I love him so much.. Should take my shot to get him?

Malaysia
May 27, 2011 5:03pm CST
Is it worth it to take shot and chase after a guy that i really love, even i dunno if he still have feelings on me.. I have this ego.. i cursed at him with nasty language when i saw he was flirting at his social page.. i didnt even allow him to explain anything.. since then, i never want to contact him, but i jes observe him discreetly thru internet.. i really dunno why i am so stupid i cant forget him.. i tried to say sorry, but i guess he jes wont forgive me anymore. there are always guys wants to go out with me, i even try to start a new relationship, try to completely forget about him but i jes end up comparing him with every new guy i met.. I dream bout him almost every nite.. it has been 5 months already.. damn!! can anyone gimme some advice please..
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9 responses
@stary1 (6612)
• United States
28 May 11
Oh dear..I read though the responses and you have both let go and go after him. I say give it just one more chance. Make sure he knows exactly how you feel and that you apologize. You could even send him an e-mail or write a letter. That way you can think through what you have to say. Make sure he has read it then if he still doesn't want to continue, it's time to move on. This way at least you know you did everything you could and tried. You won't have to look back and say "I should have tried" ..or you will say "I am glad I gave it one more chance." Good luck to you and best wishes and whatever happens, you will be just fine :)
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• Malaysia
1 Jun 11
Hi stary.. thanx for your advice.. i have never tried that yet.. what if he doesnt even bother to read etc..freaking me out.. but i guess its true wat u said, somehow, we gotta face the reality.. Its a very gud advice ;)
• Philippines
28 May 11
forget him! just move on and go out with guys who is interested in you. You'll save yourself a lot of headaches and heartaches. so do your self a favor: forget him. stop stalking him. erase him from FB. don't contact him
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• Malaysia
1 Jun 11
thanx missy.. that is all im thinking all this while.. i really wish that is so much easier.. :)
@cream97 (29087)
• United States
28 May 11
Hi. cairalyssa. I think that you should first talk to him. You should tell him that you are sorry for cursing at him because you thought that he was flirting at his social page. This should be your first step that you need to take, and then go from there. This is all that you can do. You want to see where his mind and heart is at before you make your move. Once you do this, then you can see if he feels the same way that you do too.
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• Malaysia
1 Jun 11
thanx cream.. its a very helpful advice.. :)
@llsling (331)
• China
28 May 11
Did he ever try to get a hold of you and figure out what's really going on between you guys ? I don't know either how good or bad he exactly is as a person .If he you think really deserves your apology and of course you can go back to him .I don't get why you are simply blaming for no good reason .Tell him how you are feeling no matter what the outcome is ,don't ever let yourself regret not even taking a shot . Go get 'em gal ,as long as you think he still deserves your love .
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• Malaysia
29 May 11
thanx for your advice buddy, maybe its bad to give in to jealousy..
• Philippines
28 May 11
Aaahhh... LOVE.... and the stupid things that makes you do it. Anyway, if out of 8 people who responded that you go forget the guy...I think I'll go with their advices my friend. First thing, I certainly doubt if he had special feelings for you if he had been flirting with someone at his social pages. Second, if you're special to him, after you'd said "sorry", he would outright forgive you...but did he or you haven't really said sorry yet?? Now you have your ego but men have pride too, and more often than not, we usually swallow that pride just to make the first move to contact the girl we really loved..and I don't think it usually takes up to 5 months.
• Philippines
2 Jun 11
try diverting your mind with your growing online business...you're getting richer already everyday, hehe...
• Malaysia
1 Jun 11
hey smashville! how r u doing! well.. usually it doesnt take that long for me to forget someone too.. hehehe..i think i shud be doing fine by keeping positive mind attiitude.. I believe if its mine, it will be mine somehow, and if its not.. even i have done all the best.. it will not happen too.. have great day to you!
@original8 (107)
• Belgium
28 May 11
Dreams are the Consciousness of what you mostly experienced daily and your true desire is reflected back in that dream, but make no mistake what you see in dreams in actually happening at that moment, many scientist wonder what dreams are but it are actual reality's just as this physical one, its your nightly playground that you experience during sleep, your creation center. And yes if i can give you advice if you feel it within which you truelly do and i can tell because its reflected in your dreamspace/time world what i say to people who ask me advice to tell someone that they love him or her, there is a very romantic way to do this first talk a bit with this guy because there has to be atleast a conversation prior to doing this and then slowly change subject, and it does not matter about what you speak, but if you feel the time is right then ask for his hand and tell him: what i'm going to do now is not say it but letting you feel what i feel deep inside. and then take his hand and place it on your chest so that he feels your heartbeat, okay i know that for woman this might sound awkward because of the female body parts, but this truelly is a way of saying it through the language of the heart. and whatever response you get if he say wow and he evantualy loves you too then great but if the response is not what you expect then do not feel disspointed because this will only create a situation in which you take yourself down and your oppertunity to find someone you want to be together with. Let the Heart speak not the Mind xxx
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• United States
28 May 11
I think life, especially love, is about taking a risk. You never know where you guys will end up if you don't take a chance. I think that you should talk to him one more time and explain to him the reason for you get mad at him. Tell how you feel. If you can' t get over him then maybe it shows you that you really are falling for him.
• Malaysia
1 Jun 11
completely!!! it shud be a risk worth taking.. :) thank you for your advice estii, i gimme so much encouragement from all this response i get..
@arshan18 (51)
• Philippines
28 May 11
why don't talk to him and open up that topic? it is better to know what will be his reaction than trying to make an action without even knowing his feelings. what if he still have feelings for you? i think you do love him very much. i hope both of you will give your relationship a second chance and i'm hoping that it would be happier than the first one. ^^
• United States
2 Jun 11
The first thing you need to do is tell him how you feel about him even though it may be hard. Then ask him how he feels. No man is perfect, and you are not wrong because you got mad at him. But the heart wants what the heart wants and you can't change that. If he says he does not want to be with you it will hurt. I'm not going to lie to you, but it is better to know than to wonder. Give it a try. I am sure it will work because I have been there before. Men don't always come running back like we hope for, but if he loves you he is waiting. Just make the move.