If your mom starts using Facebook, should you accept her out of respect?

@inkyuboz (1289)
Mandaluyong City, Philippines
May 22, 2011 4:08pm CST
I mean Facebook is a very open "book" about your life and in my opinion, it's the best way for mothers to know what their children, spouses, even old friends are up to. They also have the right to use this technology anyway, so there's no question about that. The only problem for most people is though is the fact that moms always feel the need to meddle about their kids' daily affairs. And they always see the need to put their opinion in EVERYTHING. So mylotters, have you accepted your mom in Facebook lately? :)
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18 responses
• India
23 May 11
Humm nice discussion dude. Well tell you the truth i have my uncle's and Dad's request on facebook but i havet yet accepted it. When i add them they will know about each and everything about my status friends who are they, They will be like sniper dogs for me to protect and knowing all about my friends. So i have just kept the friend requests as it is and haven't accepted it. My dad and uncle never asked me about the request i just take that for granted and haven't accepted it. So my suggestion would be dont accept her friend request just keep it as it is and enjoy facebook.
@CTHanum (8255)
• Malaysia
23 May 11
If we don't do anything wrong it is okay to accept their requests . Unless we did not want them to know about our 'secrets' ~
@besthope44 (12146)
• India
24 Jul 11
Hi Inkyuboz, I like the idea of parents using Facebook. If my mom uses it i will readily accept her as she is more of my friend and we dont have any secrets. I would readily accept her without hesitations.
• United States
20 Jul 11
my mom's not computer savvy,so no worries there..but if she did,hell no. my mom loves running her mouth about stuff,and i wouldn't want to deal with it.
@cream97 (29178)
• United States
29 May 11
Hi. inkyuboz. My mom is deceased right now. But if she was the type of mom that was not nosy and demanding, I will not have a problem with her being my friend on Facebook. If she is nosy and demanding, I will just set up another account on Facebook, so that she can still be a friend of mines then. Facebook is considered to be very personal to me, so having my mother as my friend makes me feel strange. I have nothing to hide on Facebook, so it would be okay for her to be my friend then.
• United States
27 May 11
Neither of my parents are on Facebook but most of my aunts and uncles are and I am friends with them. If my parents decided to join I would friend them. My kids both have Facebook pages and I am friends with them.
• Mexico
24 May 11
Hi inkyuboz: my mum has a facebook and I have add it as a friend. Why not? I would hurt it if I denied her invitation. In my case there's no problem because my mom rarely use facebook and she is not commenting every post I have. ALVARO
@JenInTN (27568)
• United States
24 May 11
I am on my daughter's facebook friend list..lol..I try not to meddle. I don't spend a lot of time on there anyway. I do like being able to make sure that everything is appropriate. I tease her sometimes that I am going to post on her facebook about her room..lol. I wouldn't, but she doesn't know that for sure. I guess I am one of those moms that you don't want to friend
@dorannmwin (36609)
• United States
24 May 11
I was a facebook member long before my mother became a member of that site. With that said, when she did decide to start her own account, I was among the first people that accepted her friend request. My mother has always been one of my best friends from the time that I was a child through my teenage years and into my adulthood. There have been very few things that I've hidden from her and because of that I had no qualms at all of accepting her as a facebook friend.
23 May 11
I kinda regret accepting my family as friends on facebook. I can no longer vent out like a normal teenager without someone asking 'whats wrong'. I mean, its good to have your mum as a friend on facebook...if you want to bombarded with questions about your personal life. But what can you expect? Mums are mums after all!
• Philippines
23 May 11
My mom and I are "friends" in Facebook. Listed as "Mother" and even my friends are friends with her on Facebook. Until two days ago, she told me she forgot her password. I have to recover it again through her email. She hardly goes online though because she's busy with work.
@ckyera (17202)
• Philippines
23 May 11
Oh how I wish my mom would have an account in facebook too, but she's just not into it! hehe I want her to have an account so that she can see the photos that I uploaded there but they don't have an internet in the house and so it will be a waste of time for her to go to computer shops just to do update on facebook! haha and besides she also need some assistance coz she's don't know about it and not interested to learn, even when we are just talking on messenger, she didn't last long coz she's having a headache! But, when time comes that she will be interested in it, I will be the one to invite her to be a friend!
@CTHanum (8255)
• Malaysia
23 May 11
Hi there! My mom do not know about facebook so she will be not here forever. But am not using the facebook in a wrong way so if one day she will request me to be my friends I will certainly accept her as my friend. Like my little niece, she accepted my sister her mom as her friend and she really need to do that as we can't really trust little girl play around in facebook.
@ddaguno (3110)
• Philippines
23 May 11
my mom has a facebook account and I cant not accept her. it would be the start of a long and hurtful conversation if I didnt. My mom doesnt see me as an individual. she thinks of me as an extension of her and she wants to know EVERYTHING about me. I am considering making a dummy account where I invite only the friends that me and my mom both know just so i can keep somethings to myself.
• Indonesia
23 May 11
I can't åccept coz I am shy to comunicate on facebook.
• United States
23 May 11
My mom wanted to be a friend on my facebook, so i told her I would accept if she didn't post crazy stuff about me on there and also that she needed to understand that she may not agree with some of the things she shes on there. I told her I would accept if she can be open minded, and she agreed and it has been great..
• Philippines
23 May 11
I say Yes since first of all she is your mother. Im not afraid what she may read since im not hiding anything from her. If i have private matters i do talk about it with her when were together.
@celticeagle (102386)
• Boise, Idaho
22 May 11
My mom is not with us anymore so this wouldn't pertain to me but I did want to put forth afew ideas. I would first ask why this mother is on Facebook and why is there even a question of accepting or not accepting this mother. Is it a trust issue? Is there a problem with some fascet of the sharing prospect? And I have even heard of members having two different accounts. One for yourself and one for the other people you have to put on for. Sad world if that is the case.
• United States
22 May 11
My mom requested me on Facebook but I didn't accept. Since I'm still living in the same house as her I don't feel it's necessary to have her as an online friend too. If she wants to know something all she has to do is ask me in person. Maybe when I move out I might add her, but keep her on a limited profile. She doesn't need to know every little detail about my life.