot of sadness and resentment. In a case like this sometimes it is best to get a little help because it will not go away on its own and the child can begin to rebel as she becomes a teenager.
• Vietnam
9 May 11
I'm afraid that you're right. If my old neighbor don't have any method to care the little girl.
• United States
7 May 11
That's what happens in a divorce especially when a child is young and doesn't understand :(
• Vietnam
9 May 11
Yes. I wish the girl is enough grown-up to understand their parents.
@tiina05 (2317)
• Philippines
7 May 11
hello, Ohh? what a poor girl. If they the parent dont put any attention to their kid maybe she will grow up like this. The child should undergo to the psychologist because maybe they can help because the little girl didn't understand what happening to her parents.
• Vietnam
9 May 11
I think that her parents haven't notice to her status because they're too busy or the girl is quite little. The girl need more care and interesting from her parents.
@maximax8 (31053)
• United Kingdom
10 May 11
This is a great shame for the little girl's confidence and happiness. Her behavior has changed due to her sad feelings regarding her parents divorcing. She seems to miss her dad and she feels jealousy when he is near other girls. I know that a child suffers emotionally during the two years after his or her parents divorcing. I was 10 to 11 years old when my parents got divorced. I hope that in two years time the little girl will be her normal self again. My own marriage lasted just six years. I don't want to get married a second time because my first marriage failed. I tried being in a living together relationship but that too didn't work out. My sister got married about 15 years ago and they are still happy together.
@sender621 (14894)
• United States
7 May 11
Divorce affects both parents and children. it can definitely change your personality as your life is going through some difficult changes. These changes don't have to be permanent ones but they do have a great impact on how we feel about ourselves and the world around us.
@kingparker (9673)
• United States
7 May 11
I guess so. She might not be able to accept her parent's divorce, and that event might traumatize her personality deeply ever since. Oh well, if she should see a psychiatric or some sort of mental therapist, before it getting worse. I hope that poor little girl will get well soon.
@dream_ozn (1754)
• Singapore
8 May 11
It's sad to hear another such a divorce story. I believe in every divorce, children are the most innocent party but they are forced to be a victim of it. There are so many cases of divorce nowadays that make me lose a little hope in marriage. Back to the point, especially young children, when their parents divorce, they might not understand things and don't understand why their parents are not staying together. Seeing that their friends have both mother and father would make them all the more insecure. Growing up in such an environment will definitely hinder their well-being.
@sswallace21 (1824)
• United States
7 May 11
That's too bad. Hopefully, when she gets older she will understand why things happened this way and end up happy again.
@gelayagui98 (1336)
• Australia
7 May 11
Nothing can be more traumatic for children than the divorce of their parents. studies show that children of divorcees often manifest emotional or behavioral problems and learning difficulties in school.
@blogger01 (124)
• Philippines
8 May 11
There will be an effect on the kid. They must be very careful with their child in raising her properly. Every child needs a mother and father and divorce can really affect the child. She may become rebellious if not looked after.
• United States
8 May 11
Divorce is another set of obsession for children, they need their parent to make them happy, i tend not to understand why there is increase in divorce, do they(parent) not love each other, well, we don't just get into mariage anyhow, we need to plan and care for our children,
@ann815 (54)
• Philippines
7 May 11
parents separating is always hard for the children. hence the need for a strong support system. parents, grandparents, even friends should assure the child that despite the separation she will still be surrounded by love and care. sometimes even professional help will be required.
@vannyt (343)
• Philippines
7 May 11
Oh my poor little girl. Most of the time children are the ones affected by decisions their parents have to make. Children this young are forced into accepting what to them is unacceptable. I hope this cutie will grow with a better future and not be a victim of troubled childhood stuff.
@oninomar (505)
• Philippines
7 May 11
So sad for that little angel. I don't want to happen that with my future children. Sometimes people always do a wrong decision, decision that they think is good for them but they have not realize that many people will be affected with that decision.. Many of the parents now just thinking what is good for them without considering what is good for their children and that is one example with your neighbors. This kind of decision can be considered as an immature feelings of a couple. they are too selfish to decide things. The worst thing will happen to their daughter is to become like them. Most of the time a child is prone to acquired that kind of situation and manners in the future. If a child is not properly guided she might think that it is okay to have a broken family just like she have. For me, I will not be like them. I don't want my children suffer that sorrow. I will try my best to be a good role model to them so that they will also be a good citizen too.