Letter Friends

@flapiz (5655)
Australia
May 9, 2011 11:14pm CST
Well you can call me old fashioned if you want but I still would say that snail mail is way better than e-mailing and chatting. I have two pen pals at the moment, one is from Germany and the other is from Taiwan. My German pen pal and I have been corresponding for about four years now. It started way back when I was in highschool up 'til now that I am in college. My Chines pen pal on the other hand is quite new, but I can see long friendship ahead. The thing is even though I haven't met them face to face I can feel REAL friendship from this people. I can feel the efforts they spent in writing a letter by hand and diligently replying to my mail. On occasions we send each other trinkets which may fit the little envelope. We also trade pictures,cards and stamp. We also exchange stuffs about our cultures and we translate some languages. It's really fun having a letter friend. The thrill and excitement as you wait for a letter each day and most importantly the beautiful friendship we find. Just knowing that someone from the other side of the world cares for you is a very good feeling I would never get tired of. How about you guys? Have you tried having a letter friend? What are your experiences or opinions regarding snail mail. I'd be very happy to read what you've got to say. Have a nice day.
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@jennyze (7048)
• Indonesia
12 May 11
Wow, you are good. Even when there was no internet and emails, I did not like to write a letter much. So, I can say that emails helps me to stay connected to people, cause it is easier and I don't necessarily have to write a long messages. I still can exchange pictures, songs and other information with emails and Skype. I can also do web cam if I want to to talk face to face with friends from around the world.
@flapiz (5655)
• Australia
12 May 11
Well technology is really amazing these days. But I also love writing.. hehe.. I am an ancient person i guess..
@jennyze (7048)
• Indonesia
12 May 11
Well, you are young so how can you say that you are an ancient person? Maybe you are just having old views on things... Now I don't make it any better...
@flapiz (5655)
• Australia
12 May 11
Hahah.. You do make it sound better. Thanks. Tsk, tsk I really envy those emoticon. I am looking forward to using them. I need 10 more posts. :)
• Singapore
11 May 11
I also want to make friends from different countries. Because it's good experience to know new things and culture. Novelty, Mystery, and sharp contrast between my culture.. I'm very appreciated if you could accept my invitation to be a pen pal of you. Could I have this honour? My email is kurney.zj@hotmail.com. Hope your reply.:-)
@flapiz (5655)
• Australia
11 May 11
Hello Holly. Thanks for the invitation. I will find time to e-mail you tomorrow as it is already 12:03 AM in our place today. Hehe... Anyway, I hope you like snail mails, I want to write you a letter.
@flapiz (5655)
• Australia
12 May 11
I already e-mailed you.. I will wait for your reply.
• Singapore
16 May 11
I have checked a few days ago.. But no your email. I will check email this nigth. I am sorry for keeep you waiting.
@daeckardt (6245)
• United States
11 May 11
I had penpals when I was in high school, but since I grew up, I find it hard to get myself to write and buy stamps and envelopes, etc. I hardly ever wrote to my parents and grandparents when I was in college and since the internet, I avoid using postage stamps for any reason (I pay all my bills online). It is good that you enjoy snail mail. Unfortunately, most of the time when I get mail, it is bills and I hate bills!
@flapiz (5655)
• Australia
11 May 11
Well I agree that pen palling really does cost money because of the stamps, but well I don't have regrets as my pen pals reply is priceless. Haha... Well I never get any bills addressed to me yet. I pay by cash since I'm just a simple student. LOL. My parents though get a lot of them. It must be hard for you.
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@daeckardt (6245)
• United States
11 May 11
One nice thing about getting a letter in the mail is that you can look at it many times and still have it available to show other people if you so desire. Not that stamps are that expensive, but for me it is a real hassle. The price of stamps used to go up before I used all the stamps that I had available so I just got tired of it. It is good that you pay by cash. I would suggest that you don't start using credit cards because it becomes a vicious cycle...you get one, max it out and then don't know how you will pay for it so you get another one. Soon you have so much credit card debt that you feel overwhelmed. If you ever do get one, keep it a small balance and pay it off each month so that you can build your credit and then you will never get into trouble that way. Keep sending your pen pals snail mail because it is always good to keep practicing your handwriting. I think it is starting to become a thing of the past and that is not good. Have a great day!!!
