Does having more friends online than in real life makes you a bad person?

@r0ck_r0ck (1953)
India
June 13, 2011 10:03am CST
As the tittle says, i often see this concept going around on movies even in real life, People tends to call you a no-lifer, nerd and such if you happen to have more friends online like facebook and other social network sites than in real life. I personally thing this is wrong, judging someone on the facebook friend list is ridiculous. I often see this going around in high school and such, my cousin was telling me yesterday, how there is this nerd in her school, and he has more friends on facebook and doesn't really talk much in school, i told her that maybe because y'all are always picking on him and hating on him, he could be a good friend if y'all give him a chance to be your friend, i can tell she didn't like my opinion much. anyways what do you think about this? share with us.
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20 responses
• United States
14 Jun 11
This is an awesome question. I actually fit in this category I happen to have more friends online then in person. But in this case I don't think it makes you a bad person at all. Some people just feel more comfortable talking to people online then in person cause there are some people who have anxiety. Like me for instance I have social anxiety and it makes it very hard to be personable and talking to people directly out in the real world. But give me a computer and a chat room and I wont stop talking. Its just a matter of comfort as well I think. Because being online in the social networking world you meet people from all over the world where you wouldn't normally meet people like in different countries and what not and sometimes you find people with similar interest that you have. Out in the real world how likely is it for you to come across someone who has the same interest as you? The social networking world is still real the people you meet are still real. So to answer your question No having more friends online then in the real world does not make you a bad person.
@r0ck_r0ck (1953)
• India
14 Jun 11
nicely said, thanks for sharing!
• United States
14 Jun 11
Absolutely, No problem :)
@rakittera (803)
• Philippines
13 Jun 11
I can't say that the person who has more online friends is a bad person. But I think it's quite sad if all of your friends came from the cyberworld. Friendship involves a lot of things like sharing emotions, problems, experiences... while most of these can be shared online, the physical presence of a person still counts a lot. I mean, you can't fully feel a cyber-hug, right? And sometimes, when we talk to a friend about our problem and that friend doesn't talk or offer solutions, we still feel better to just let it out and even much better if our friend gives us a hug or lets us rest our head on their shoulder, right? While emotional connection counts in a relationship like friendship, we cannot deny the fact that we still need the physical connection or touch.
@SkyeHi (84)
• India
13 Jun 11
I share the very same idea. Physical connection with your friends at some point is necessary to 'feel' their friendship. It can't be felt online. In other words, not many of your purely cyber friends are gonna be true friends.
@r0ck_r0ck (1953)
• India
13 Jun 11
yup, physical connection is indeed necessary but this thing has become one of the famous ways to pick on people, which is really insane! anyways thanks for your input.
• Philippines
24 Jun 11
Of course that doesn't matter. It's actually better that he has still many friends online than no friends online and real life at all, right? I guess he's just really shy and he's only confident and making friend online. I understand him. I think those kinds of people must be given respect.
@r0ck_r0ck (1953)
• India
24 Jun 11
Yup maybe he is shy or whatever maybe the reason, i think this should be a person's personal choice and yah we should respect that instead of making fun of him, and calling him names and such. anyways thanks for your input.
@amitgune (877)
• India
14 Jun 11
Well, I know of several people who are complete recluses. They do not mix around with people or interact with them in person. But they are wonderful people online. What has being friends online or offline got to do with making friends?
@r0ck_r0ck (1953)
• India
14 Jun 11
well the scenario that i have mentioned in my original post could perfectly answer your question, i know its quite sad, but its happening as we speak, and there is nothing much we can do unless those kids starts to act a little mature.
• Philippines
14 Jun 11
There is nothing bad about having friends whether online or in real life. There are different types of people. Some of these people are good in making friends through different means other than interacting in person. Some can better express what they mean to say in writing or in chatting.
@r0ck_r0ck (1953)
• India
14 Jun 11
Yup,i agree depends on a persons comfort level, however people tends to point that as a bad thing just to make fun of the person. anyways thanks for your input.
14 Jun 11
No I don't think so that though you have more online friends it means that your bad that doesn't make sense maybe you are just shy to make friends in real life maybe you need to boost confidence to make friends in real life.
@r0ck_r0ck (1953)
• India
14 Jun 11
Well it makes sense to a lot of people, eventually the shy person turns out to be a no-lifer and then a nerd and then are like avoided by all the top dogs in your class, trust me its the common story in a typical high school, they are even making loads of movies on this. its kinda sad!
@ritzz07 (791)
• India
14 Jun 11
hi rock rock no no .......never i am not agree with this,thats write its wrong to judge people online like facebook and other social networking sites.........
@r0ck_r0ck (1953)
• India
14 Jun 11
indeed buddy! its kinda wrong, but people does it anyway! thanks for your opinion!
@famee87 (29)
14 Jun 11
the number of friends in a friend's list does not measure a person. so, it won't really matter if one has 1,000 friends or 10 friends in a friend's list. it doesn't make one a bad person. there are those people who are shy enough to personally make friends and that their only way is thru online.
@r0ck_r0ck (1953)
• India
14 Jun 11
indeed, nicely said! Thanks for your input.
• India
14 Jun 11
why would that make one a bad person, its just that you are a little unsocial. thats it. not bad.
@r0ck_r0ck (1953)
• India
14 Jun 11
Yah, but people tends to exaggerate that unsocial to the extent when it starts to hurt others feeling! how sad is that!
@ebuscat (5949)
• Philippines
14 Jun 11
For me not if your doing good to your self and others will.
