I am SICK of hearing about it!!

Jacksonville, Florida
June 18, 2011 10:05am CST
My friend has a lot more money than I have. So, she is always telling me about her great trips and getting her nails done and the new TV they just bought. She goes on and on about all the nice things she has and gets to do when all I feel like telling her is I DON'T CARE!! I'm happy for her but I feel like it's rubbed in my face constantly that she has such a great life and I don't. I am SICK of it!! Do you know anyone like this? I think it's rude! Have you ever had to tell someone to stop talking about how much they have and you don't? It hurts me. Good for her, so glad her life is peachy but I have a broke down car in my driveway and no way to get our 3 kids around. You can say I'm jealous, blah blah blah because I know someone will but it honestly isn't about that. It just really hurts when it's all I ever hear about, constantly.
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@pahak627 (4198)
• Philippines
19 Jun 11
well, it's your feeling to be sick hearing what your friend said. She's just excited telling you these. I also have a friend who's in the other country and she keeps telling me about what she's going to buy, what she did, over the net and I'm just too happy to know what she's going through though she is away from me. She got plenty of money while I don't. Correct me if i'm wrong, maybe she may sounded bragging already that is why you feel sick hearing her saying those things.
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• Jacksonville, Florida
19 Jun 11
Thanks for your response! Yes she has been bragging me about her great life for a while and so it is getting old fast.
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@pahak627 (4198)
• Philippines
23 Jun 11
Well, i don't blame you for what you're feeling now. Just ignore it now, it will just add cause for heart attack. Don't think so much of that.
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@polaris77 (2031)
• Bacau, Romania
19 Jun 11
I think it's very rude from your friend to come to you and boast about the wonderful life she has,that's certainly an attitude I don't understand,but I also think you should try to ignore her remarks and think about the things and the achievements you have and try to see the positive side of things.That's what I do when I realize there are people who live in much better conditions than me;I try to think that my life isn't that bad after all,and there are people living in much worse conditions,and I have to be grateful for what I have since others have almost nothing.
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• Jacksonville, Florida
23 Jun 11
Thanks for your response! I have a hard time seeing things in a positive light. I am grateful for many things especially since it's a lot better now than when I lived in a tent and the car. So, I know how bad things can get for people. I was there a few years ago where I really had no idea if I was going to eat the next day or not. However, I do think I should just ignore the things she says.
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• Philippines
19 Jun 11
My advice to you is to try to get rid first of all the insecurities you have with your friend. You can do this by increasing your self esteem towards him/her. In what I deduce from your post, it is as if she is monopolizing your conversations. When she talks again about something great that happened to her, hear about it then sneak some of the things that happened to you after. In my opinion, you get sick because you are the only one receiving tales and she isn't receiving something from you. If you tell her you got a broken car or a big problem after she talk, I think she'll abandon talking other stuff that she had as well and just comfort you out, hence stopping conversations you are sick of. It saves you from telling her directly how you feel with her talk. Just my two cents!
• Jacksonville, Florida
23 Jun 11
Thanks for your response! That is the way it goes, she talks I listen. I try to be a good friend. I know good friends are supposed to listen. I think that is great advice and I am going to try it most definitely. =) Thanks again!
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@chiyosan (30205)
• Philippines
19 Jun 11
hmm i have not known someone who does this, at least not in my face. ;) but hey, i think i know the kind of person you are talking about. i do see and experience them once in a while in the office, and even in facebook.. seeing this onee person brag about every little stupid things she does.. even the slice of pizza in wherever place she was.. its just really annoying, indeed.
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• Jacksonville, Florida
19 Jun 11
Thanks for your response! Yes it does get very annoying quickly. It drives me crazy. Enough is enough.