@flapiz (5655)
• Australia
12 May 11
Hehe.. thanks for the credit Have a nice day. :)
10 May 11
Hello flapiz! I totally agree with what you say. The art of letter-writing is sadly lacking nowadays and because of that some of the richness has gone out of life. I love writing letters too and even when I am emailing or texting I can't stop myself from writing full words the old-fashioned way! Silly little icons and truncated words cannot truly convey the feelings we need to express as humans. I'd just like to share a daft poem I wrote the other week about this exact subject: Oh for the days of yore When letters just plopped through the door When there was no texting in language rough And communication was never so tough Putting pen to paper was a lot breezier And just paying for a stamp was a lot easier People could spell in those days of yore When letters just plopped through the door They started with warm words like Dear and your name And didn't use inexplicable symbols, which are such a pain! What a strange world we have created for all For the demise of beautiful words I just want to bawl! From Jane, a fellow 'Worder'.
@flapiz (5655)
• Australia
11 May 11
Indeed letter writing is an art. I could totally relate in writing full words while texting. I do it a lot of times. Though I love emoticons and smileys. I even doodle them in my letters. Hehe. What a nice poem you wrote. I can see you really tried to rhyme the ends, which I find rather hard. So I would really want to give you an applause. I also write poems, but I seldom do rhymed. I like free writing more. It's less restricted and a lot easier. By the way I like the end part. It has a modern touch in it and also real expression. " I just want to bawl!" Thank you for your comment and the clever word play. Have a nice day.
12 May 11
Thank you for the kind comments, flapiz. My poems don't always rhyme. They only do when I am playing the fool! I can be very, very serious when I need to. ;) Blessings xJane
@flapiz (5655)
• Australia
13 May 11
Well playing a fool hadn't been easy for me. hehe. Have a nice day.
@jaiho2009 (39001)
• Philippines
10 May 11
hello, I have a friend who still prefers to send snail mails during special occasion but she sends cards to all her friends here in our place and also overseas. I also use to send my mom snail mails occasionally.
@flapiz (5655)
• Australia
10 May 11
Hi Jaiho! I have sent a letter to my mom when I was travelling oversees 5 years ago. It was just a simple and hasty letter that I never really thought she'd keep it, but one time I was looking for my passport in her cabinet drawer I saw my letter there. My mom kept it and she told me she was very touched by it. So I think your mom must be very happy everytime you send her mail.
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@jaiho2009 (39001)
• Philippines
10 May 11
My mom keep all the mails she receives and when she comes home to visit us she brings it back and i made a special album for all those letters so she can have those in a safe place.
@flapiz (5655)
• Australia
10 May 11
Wow... You are such a sweet daughter. Your mom is lucky to have you.
• United States
10 May 11
I love writing letters! I started a site on facebook for penpals to connect. I do not have the proper rating to post a link on a discussion board yet. so if you would like the link to my facebook paenpal page, add me as a friend i will send you the link. :)
@flapiz (5655)
• Australia
10 May 11
Wow really?! Okay, I'd love to add you as friend. I would also like to find more penpals. :)
• United States
10 May 11
I already sent the friend request to you so i am just awaiting your approval!
• United States
10 May 11
okay i just sent it to you in a message.
• India
10 May 11
Hello flapiz, I agree with you completely. Even though email and chatting are the fastest ways to connect with others, yet there is a sort of magic that is evoked by sending letters and cards in your own writing. I have two friends in England with whom I regularly swap letters, cards, small gifts etc. via the good old snail mail. The personal touch that is given by your own handwriting and to actually hold something that was lovingly sent by someone miles apart is something that is unbeaten by everything else! Although, it is a bit time consuming and I have to admit, sometimes the days are just too hectic that many times I am rather late in sending wishes for birthdays or holidays and yet, when my friends get my letters or cards, they are so very thrilled and happy and its the same for me when I get something from my friends.