@r0ck_r0ck (1953)
• India
14 Jun 11
yup, all it matters is what you make out of what you got!
@alquizar (480)
• Philippines
14 Jun 11
I don't think having more friends online make us a bad person.Face book help us to communicate with our friends despite of our busy life.We can also find and add our past friends which in real life we can't do it.Though social networking and in real life is different but still we are socially communicating with our friends.Just be careful in adding your friend in social network like face book especially if u don't really know the person in real life.Because you are just putting yourself into danger.
@r0ck_r0ck (1953)
• India
14 Jun 11
I wonder what kind of dangers are you talking about, anyways yah facebook seems to be a decent platform for making online friends and i am sure it contributes to the social activities of a perosn. Thanks for sharing!
@gwapamei (15)
• Philippines
14 Jun 11
I cant label a person with more online friends than real ones as a bad person. Bad people are those who intentionally pick on, make hateful remarks and intentionally make other people's life miserable for their own gain. I don't think he's a bad guy but he's surely a lonely one. I'd have to agree with you, maybe it might be brought about by him being alienated, ostracized and labelled that he never had the opportunity to build up a courage to start a conversation. Maybe, he was constantly bullied that his self-esteem is deeply scarred that he could only feel comfortable online or maybe he just knew that its not worth his time to befriend people who are bullying him. But honestly, at the end of the day it wouldn't really matter how many friends you have online or outside the cyberworld. What matters most is who you can count on and you could trust with your life. it wouldn't matter if he can only be found online, as long as he is a true friend.
@r0ck_r0ck (1953)
• India
14 Jun 11
Awesome! nicely said! thanks for sharing!
@BebeGie (18)
• Philippines
14 Jun 11
I believe friends are friends.
@r0ck_r0ck (1953)
• India
14 Jun 11
yup! i believe that too!
• Philippines
13 Jun 11
Not really, some people are just the domesticated type and doesn't want to socialize a lot and there are some people who loves to go out with friends. We are different with each other and that doesn't mean that you have more friends online makes you a bad person.
@r0ck_r0ck (1953)
• India
14 Jun 11
Having Online friends are still like being a part of social! they are called social network sites arent they? and i am glad everyone posted here don't think its bad to have more friends online, now if only this could stop those bullies to picking on the poor kid in class! anyways thanks for your input!
• Philippines
13 Jun 11
Hi rock_rock, Your right. Like in my present situation, I'm a full time mom so I spend most my time taking care of my baby and working on the internet. Honestly, I have no time spending outside hanging out with my friends so we just merely communicate through the internet. My current friends on the net is increasing compared to the number of my real friends. In the issue of being a bad person for this case which is having more friends online than in real life, I guess it's up to my neighbors what they'll think as long as I am not harming or hurting anyone. That's not my problem anymore if they will think that I'm bad. God and my family can see my heart's desire that I am. What I want to do is give my full time attention to my baby who really needs a special care for now. Better to know one's person very well before giving it judgments to avoid mistakes. Have a great day my friend! Happy MyLotting!
@r0ck_r0ck (1953)
• India
14 Jun 11
Nicely said! however your case is a bit different than that i mentioned on my post! off-course your baby needs all the care! good luck and thanks for your input!
@trina89 (16)
• United States
13 Jun 11
it is easier to make friends online, because it is harder to judge people, and a lot people find it easier to chat/email/message online then talking in person, because then you dont have to see the other persons reaction, making it a whole lot easier to make friends online rather then in person. so i dont find it abnormal to have more friends online.
@r0ck_r0ck (1953)
• India
14 Jun 11
indeed i somewhat agree with you, but you know sometimes online relationship gets serious then its even harder to deal with cause of that you cant notice each others reaction making it whole lot hard! anyways thanks for your input!
@iklananda (1204)
13 Jun 11
In my opinion our offline friend sometimes is doing bad things to us due to unknown reason. Online friend different coz we have to help each other to earn money
@r0ck_r0ck (1953)
• India
14 Jun 11
Yup that could be another good reason for having online friends! you eventually help each other to earn more! thanks for sharing!
• India
13 Jun 11
There is no such thing as bad person it is the problem of others that doesn't accept you. Making friends either online or real life is not an issue after all making friends online is similar to real life friends you get to know persons in both the categories. Whatever people may call you be it nerd or foolish jerk you should not really bother in such things. The only thing is that you should have faith in yourself and be happy with what you have and what you are. It is like being an example to others through your self respect. I dont bother if people taking blemish about me cause i know iam not really that, and i dont catheterize myself over there. So dont believe in what friends say you are not bad person in whatever you do, why should others judge your activities right? think over it be in yourself that's more than enough.
@r0ck_r0ck (1953)
• India
13 Jun 11
Nicely said! judging is something that should be done carefully which doesn't seem to happen here! anyways thanks for your input.
• Philippines
13 Jun 11
I cannot call a person bad just because they have more friends in Facebook than in real life. Generally, we can say they are shy but somehow wants to gain friends but do not have the courage to do so in real life.
@r0ck_r0ck (1953)
• India
13 Jun 11
indeed! thanks for your input!
@mrrabbit (42)
• China
13 Jun 11
i feel the same with you.it doesn't matter whether your friends are made in the real life or online.it's just a matter of personal choice.someone may be too shy to make friends in the real life or they just enjoy the feeling of sharing things with friends online,which makes them feel more comfortable and relaxed.
@r0ck_r0ck (1953)
• India
13 Jun 11
Indeed! but people somehow tends to take that shy person for granted and treat him/her in a way they don't deserve! that's what i hate the most! anyways thanks for your input.