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@minimoyz (277)
• Philippines
19 Jun 11
Yes I know a lot of people with this kind of attitude. They really get on my nerves sometimes. Maybe this friend of yours that you're talking about is a true friend. She keeps on bragging with things money can buy in order to motivate you to do better than her. She knows that your pissed off whenever she talks about this things she bought or things she's done. But she's still there telling you this things. She wants you to compete to her do things better than her. Another thing is she's still there but you don't have the courage to ask for help from her. She's just waiting for you to ask her help. Hope this kinda work. what I'm sure is you need her help and she's just waiting for you to ask!! nice day to you.
• Jacksonville, Florida
19 Jun 11
Thanks for your response! I wish I could compete with her because that would mean I have a lot of money. But I cannot afford to do that. Unfortunately. So if that's what she wants then she needs to find someone else to do that with. She's not really the type to help people.
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• United States
18 Jun 11
People like that are very annoying. It's okay to talk about your life, but only to a certain extent. People don't need to know you just got your nails done or that you just bought a fancy new tv. If someone comments on the nails, just smile and say thanks. I don't think there's any need to go on and on about what you have. Honestly, most people could care less. I don't know why, but some people just feel the need to brag about every fantastic detail of their life. If it makes you feel any better, I'm sure she has major problems in her life, she's just not flaunting those like she flaunts all the other stuff.
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• Jacksonville, Florida
19 Jun 11
Thanks for your response! I'm so glad I'm not the only one that feels this is rude and annoying. Yeah, I'm happy that she can do all of that but I already know what she does I do not need to hear it over and over again! I don't understand the reason behind it either. If I know someone is struggling I do NOT want to make them feel worse so I don't tell them all the great things I have and they don't. Why make someone feel bad?
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• Canada
18 Jun 11
Try to think about all the things you have that other's don't to make you feel better. Do you have a house? You mentioned you have a broken down car.. Many people don't have one at all, a LOT of people. Many have to rely on bus transportation for them and their kids to get around. Don't let someone elses life bring you down, just think positive.
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• Jacksonville, Florida
18 Jun 11
Thanks for your response! Your right. I do have a house and a car that doesn't run at all and no way to pay for it to get fixed. We don't have a bus that comes anywhere near our house so we have been walking to get groceries and such...Good times. I will try to not let her get to me, it's tough when she constantly brags about how good she has things!
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• United States
12 Jul 11
This is no real friend. A real friend would be sensitive to what you are doing . And since kindness is larger than pride, instead of a nail appointment, a Real friend would accidentally on purpose buy a little too much food and bring it over.A true friend doesn't make you feel bad, They do what they can to make you feel better.
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• Jacksonville, Florida
12 Jul 11
Thanks, I know. I agree with you, a real friend wouldn't do things that way. With a friend like that, who needs enemies right?
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• United States
12 Jul 11
Exactly! I hope things get better. Hang in there.
• Canada
23 Jun 11
LovingMyBabies, I don't think this girl is such a good friend, to be honest. If she was truly a caring person, she would see the things that are going on in your life and she would have some sensitivity. Granted, she is certainly entitled to the things she has (assuming she is living within her means and is not bragging about having "stuff" she can't actually afford) and there is no reason she shouldn't be happy about it. She has a lot of things but what she doesn't have is tact and manners. Of COURSE you're jealous! At least in some ways! You wouldn't be human if you weren't. You're struggling with certain things right now and it's freakin' hard to watch other people kind of coasting along when you're doing your best and still not getting to where you want and need to be. YES, it hurts! My thought is that you just call her on her behavior. She may need to be snapped into reality a little. You don't have to stoop and be rude... in fact, please don't lower yourself because there is no reason why you should. But, when she starts in on her next conversation, be HONEST -- tell her something like this: "You know, I'm really happy for you that you got that awesome tv and I'm anxious to come over and see how great it looks in the house... but, maybe you don't realize this... things are really difficult in my life right now, trying to figure out where the money is going to come from to fix the car. It wears me down having to walk for groceries and getting the kids where they need to be is rough. So, can we talk about other things when we're together, please, that don't involve money? I'd really appreciate it." If you start being open about how you feel, maybe she will develop that much needed sensitivity... but, if she's a TRUE friend, she might also realize you could use some help now and again... like a lift to the grocery store, if she's going anyway. Some people don't "get it" until you put it right in front of them. Good luck to you LovingMyBabies... I hope things get on an upturn for you really soon
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@Cutie18f (9563)
• Philippines
15 Feb 13
Oh, there are so many of them on Facebook. Almost all my Facebook friends flaunt and brag about their new ipads, cellphones, boyfriends, houses, cars, trips and I am not liking it because it is obvious that they are just boasting and trying to make us jealous. Well, for one, I hate trips. I hate taking the plane, boat, etc. so when they post pictures of them going to Hongkong, US, Japan, or wherever, I'd say, well, maybe you are happy about it, but even if I am given a free ticket to travel around the world, I wouldn't accept it. So they can boast and boast but I won't feel envious because even if you drive an expensive car but you don't also look good, I would rather not have a car and look good. I know of many women here who drive nice cars but who look like they have not even combed their hair. They are the last people I want to be like.