@flapiz (5655)
• Australia
10 May 11
Haha I could totally relate to the time consuming part and replying late. It kinda makes me guilty sometimes, but my friends seems to understand. I definitely agree too that there is some sort of magic in a letter. It's like there are some fairy dusts inside the envelope. How long have you been corresponding with your pen pals? Thank you so much for your sharing. Have a nice day. :)
• India
9 Jan 12
Hi flapiz, thanks for liking my reply! I have been corresponding with my friends since the summer of 2005, I was over in England for two months and formed a wonderful friendship with two of the ladies I worked with, they are amazingly beautiful people, gentle and caring and I correspond with them regularly although I must admit that it takes quite some efforts, with so many chores on hand and my -3year-old son driving me crazy. But like you rightly said, there is always some fairy dust in each envelope that makes it worth all those efforts!
@oninomar (506)
• Philippines
11 May 11
Hi flapiz, Nice story you have.. You really have much time for that stuff. well, I also do that 4yrs ago i think. After our graduation in high school, my bestfriend and I entered in different universities and we don't have much time to see each other. Then he said to me that what if we trade letters for both of us, so that we can still communicate and that is more fun, that was she's thinking about it.. So we started to send letters with each others, exchanging and sharing our experiences in school and other stuff. We also exchange pictures with our new friends, we always share the good happenings. I always have fun to do that, but when we were busy with our own self and especially in school, we stopped sending letters, She was the first who stop it so, there is no reason for a reply.. I just understand her and we still friends, we just now using OL sometimes.. Also have one more story, this is about my childhood friend, we were close since I was 6 or 7 yrs old.. We always play and she was always my play mate.. When her family decided to transfer in other place I was very sad, and don't know what to feel during that time.. She is my only girl friend that time.. Then, after 12yrs I think I receive a letter from her. I was not expecting that letter and I was really surprised about it.. I thought she already forget about me.. That is how friendship built, even for how many years of no communications as long as the love of a friend is there you have not to worry.. have a nice day/
@flapiz (5655)
• Australia
11 May 11
Hello Oninomar, Wow! I am happy to get to know another letter-writer :) You know what, I think you must have touched a lot of people as evident by your letter friends. You are very lucky mate. It's not everyday that you get to touch someone's life. :) I totally agree with you that the most important thing in friendship is the love of a friend. And I can see you have truly found it.
@moirai (2243)
• Philippines
10 May 11
Hmm... I suppose it is nice to actually write a letter too... I mean by hand. But for me, the important thing is the exchange, whether it's by snail mail or by email, or even by chat or text messages... The disadvantage of the latter ones is that they are electronic, or dependent on particular devices (computer and phone). And unless you save them or print them out, the messages may/will eventually be lost. The disadvantage of the former is the time. You mentioned about thrill and excitement as you wait... well, I suppose... but I get impatient. =P (Also, there is that possibility of mail getting lost along the way... and there is no outbox to go to to get a copy to re-send. =P ) To me, writing by email does not necessarily mean no effort or diligence was given in writing it. This depends on the writer, see. I, for one, put a lot of effort in writing pretty much everything... =P And hopefully that will be evident to the ones who read. Yes, even in emails. =P Have a nice day too! =)
@flapiz (5655)
• Australia
11 May 11
Hello Moirai. I agree with the pros and cons you have mentioned above. It is indeed really hard to keep electronic messages. And true, I get impatient in waiting for my letter too. I always check the mailbox. haha.. But for me it's a nice feeling of anticipation. LoL. I also used to worry about the mail getting lost along the way. That's actually what I worry about when a reply doesn't arrive soon. Haha. But so far it never happened to me yet. And I pray that It won't. LOL. Well I can see what you mean when you say you write with effort and diligence even in emails. You certainly typed a lot of words in your comment. And for this I am grateful for your well said sharing. Have a nice day. :)
• Philippines
10 May 11
