Why would you do if he says "I have found the one I want to marry"

@laydee (12813)
Philippines
May 26, 2011 9:40pm CST
I was with my friend the whole Thursday this week, she is my high school friend and we've not seen each other for a long time now. We were just catching up with life and she's already married and has a toddler. As for me, I am still single. We were talking about the differences in life of a single and a married person and I think apart from the daily obligations for the kid, it's quite similar in a lot of ways. However, we cam across the topic of people being together for so long then one finally decides that they're not for each other and decides to marry someone they just met. She told me she had a friend who was her counselor in her college years, he was with that woman for 8years then one day, he confessed he just met another girl and that he knew right then and there that he wanted to marry her. She told me he broke up with the girlfriend for 8years and married that girl after 6months. Another similar incident was also shared with me when a friend told me that her friend was with a guy for about 10years, they weren't married yet because they wanted to 'save money' and he wanted to be 'stable' before they got married. Though, they have started investing, they bought a house which she picked and etc. Only to find out that he would marry another girl who he had just met a few weeks. I guess there are a lot of similar stories as these, but it gives me a lot of trauma and paranoia. My partner and I have been together for roughly 5years now. He had just started getting stable because of a job opportunity that allowed him to work abroad and there are times when I really think ~ what if he'd talk to me one day and say "I have found the one I want to marry, but I guess it's not you". Well, I'm pretty sure it wouldn't be that harsh, but how do you think it would feel like if you were the women in that scenario? It's really overwhelming! What do you think? Thanks for responding in advance. Have a great MyLot experience!
3 responses
• Philippines
27 May 11
I will think he is not my soulmate because no matter what we've been through he will always stay with me.
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@laydee (12813)
• Philippines
27 May 11
And if that happens to you twice (over 10years therefore 20years) then won't you feel exhausted in the end? hehe
• Philippines
27 May 11
I assure you it will no longer happen to me. Pray to God for the right partner, who won't leave you no matter what happens, who will stick with you through thick and thin. Good luck!
• China
27 May 11
I'm a male,but what you said is not only suitable for women.I fell love with my old girl friend in our college time then after 5 years she told me she want to go with other man.At that time,i would plan to marry her after two years. So everyone maybe happen to this situation but i think you should have a plan about the time of marry. Please find a partner who with sense of responsibility,if the partner is without responsibility,he will also leave even if be married.
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@whengcat (1458)
• Philippines
27 May 11
I will be devastated for sure. After all the years you dedicated your life around him and then suddenly just like that? whew, such a very tough situation...
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