Our Life Are Full Of Secrets, Why?

@visavis (5945)
Philippines
June 25, 2011 5:57am CST
Hello there, I just asking myself, what are those things or part of my life are still considered secret to my family, to my friends and to others - Why I kept those things secret? Or I just like that character not giving any details to others. Are those things in our life really helps if we kept secret? Are you bothering of those secrets that one day it will reveal which give you trouble? Are you prepared on the time if your secret prevail? what are those possible reaction if your secret revealed by others? I know we have secrets hiding for a reasons. In our life, how long you keep your secret before it preveal?
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18 responses
• Philippines
25 Jun 11
hi visavis, There are something we rather keep as a secret than to share it During my teenage years I never tell to my parents I had a boyfriend because they were strict that time but I was madly in love this secret was kept for many years until today my father don't have an idea I had a boyfriend before only my closest cousins and bestfriend knows about it see I chose not to reveal it because they will get mad at me. If I will be given a choice I rather keep it forever than to reveal though I know they will understand me since I am no longer connected with this guy and I am old enough to be in a relationship. If you will have an affair to someone else even you have a wife do you want to share it to everyone?or do you wish your wife will find it out? JUST ASKING happy mylotting
@jaiho2009 (39001)
• Philippines
25 Jun 11
bhaby... what a nice question
• Philippines
26 Jun 11
@ scarface, Yeah some secret must keep secret you are lucky that they don't reveal it
@visavis (5945)
• Philippines
26 Jun 11
@bhabycatch That's very revealing question which our friend scarface immediate admitted that he have before, now it is not secret and also yours are not secret anymore through this. Protected something is one key why we are trying to hide our darkside or bad situation which sometimes we are decided not to reveal to anybody. @jaiho my friend see some of our friend admitted that they have still and have own secret which reverse to your claim - why?
@jaiho2009 (39001)
• Philippines
25 Jun 11
hello friend, Never keep a secret so you won't be in fear of any secret/s to be revealed. It's really shameful when secret/s being revealed. My principle is life is " it is always easier to be honest from the start than unravelling lies after" have a great weekend ahead
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@visavis (5945)
• Philippines
25 Jun 11
Really my friend? Even from yourself trying to hide something because you fear something. What I mean is, even our feeling is trying to hide from ourself because we are fear to grow such feeling and you cannot control.. what do you think? Isep..esep (think... think)
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@visavis (5945)
• Philippines
25 Jun 11
It is not secret anymore because we know now that your affraid to cockroach... that's good one because as you said no secret at all even feelings or emotion your nothing to hide..
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@jaiho2009 (39001)
• Philippines
25 Jun 11
i don't understand why we need to hide our feelings... i mean...WHY?...WHY hide feelings eh? If i am angry or annoyed,i'll let that person know...why should i hide? Everything should be settled right? I am referring this with my friends and loves ones,everything should be cleared in the earliest possible time. Having bad feelings kept for a longer times is not good...at least you need to have it done,burst it out,speak it loud and clear to the concern person. Keeping it will only result to having uncomfortable and uneasiness when you face that person...so why kept it?.... I don't need to explain myself here..but,again,my friends and my loved ones knows...i don't keep secrets...and i don't owe any explanation to public either. We,each one of us differs from each other. If you,he,she,they, keep a secret...that's an individual choice and it's someone's prerogative... No one is here to judge someone...let them keep their secrets...because we don't need to broadcast secrets in public. Secret needs to be revealed to specific person and not to be published in public or broadcasted in TV there's no use right?...or else you will be a laughing stock... If you are my friend,and i can feel can be trusted,i am willing to share my whole life story with you. Would you believe that I even asks someone online,a friend online who is a writer to write my life/love story and be published? Because i don't keep secrets...i even want to share my life story ,be an inspiration and a lesson to be learned (if there is lesson to be learned hahaha)
• Philippines
26 Jun 11
Hello Visavis, The word "secret" designated to elude detection. What do you think about secret? My teacher in high school say, secret is a poison when revealed, a lie and therefore, a sin. I don't know why others keep secrets. I believe my teacher and so I don't keep secrets. Just act the way we are and if we commit mistakes whether big or small we should open and admit it and learn from it. The only thing that we need to remember in opening a secret is that, we must be sincere and honest enough to avoid a gap. It may be to our peers, loved ones and others. Thanks Dennis
@visavis (5945)
• Philippines
26 Jun 11
As you define the word secret - a sin, a lie.. ok I agree with you not to hide something specially a truth. But how about a situation like doctors said to you that the patient (related to you) is in a critical condition which not allowed any tense or surprized things, can you reveal it to him/her? Even in our feelings sometime we are covering something to avoid others feeling, mean we are keeping such thing to not other affected...