I agree with you. writing letters are more personal. When I was in highschool and college I always write letters to my friends. The letters were just to thank them for something they've done for me or to just cheer them up. I also wrote letters to my cousins who where living quite far from my family. I was always excited to receive a letter from a postman. I felt that I was special and someone important to rceive a letter. I just relaized I should write my friends/family a handwritten letter. :)
@flapiz (5655)
• Australia
10 May 11
Hello there pal :) I've experienced writing a letter to my faraway cousin too. I think she wrote me first then I replied. Now that I come to think about it, she was the one who inspired me to start pen palling. I think the letter writing really helped me to get in touch with distant relatives too. When she visited here in my country for the first time, she and I felt very close because of the letters. I think writing a letter to your friends and family is indeed a nice idea. Thanks for your sharing and insight:)
• Philippines
10 May 11
I love letter-writing too! I have been writing all my life... yes, writing to friends from around the world. The excitement soars when the mail man would call out my name every morning or when i come home from school and find letters on the shelf for me. When I was a kid, I have 3 penpals from different states of the United States. On special occasion they would send me gifts as I did the same to them till I lost communication with them when we went to College. I never stopped writing though to other friends, yes local friends. Every month i would find 4-6 letters on the shelf for me. Infact, I have compiled them... letters, post cards, birthday & christmas cards and pictures. I should have brought the binder along when I got married. The termites at our old house ate my memorabilia up and I missed the good old days when the thrill of writing to and receiving letters from far-away friends. Letter-writing has honed my writing skill. Now that emailing is the fads, still I never stop emailing friends... new and old ones though. But I haven't stopped searching for my pen friends wayback elementary days. It would be nice then to introduce you to my daughter who is in college so that you can be pen friends too.
@flapiz (5655)
• Australia
10 May 11
WOW you certainly did a lot of letter writing. Too bad you lost your memorabilia, but anyway it is not as important as the memory and the experience itself. I also keep the letters I receive. I keep them in a box, but you gave me an idea to use a binder. Thanks. Well I would love to have your daughter as a pen friend. That is of course, if she wants too. :) Thanks for sharing your experience to me. I enjoyed it a lot. Have a nice day ahead.
@SIMPLYD (82835)
• Philippines
10 May 11
In my high school days i used to have a pen pals from Korea and Taiwan. Just like you, we exchanged trinkets , photos and other souvenirs that could just be inserted in those letters. Unfortunately, when i went to College and got so busy studying, i didn't write letters anymore so we lost touch. What's so special about letter writing is you know that they have given time just to write and mail those letters. You look forward receiving mails from them and along the way, i collected stamps also. Keep up your letter writing. Who knows someday, when all of you have jobs and still single, you would be visited on your place by them, just like my cousin who was visited by his Taiwanese friend.
@flapiz (5655)
• Australia
10 May 11
Wow that is so awesome! I never had a pen pal from Korea before. I really admire Koreans and their culture and movies. Indeed it feels good to know that your pen pals are sharing even a tiny bit of their time to write a letter even in this busy day. Well I would really love to have my friends visit me too. Your cousin is very lucky. Thanks for sharing. I enjoyed reading your post. Have a nice day.
@jshekhar (1563)
• India
10 May 11
Hello flapiz, It's great to see that you have developed a friendship based on the good old e-mail even in this age. Kudos to you and your friends! One way to look at it is that if a person can actually go through the pain of writing a letter with his own hands, he/she is really caring about you. I used to have a letter friend about a decade ago but with the passage of time even she has decided to switch to the technology savvy way of communicating.
@flapiz (5655)
• Australia
10 May 11
Well at least you have tried it. I mean what a pity for those who haven't tried letter writing. They've missed an important passage in life. Well my German pen pal and I are already friends in facebook but we still write letters to each other. So we are getting the best of both worlds. My Chinese penpal is a bit traditional though, but I still love it. Thank you for your sharing. :)