How do you call your another half after you have kids?
By yspmyl
@yspmyl (3435)
Malaysia
June 12, 2011 7:05pm CST
Me and my wife use to call each other's name before we got married, and we call each other honey after we've got married, later after we've got first child, and when he know how to talk, we started to call each other mom and dad.
Yeah, it might be weird when other hear us calling each other mom and dad, but there is reason behind it, when we call each other honey, our kid also follow us to call us honey, or sometime call our name instead of mom and dad. So in order for our kid to call us mom and dad, we started to call each other mom and dad. And that is quite funny for others who heard it.
So, how do you call your the other half, do you call his/her name or something else or like us, mom and dad?
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7 responses
@sweet_pea (3322)
• Philippines
13 Jun 11
Before we got married, I call my husband honey and he calls me baby. Then when we got married we start to call each other Pa and Ma (short for papa and mama) even before we have kids. Both our parents called each other by those names, so we kind of adapt it also. And you are right, it is easier for our children to pinpoint mom and dad with those terms. Children learn by example. They usually do what they see in their parents.
@yspmyl (3435)
• Malaysia
15 Jun 11
Hi Sweet_pea,
That is really rare that people call each other pa and ma after they got married. 
I always though that when a couple have kids then they will only start to call each other in that way. Yeah, children really learn by example, my son call my name right after my wife call me, he almost learn that immediately. That was why we decided to change the way we call each other since for us a child calling their parent name directly instead of pa and ma is consider quite rude.
I always though that when a couple have kids then they will only start to call each other in that way. Yeah, children really learn by example, my son call my name right after my wife call me, he almost learn that immediately. That was why we decided to change the way we call each other since for us a child calling their parent name directly instead of pa and ma is consider quite rude.@sweet_pea (3322)
• Philippines
15 Jun 11
Children are great imitators. Once my son heard our cousin call us by our names. He jokingly used them to call us by our names. Of course we cannot compel our cousin to call us Pa and Ma. That would be totally weird. 
When he do that, I call him granny.
When he do that, I call him granny.
@Sreekala (34312)
• India
16 Jul 11
Hi yspmyl,
Lol, it means this practice is common all over the world. I have seen many parents do salute their partner in this way especially in front of the kids or guests. In person they can call whatever they wish to each other but many are showing much concern while addressing each other if somebody is present. It may be weird.
In my case, we have special names (other than the real name) for each other to call but we also practice the same when kids are around. My hubby rarely calls my real name if he calls then add the ‘mom’ part too with my name. If I am in a hurry or I want to convey some serious things in a hurry when I am in kitchen I will call him with the special name. Then I noticed my kids are enjoying the call and trying to imitate…
In my case, we have special names (other than the real name) for each other to call but we also practice the same when kids are around. My hubby rarely calls my real name if he calls then add the ‘mom’ part too with my name. If I am in a hurry or I want to convey some serious things in a hurry when I am in kitchen I will call him with the special name. Then I noticed my kids are enjoying the call and trying to imitate…
@yspmyl (3435)
• Malaysia
18 Jul 11
Hi Sreekala,
Yeah, people will find it weird when they do not understand the logic behind it. They will find it funny why a couple calling each other father and mother instead of their name.
My kids have tried to call us by our name and that make us change to call each other mom and pa.
@zazen6 (169)
• Philippines
28 Jun 11
I figured that to teach the kids on how to call their parents was the reason married people call each other mom and dad.
However, my husband and I still call each other "Ga" (it's short of an endearment word in our dialect) and our son never called us "Ga" but Mommy or Ma, and Daddy or Da...
@yspmyl (3435)
• Malaysia
18 Jul 11
Yeah, you are right, before became a parent, we tend to wonder why they call each other papa and mama.
I believe if a child is use to call the parent pa and ma, they will stay with that instead of calling the parent's name. So, parents can call their partner's name once their children understand what is the correct way to call and how to call the parent.
I believe if a child is use to call the parent pa and ma, they will stay with that instead of calling the parent's name. So, parents can call their partner's name once their children understand what is the correct way to call and how to call the parent.
@lilbabycatapillar (497)
• United States
23 Jun 11
My parents only call each other by their normal names when they are talking to each other, but when they are talking about each other, they called each other mom and dad. So my mom would say "Dad went to the grocery store" but she would still call him George.
@TommyVSGH (11)
• Italy
13 Jun 11
I'm not married, but i like when my parents call each other with the right name.
@yspmyl (3435)
• Malaysia
15 Jun 11
I believe after you get married, when you hear you children call you directly with you name, what will you do, will you still call each other by name or change it with papa and mama? May be for some people they think it is fine for their kids to call their name instead of papa and mama, but for me that is quite rude and irrespective.
@Hatley (163781)
• Garden Grove, California
13 Jun 11
hi yspmyl Once we had kids he was still honey and I was still Pattytricia
as he had first learned how much I hated my name Patsie. so he called me pattytricia and to me that was very special too. My son always called me mom or mommy and I am still mom to him and hes 52 just a few days ago.Our little girl called babys mom or momiepatty as she was brain damaged but she sure did not look it. she was a sweet lovable and very pretty child. we loved her to pieces and were privileged to have had her for 8 short years when Gos took her home.
@yspmyl (3435)
• Malaysia
15 Jun 11
Hi Hatley,
That is really nice to have a son that still calling you mom at the age of 52. Like my son, he is only 4 years old and when he heard both of us calling each other's name, he started to follow how we call each other name and for me that is quite rude for a child to call our name directly. So, we change to call each other mommy and daddy. And that is quite funny when someone else heard us calling each other mommy and daddy.