• Philippines
26 Jun 11
That's a different story then. There are things that needs exceptions.
@visavis (5945)
• Philippines
26 Jun 11
But still the issue is hiding and secret even though you put an exemption..
@sjvg1976 (18402)
• Delhi, India
26 Jun 11
hello visavis, In my opinion you should always keep secrets there is no need to show honesty which can harm others or can upset others as well as you.You should keep something secrets with you up to some extent. I don't stress out my mind in thinking that some day my secrets will be revealed if i have such kind of fear i won't be able to keep secrets. You are never prepared for your secrets to be revealed by someone.I know its very agonizing when someone reveals your secrets then too its life & you have to bear it & go on.
@visavis (5945)
• Philippines
26 Jun 11
that's a good idea, meaning we must prepared if you have secrets in your life that any moment or any time somebody or it will reveal without your notice, as I said in other box "if there is smoke, there is a fire" right or wrong?
@sjvg1976 (18402)
• Delhi, India
26 Jun 11
Yes its true when you have secrets then there is always a fear of getting it revealed by someone.Thats why you are not supposed to tell your secrets to very few & reliable people.
@sjvg1976 (18402)
• Delhi, India
26 Jun 11
Its depends on the secret what is the secret??? but if it is affecting someone's life then we should keep it a secret in my opinion.
@shibham (17022)
• India
25 Jun 11
Hi visavis.. Dont be surprised but its sure that i have no secret in my life. I have shared all everything of life with someone. may be parents, friends, siblings or cousins....I have revealed some of my secrets here too. Well, its true that i am hiding some truths from parents but my sister knows some of them as i hesitate to tell them to parents. If i am unable to tell them to sister, then there are friends who know them. have a nice day.
@visavis (5945)
• Philippines
25 Jun 11
So still there is a gap of being secret or hiding it because of your reason.. even in the smallest thing in our life sometimes it is hiding or secret for some reasons. Yeah you tell to your friends or sister but to your parents unable to tell your feelings.. you get my point..
@jaiho2009 (39001)
• Philippines
25 Jun 11
and shiby even shared his 29 ladies and asks me to arranged a marriage,when he should be arranging my marriage first
@shibham (17022)
• India
25 Jun 11
hmmmm... didi. Are you sure that i have shared all ladies? Both marriage will be celebrated on same day.... @visavis... thanks.
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• United States
26 Jun 11
I don't keep secrets.. I'd be the worst one trying to keep a secret on myself, because I'm pretty much an open book. My life is pretty boring, so there isn't much to tell. I believe any secret I might have would be pretty boring also.
@visavis (5945)
• Philippines
27 Jun 11
What can I say on you that as you said your unable to keep any secret because before you tried it but boring so now your not boring because as you said not keeping any secret in your life, your open book to the family and others.. Wow should I evy on you, because me now I have a secret in my feelings which always bothering on me.
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• United States
27 Jun 11
Don't do stuff that you would be ashamed for anyone to know and you won't have to keep secrets. That is all I know to tell you. Sorry you feel bad by keeping secrets.
@visavis (5945)
• Philippines
27 Jun 11
thank you very much my friend nice to discussion this matter. see you around
@tigeraunt (6331)
• Philippines
26 Jun 11
hello visavis, we always say that the truth will set you free. and i believe that it is true. you will suffer keeping a secret - emotionally and health wise. being able to open up makes you feel more at ease like a thorn is taken out of your system there are so many reasons why a secret has to be made. but in time you know it will be revealed whether you do it on purpose or others would. ann
@visavis (5945)
• Philippines
26 Jun 11
Covering in one situation is part of a secret right or wrong, means it is a short period of time until such situation been over. But due to the situation you have second thought not to reveal, what is the better for this and how you cope up this..?
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@tigeraunt (6331)
• Philippines
26 Jun 11
hello visavis, the fear of hurting someone when he knows the truth is i think what you are pointing to. you want to give hope as much as possible. i have not been in such a situation, but should it happen, i prefer to tell the truth no matter how hard it is. it is the only way that he can face it and then he start from there and move on. ann
@visavis (5945)
• Philippines
27 Jun 11
Thanks nice one, but how if in a very critical condition like doctor said the patient is having a month left in this world, are you ready to tell if right away? sorry for many questions
@nezavisima (7417)
• Bulgaria
25 Jun 11
friend to life is one big secret. I think that anyone hiding a secret. Fearing to share and disclose certain things does not know whether it will be understood or is it just a shame. Moreover there are people who make mistakes and then they realized that they should so now esram them to say. Although it is nice to have secrets but sometimes need to be done within those around us happy and satisfied silent lot. I also have a secret and I guess that many other people. So I think let's have a secret because we should have privacy. Have a nice day!
