Hidden love felt for your parents...
By Filigs
@Filigs (122)
Portugal
June 6, 2011 2:35pm CST
First of all, I'm sure that many people loves their parents as much as I love mine but we're always argueing with them and seems like we dont give a damn about them right? Well, this is why I'm making this discussion, is to have my commentary about it and express my feelings...
There are times that I come home and I'm a bit tired and sometimes not happy, but not sad, lets say normal humoured, and my mom is a bit stressed, stressed enough to get me pissed off, then we start argueing, my step dad doesn't help, and then I start argueing at both... But I don't want to, but I do that like automatically, always, and then like 15 minutes after what happened, I regret for what I've done, I think about going there to say sorry but I can't, this happens like not as much as often, but happens sometimes, atleast to me... and I'm sure this doesn't happen only to me!!
But, with all the argues, I think its normal argueing, if we don't argue that means we don't care at each other right? I mean, after all these years, they have endured me all the time, both my mom and my step dad and my dad, I didn't thank them ONE SINGLE TIME!! I want to, but I can't, once again... If they all knew I how much I love them, how much I regret from the bad times we had and have, how much I regret from saying "no" to them when they most of the times say "yes" to me, I don't think I can ever repay what they have done to me... I once said, "I don't have patience to take care of a child, I don't think I'll ever have a son or a daughter", once again I regret for that, because if they thinked that way, I wouldn't exist and I wouldn't be here typing this right?
I treat my dad like he is my friend, because he has my style, hes cool, doesn't really look like his age, hes my dad but he looks like a teenager and I like that in him, both my mom and my dad are good parents, they do their jobs, and I really apreciate that, and I can promise that I will try as much as I can to repay ALL what you've did to me, I most likely can't but atleast I have the spirit to try!!
So, summarizing all this text, here I've typed what my parents mean to me, many things in my life wouldnt happen if it wasn't them, this text is really emotional, if they ever read this, I can't assure you that a single tear won't fall, because I know it will, even though they know the person I am but I think they already know how much I love them in my way, they will still atleast smile if they ever read this... And I hope they do but I'm not the one showing them for sure!!
Tell me your opinion about my text, if you want, but what I want from you all is to tell me what you feel for your parents and your stories, please don't create things, this is supposed to be real and emotional, no point in posting for money, seriously don't!!
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5 responses
@laydee (12798)
• Philippines
7 Jun 11
Arguing with them doesn't mean you don't love them. I do argue with my parents and siblings too but I love them dearly. I guess as we grow older, we would have different preferences and because of these uniqueness we tend to not get along with our parents' preferences. Therefore, a lot of clashing in terms of wants would come.
I could remember my mom telling me one time that it's easier to take care of a baby and a kid because they depend so much with what the parents give them or tell them. They accept anything and they're always happy to see the parents. But as the kids grow up, they form new friends, new preferences, new styles and it becomes tougher for the parents to control or guide them.
Then when they (children) become young adults, it's all the more difficult because they have a mind of their own and most of the time feels that the parents are already old and anything they say or do isn't important anymore - which is sad.
I do respect my parents and I know that they know more. However, I can't help but argue with them about some things because I sometimes feel that they're stuck with the old ideas. I'm not saying my parents are already old, it's just their idea of some things are stuck in the past or there are new ideas that would make things better but they prefer what they've grown up with.
I don't detest them for doing so, it's just that sometimes they still treat you like a kid and tell you what to do. Well, I guess that's the way it is, which is why there are a lot of bickering and misunderstanding in the household.
But generally, my family is great. There are no shouting and throwing of things, neither are there tantrums and no speaking for a day or a week. I guess that's part of growing up - having the need to be different and clashing with other people you live with because of that 'difference'.
But all in all, regardless the differences or uniqueness of each, we still do love each other and nothing can take that away from us.
It's good that you know that you love your parents and still see them as someone important in your life. Parents are really of great value, I hope teenagers realize that before it's too late.
Have a great MyLot experience!
@Filigs (122)
• Portugal
7 Jun 11
I loved reading this :o , this commentary is amazing, one of the best commentaries I ever had in a discussion, I agree with every single word there, and the last like "I hope teenagers realize that before it's too late", really, you better do trust me, or you'll regret it... I have the same experiences as you, when I say I'm going out to some place, they treat me like a young kid, sometimes they try not to let me go, but they fail at that, they sometimes forget we're grown already, and one more thing, they worry about you and I'm sure there isn't one day that they don't think about you or worry about you, even if you don't talk to each other, its a fact... But owell, thanks for the commentary, it was just amazing!! :)
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@KrauseHome (36448)
• United States
11 Jun 11
Well, my Mom has been gone now for 3 1/2 yrs, but I can relate with this one as there was a lot of times when I was younger that it always seemed like my Mom and I always argued about things, and did not always get along. There were even times in my life where I did not even talk with her and it was OK, but there are many times I knew I loved her, as she did me even though we needed our space. Just take time even in the bad times to let them know you Love them as they will not always be around.
