is it really the divorce the solution?
By ever_purple
@ever_purple (522)
Philippines
June 16, 2011 10:41pm CST
it is recently discussed here in the philippines the pursuance of divorce bill to be implemented. i've learned that only our country aside from the vatican city that divorce is not legal. of course as expected the church emphatically disagree with the bill. i personally agree with them actually. im not a catholic but i have high respect and importance on the sanctity of marriage. i believe that even its hard and seem like its almost killing your being you must still do everything to save your marriage. im not yet a married but as i've seen on my parents' case im glad divorce was not implemented here in our country. it went on a time before that they separated and my mom moved out of our house and comes to the point that our dad told us that we must choose whom to go with. if its with him or to our mom. if it happens that divorce was legal here in our country, most probably they get a divorce and it would really affect my life definitely! sometimes if its not easy for a person to go out with a certain situation, he/she will be force to find a solution to remedy the worst situation he/she is in. i firmly believe that divorce wont ever be the solution. it is still prayer and of course initiative to fix things. i know in some cases like battered partner, separation is the only solution but i believe each of us must really pray and think of getting married to someone a billion times before we commit ourselves doing it so that it wont ruin our lives in the future as well as our future children..
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@cutepenguin (6431)
• Canada
17 Jun 11
I think sometimes people change and grow apart after they get married. In which case, their marriage isn't a loving bond or tie, but rather a burden.
The person you love and are compatible with when you are 20 may not grow into someone whom you love and are compatible with when you are 40.
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@ever_purple (522)
• Philippines
17 Jun 11
so u mean that because of those differences its already enough for you to leave someone you promised you wont ever leave come what may?=))
@ieniemienie (232)
• Netherlands
17 Jun 11
Divorce is not always the solution. My experience is that people dont even try to make it work anymore. Divorcing became to easy. If things dont go well for a while they pack their bags and leave. In my opinion you got married to have a lifetime commitment with somebody you love, even if things dont go that well. If you tried everything or your man is for example a cheater or murderer or something I think it is ok to divorce but in a normal situation... please try everything to make your marriage work@
@ever_purple (522)
• Philippines
18 Jun 11
i super agree with you...like in america if im not mistaken there is more than 50% marriages have been divorced because a couple just both agree with the sepaartion and sign the divorce paper and they're both free people again...i know that in some cases a couple must really separate before the could ruin each other lives but it doesnt mean that we must tolerate the way for a couple to end their marriage that easily...
@chiyosan (30184)
• Philippines
17 Jun 11
the church's stand is that what God has put together, no man can separate... my opinion on this, is that well when people choose to love each other.. it is the person's free will it is their choice. and if the relationship is built through God's provision and they have God in the center of their relationship, then even if there is the divorce bill the couple who were really put together by God's hand will not separate. Also, i think that the divorce bill is to help those who are in a troubled marriage.
why would we let a woman, or a man suffer in a relationship that is going nowhere? i believe that God does not want us to suffer, physically mentally and emotionally.
@ever_purple (522)
• Philippines
18 Jun 11
i agree with your opinion....but sometimes if the divorce option is present many times people stop to try to fix things up...i know that in some cases separation is the best thing to do but sometimes as i've said on my post if people can easily go out to a certain situation they are in, they just ending up saying separation is the best thing to do and after it they just realized that it wasnt....
@redmaryjane (891)
• United States
17 Jun 11
Divorce is NOT the solution to every marriage in trouble. However, if the husband is abusive and is threatening the safety of his wife and children, then there should be a divorce.
At the same time, it should be the FINAL resort. Before getting a divorce, a couple should go through counselling and work with every solution available to work out their differences.
Also, marriage and divorce shouldn't be an easy way in or an easy way out. I believe in praying for the right partner and making sure and making plans. Marriage and divorce aren't things that should people should get into on a whim.
@ever_purple (522)
• Philippines
18 Jun 11
well i agree with you...its also my point of view...but in general people tend to be abusive and they took advantage of the fact that there is an easy way out of a marriage that you are no longer happy with...so even if it can still be fix many couple just gave up and ending to separate ways...i guess that we should really pray hard for our future lifetime partner so that we wont regret anything..=))
@abatencila (970)
• Philippines
17 Jun 11
I guess divorce is not the solution at all but the behavior of some people towards marriage. Marriage is a sacred thing and not because you discovered something not good with your partner, you already have the right to be separated. How selfish of you? HOW about the feelings of the children? What the government should do is to strengthen the ties of families. Make programs to bind families together. Having a relationship with another person is a long time process that's why marriage has to be worked out by two person always.
@ever_purple (522)
• Philippines
18 Jun 11
i assumed you have read my post and i stated that im not in favor with the divorce bill because i firmly believe that it will definitely affect the growing of children and all of us are children and all of us dont want to our parents get seperated right?
