When a friend's in need: Words can't help, nothing left to say?

United States
June 7, 2011 4:31pm CST
Have you ever been in the situation where you can't think of a single thing to say to someone that will make their bad day better (without sounding cliche or sappy)? What are some of you-all's experiences and answers to this dilemna?
4 responses
@ariana01 (182)
• United States
9 Jun 11
when a friend makes a bad decision and they are upset that the consequences are catching up to them.
@mohammed3 (208)
• United States
8 Jun 11
Hey Balthasar, I've been there a good few times when it seems like my friends just have one problem after another piling up. Sometimes when you don't have any advice left to give or it just isn't helpful, I think it's best to just have the person vent and you listen. Communicating something with someone is definitely more helpful to the person than keeping it bottled up.
@delilahz (26)
• China
8 Jun 11
Sometimes I feel that way too. Nothing can be done for them to make things better. It makes me fell bad. I told my friend once about how am I feel when she got in trouble. Then she said that she did not expect anything from me except listen to her. This conversation benefited both of us. Hope it can do you too.
@devideddi (1437)
• United States
7 Jun 11
My friend's mother has just been moved to Hospice so I know things are going to get rough for him. I don't know what to say beside I'm sorry. Sometimes people just need people to listen to them, let them rant or cry or scream. Sometimes they just want to be silent but it feels good to have someone sitting silent with them. Just let them know you are there and supporting them. If its real bad it might help to bring food or make sure they are eating or taking care of small stuff like taking out the trash or doing the dishes.