@Filigs (122)
• Portugal
12 Jun 11
First of all, I'm very sorry for your loss, I cna hardly imagine me after any of my parents pass away... Anyway, what you say is what happens to lots of us, maybe most, and what happens to me too, there are times that I can't stand her, times that I can't say a word to her or listen her, and times that I hate her, but in the other hand there are times that shes maybe the best person in my world, emotions can be funny sometimes... Anyways very nice comment and thanks for commenting!
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@krieyszel (330)
• Philippines
7 Jun 11
It's good you've shared to us your story and your feelings about it and you're right you are not the only person who experienced like that-- I believed most people experienced that kind of feelings and as we move forward there are still many people to come to experienced that.
I think the most valued treasure in this world is our family, and if we are daughters or sons we most value our parents than anything else right? though there are many materials or luxurious things in the world and around us that can make us happy but it cannot satisfy ever (maybe there were few people who can choose their desire to interchange with their parents but those peoples are, can be possibly greed and I don't really know what more term would i possibly say to describe them. Anyway, this is not the culprit of the text I'm writing now.) As I said, our parents is very important to us but this present times there are many barriers that we cannot easily show how much we value our parents and in this case it's been natural to be on this situation. Most of us argue to our parents for a reasons and it's been normal and I can't not say that you don't value them if you argue them, my point is, of course we are free to argue with our parents if we have the good point and right standing to argue and let's not forget to keep the respect to them, I mean we can possibly argue in the proper and most calm way.
In other side of showing our thankfulness and love to them, most people don't know how to do that or don't just feel to show it to their parents and our reason are sometime that we are shy. We are shy that's why we cannot open up to them, that we cannot say that we love them and thank them so much. But i want to challenge and encourage those people who can read this, let's try just even once, how much we value our parents because we don't know until when we'll they be staying here. The important is now, don't make action where everything seems to be late.
@Filigs (122)
• Portugal
7 Jun 11
Very true, sometimes I argue with my parents in a rude way... I talk like I'm talking with some friend or something and I forget that they are my parents and they deserve respect... Thats what I've talked about, I do that but then minutes later I really regret for that, I think about go say sorry to them but I just can't... No one agrees with every thought or idea, thats where the argue comes, if we agreed with everything we would be fake, which is much worse than the own argueness or whatever. And yep, that's easy to say, do things rather earlier than later, but the things we say that are always the hardest ones, like this one, it isn't the thing that you think "Now I'm goin to do this", nope, I'm sure there will be a moment in every person's life that there will be a perfect time to tell them that, rather not at the end of time, but in the middle, it can't be in a random time... Doesn't make sence and isn't intense at all, or not as much... But I loved your comment and thanks for commenting!! :D
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@Valadas (83)
• Portugal
6 Jun 11
Really nice discussion man, I can see by your text that you really love your parents and care a lot for them. Me, personally, I'm very similar to you, I love my parents and I don't have the guts to express my feelings for them. I really regret this. And I think that most teenagers nowadays are like this. And some even don't like their parents. We argue more than we love. Not because we want too, but because we don't have the courage to do so.
I made a discussion the other day a little bit about this. I was frustrated with a thing that happened to me in that day that was related with my parents and in the end I added that I would try to help them more and argue less. From that day I changed just a little bit. I help a little bit more but not enough. I'm like you at the moment, thinking to myself that I can't repay for everything that they have done to me so far. Firstly I wouldn't be here if it wasn't for them, and secondly they give me more things than I give to them. They have more patience for me than I have to them. Because I argue about the minimal thing. Most of the times because I'm tired, which makes it even more stupid. It's automatic just like you said. And I also don't have the guts to go there and say sorry. Almost nobody does.
And that's it for my comment. Hope you like it as much as I liked your discussion, because it's a really awesome topic that all people should read and reflect about it.
Cheers. =)
@Filigs (122)
• Portugal
6 Jun 11
really nice comments!! I loved it, 1st because I know all that cause I know you, and 2nd because its really similiar to me... the hardest thing is that we know whats happening, but we cant do anything about it, its like a force preventing us , we want but we can't... Its so bad but its a fact!!
Thnks for the comment!! ^^
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@chinamma (24)
• India
7 Jun 11
very nice discussion man.everyone in the world love their parents but some cannot express it and iam one among them.i really love them because they pretend like they are very strict to me but they do everything as i like and they never hurt me.my mom punishes me when i come late to home after a party but when i don't go to any of my friends party she comes to me and talks to me.I just love them and my mom,dad are the best in the whole world.and i love them.
