Is that what some women Really Want?
@sarahruthbeth22 (43143)
United States
May 31, 2011 9:46am CST
I was watching Ray Romano on the View and he said something in jest that made me wonder, is that what some women Really Want? He said he got into an argument with his wife just because during the time they were suppose to have this talk, she fell asleep and he started to read a book. She got up and was upset because he was reading instead of thinking of her! then he said He Finally figured out that women want you to give them your complete attention 24/7 and when they are asleep you should draw a sketch of them as they sleep.I thought it was sad not funny. I never want to be the Only thing my guy thinks about. And I believe he needs space , Plenty of it! That way when we are together , he Wants to be there! He isn't being coerced by some form of obligation. So I ask you , do you want your partner to Only think of you?
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@yspmyl (3435)
• Malaysia
3 Jun 11
Hi!
If I am Ray Romano, I will be too busy by thinking of my wife 24/7. LOL. We still need some of our own personal time to think of other things. I think it is not possible to keep thinking of someone all the time, and if my wife is asking me to think of her that way, I will think that she is so selfish. But, really, I belive what Ray Romano said, every woman will like their man to only think of them all the time. 
@sarahruthbeth22 (43143)
• United States
3 Jun 11
I think even Thinking a guy should do this is sad. And it shows how insecure the woman is.
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@dodo19 (47077)
• Beaconsfield, Quebec
1 Jun 11
Every woman is different, and I think that it's safe to say that we don't necessarily want the same things. I'm sure that it's similar with guys. Not all guys are the same, and for this reason, guys may not all want the same things. Not all women want to have people's attention 24/7. I am a woman, and it doesn't bother me if my husband doesn't think of me 24/7. I don't mind if he thinks of other things, besides me. I'm sure some women do want that of their partners, but I'm not one of them.
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@sarahruthbeth22 (43143)
• United States
2 Jun 11
Agreed! Thanks for your response.
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@youless (112123)
• Guangzhou, China
1 Jun 11
To be frank, I do want my husband to think of me only. He shall pay attention to me and notice my little changes. I want to be cared. It will make me feel security and loved. Of course he can have his own space, but when he is with me, I shall be his focus:)
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@sarahruthbeth22 (43143)
• United States
2 Jun 11
I want my guy to be so comfortable when he is with me that his mind Can wander. If by being with me , he feels at ease and can Finally figure out other things I am happy.
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@bird123 (10632)
• United States
1 Jun 11
Everybody wants to rule the world. Sounds like women have this too. People should understand that the only way to have a Glorious relationship is by not controlling it. Influence all you want but allow total freedom. Control will never hold onto anyone. It's always been the love. Give unconditional love and it will be Glorious!!
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@petersum (4522)
• United States
31 May 11
I have met some women that think that way Not quite as extreme though. They tend to be very shallow in many other ways as well, so the relationship doesn't last very long, if it gets started at all! Men can also be the same, I guess. Psychiatrists must have a fancy name for this.
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@sarahruthbeth22 (43143)
• United States
31 May 11
Yes , it is a sign of lack of self-esteem. Their amount of self worth is so low that they Need this type of attention. it is so sad.
@StephanieAnnC (4274)
• United States
1 Jun 11
Hmm. I had to ponder this one a moment.
I mean, I want my boyfriend to think of me. But, I know that I'm not the only thing on his mind. He's human and has other things he has to do and worry about and such. Instead, I'd just rather be on top of the his list, but not being in his thoughts every second doesn't bother me in the slightest.
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@sarahruthbeth22 (43143)
• United States
1 Jun 11
I totally agree. It tickles me that I have a guy Who Thinks of me at all!
@sarahruthbeth22 (43143)
• United States
1 Jun 11
My guy enters my thoughts often And I know he thinks of me too . It Is mutual.
@StephanieAnnC (4274)
• United States
1 Jun 11
I think about my boyfriend all the time. Not every second, but you catch the drift. I bet he thinks of me as well. Your boyfrienoft or fiancé or husband should return the favor as well!
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@danishcanadian (28953)
• Canada
18 Aug 11
lol That's just sad!!!! I've never heard of any woman that wanted that!!!
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@mylesnarvaez (5451)
• Philippines
1 Jun 11
goodness! i don't think so. it's not only being possessive, it's kind of an obsession to be like that 24/7.
i don't think women are like that. it's a bit extreme. perhaps it's an exaggeration on the part of ray romano. i haven't met a person who's even obsessed with one's own face he/she would look at it or think of it 24/7... much less another person.
yeah, kinda sad, not even funny one bit.
it isn't healthy if a person only thinks about his/her partner. it would be suffocating after some time when the novelty fades. personal space is still encouraged for personal growth.
@JenInTN (27514)
• United States
31 May 11
Noway..I would never get any peace then.
I love spending time with him, but it might be creepy f all he ever did was think of me. I think it would be creepy if he were sketching me in his sleep too.
I think Mr Romano was just making a bad joke.
I love spending time with him, but it might be creepy f all he ever did was think of me. I think it would be creepy if he were sketching me in his sleep too.
I think Mr Romano was just making a bad joke.1 person likes this
@bodhisatya (2384)
• India
31 May 11
Hi Sarah,
I think it will depend from person to person. And yes, there are some people who could be so overtly possessive or just so plain stupid to expect something like that. as you said in any relationship a certain amount of space is very much required. I think any matured person shall never expect his/ her partner to keep thin king about them 24/7. I dare say that a relationship with this kind of a person may not stand long and could result into serious complications.
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@sarahruthbeth22 (43143)
• United States
31 May 11
Thanks . It was such a shock for me to hear. I thought There was something wrong with me.
@piya84 (2581)
• India
31 May 11
I dont think so i would like my guy to think about me 24 hours and continuously pamper my ego.I think its is a phase in a relationship when people do that.[infatuation?]But after that both people need to give each other some space.
@blue65packer (11826)
• United States
31 May 11
I call this being smothered and wanting to be smothered! I have been there and been there when I was totally ignored,too! I know this can't be what every woman wants! Hell no! I sure don't want to be in a relationship like that! Everyone needs their space! If someone can't handle the space between them,well,they have issues! Big issues!
@inertia4 (27961)
• United States
1 Jun 11
I did not see the show but I think he said it as a joke. He is a funny guy. The view sometimes gets me sick, too much talking about nothing, same thing with CathyLee and Hoda. Blah, Blah, Blah. I would rather be on the computer than watch stupid TV.
@sarahruthbeth22 (43143)
• United States
1 Jun 11
It's a chick show. Totally not your cup of tea, lol! Question. What would you do if a woman wanted you to think about her 24/7?