@kourdapya (926)
• Philippines
13 Feb 13
I have a friend like that too. I just stay away from her because she makes me feel bad about myself. I don't want to compare lives, but she's irritating sometimes. You can't help feeling that way. I'm glad the she lived far away from me now, and I no longer answer he calls and texts.
• Jacksonville, Florida
15 Feb 13
I hate that! Yes I do end up feeling bad about myself and the financial situation I am in, just because of her words! I don't blame you for not answering her calls and texts.
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@Micmac (9627)
16 Dec 12
Unfortunately I have friends who dropped by my place only when they've bought a new expensive item and they talk about their new stuff like their all puffed up with pride. I don't envy them but I'm tired of hearing them telling me about the new car they bought, the new over priced clothes they got and the list goes on. And they make sure to mention what they have and I don't have knowing that I won't be getting the stuff that they buy because I not too extravagant like them. How I wish I could throw them in a duffle bag and throw it in the river. All their trivial talk makes me feel nauseous!
• Jacksonville, Florida
15 Feb 13
That is so wrong and messed up! I hate people that do this so much. Exactly, I feel that is good for them but I don't want to constantly hear about the new things she has. Good for her, I am happy she gets these things but I don't ever so I don't want it rubbed in my face.
@redredrose (1107)
• United States
25 Oct 12
i agree with what the lady said about think positive and don't let her get you down. Think of what you do have that she doesn't. But you can also tell her nicely that she upsetting you by talking about this because it can be rude when she has more than you it's like rubbing it in your face and you don't want to hear it any more. but mostly think of what you do have that others don't like a car a house kids a job food in your belly money in the bank roof over your head. you have it better than alot of people in this world so don't let her get you down.
• Jacksonville, Florida
31 Oct 12
Yes, I should not let her get me down because its not worth it. Honestly, she has everything I have and more. There is nothing I have that she doesn't have. It is just annoying hearing about it every day! To be honest with you, you really don't know what I have and what I don't. I don't have money in the bank, I have been homeless two times in my life and I was without food for days at a time...So yes I know what it is like to have it really bad!
@shaggin (38595)
• United States
6 Jan 12
Sometimes people do not even realize they are bragging they are just so excited about the new things they get. But there are definitly some people who tell everyone what they get and how much things cost that they bought just so they can brag. Personally I am much more interested in hearing how expensive things were but how great of a sale they got and how much money they saved in the end. That to me is more to brag about smart shopping then just owning a lot of money and spending it all the time on anything you want.
• Jacksonville, Florida
5 Mar 12
Even if she doesn't realize shes bragging, would you go to a homeless person and tell them about your new house?!? I wouldn't, they do not have a house! Thats rude!!! Thats kind of the point of what I was saying. Its rude to tell someone all the things you have when they have nothing... I agree, tell me how CHEAP you got something. Great I will be thrilled for you but to always tell me about all the expensive things you do no thank you...