@visavis (5945)
• Philippines
25 Jun 11
Ok you admitting as you said you have secret and you have prepared to hide it for your privacy. If your affraid that if that secret discover or reveal you big loss or might be your destroy, I think its ok to keep it secret. But what do you think there is or are people NO SECRET at all. which you said here all have secret, you know there is one myloter response said she has no secret at all.. Do you believe that?
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• Bulgaria
25 Jun 11
Not pleasant, I think that everyone has a secret. You may not believe but I honestly do not believe. Little is unreal. Everyone has a secret and is afraid to share it. . You have a secret friend may be small and not important but we have secrets.
@visavis (5945)
• Philippines
26 Jun 11
Meaning everyone cannot say they don't have any secret in their life, we have own secret we cannot deny that..
@Pose123 (21667)
• Canada
25 Jun 11
Hi visavis, It's true that we all have our secrets, even those who won't admit it. I guess it has something to do with our ego. We already know much about ourselves that we would never want our neighbor to know. Many people have secrets that would get them in very serious trouble, and life is difficult for them because they are always afraid that their secret will be discovered. Blessings.
@visavis (5945)
• Philippines
25 Jun 11
Thank you my friend.. your correct but don't forget our neighbor to know, even our own family are affraid to know such secret, I don't know why? Might be big reasons which as you said making serious trouble and their life will be difficult. Although it is happening that some secrets are still secret until the person die but what do you think it is a sin to them or shall affect their soul peaceful.
@Pose123 (21667)
• Canada
27 Jun 11
Hi again visavis, While it may cause us some distress here, I don't feel that it will have any effect on the soul. Blessings.
@visavis (5945)
• Philippines
28 Jun 11
Might be if die the soul will be not in a peaceful so might be returned for that case.. just I heard about that but I'm not believing such thing
@aqil02 (29)
• Singapore
25 Jun 11
Why?Because some things are not meant to be heard the ear.There are certain things you dont want people to hear.But try to keep it to a minimum as the more secrets you have, the more effort you use in life to keep a secret.Meh you will have secrets in life.No doubt about it.
@visavis (5945)
• Philippines
25 Jun 11
All of us having own reasons why we are keeping our own secret. Whatever such reason or alibi or as you said depending on the situation to whom you can tell the secret - but still the question to us is - we are keeping such secret? Keeping such secret can be good to us or be bad to us?
@ludyvel04 (311)
• Philippines
25 Jun 11
I don't think people who have lots of "skeleton on their closets" can enjoy life, depending on the degree of the so called "secret". I have some secrets but do not reveal them on certain person depending on the situation. There are things that I can disclose with my husband but not with my family or friends or can be told to my sisters but not with my husband or others. I think it depends on the content itself but I believe they are not harmless when revealed to others who shouldn't have known what is it all about like simple family matters. These little secrets I know can be talked with those who are concerned and should not reach those who will not be able to help on dealing with the issue but will just make gossip out of it. Its not good rather.
@visavis (5945)
• Philippines
25 Jun 11
Hello my friend thanks to your sharing, I'm on that matter (in this case) that small things may be not important to tell to everybody. But hiding something from your husband which you said unable to tell is something big issue because he is your husband although may your having a big reasons why, but still your hiding something which later on can be known... be careful and be ready
@visavis (5945)
• Philippines
26 Jun 11
@scarface yeah your correct those people hiding and use their closet a garbage of skeletons are not happy deep inside, might be you seen outside smilling but inside is like a nightmare daily..
@asliah (11148)
• Philippines
15 Aug 11
hi, every person in the world have their secrets in life,and they also have their reqson why they keep it a secrets,maybe because we are not perfect and for others its not good so that they just will hide it by keeping it as a secrets and minimally know it for a reason also.
@visavis (5945)
• Philippines
16 Aug 11
So you agree that our life are many secrets but depends to the person and reasons why they are keeping secrets.. thanks
@didi13 (2927)
• Romania
11 Jul 11
Begin by saying that a woman's heart is an ocean deep and full of secrets. To hide a woman's heart can never be discovered, is a mystery that many men would like to clarify it and know how to reach her ??heart. In a world where thoughts, dreams, feelings, expectations do not coincide often with those of the person next to you, it's hard to find the right answer. To reach the heart of a woman not about to say a number of appropriate words or making a series of actions defined in this sense, it means rewriting the story every day. Women have strengths that amaze men: the gate and difficult tasks carry burdens but they hold happiness, love and joy, sing when they cry, cry when they are happy and laugh when they are nervous, when I struggle in something, love unconditionally, they I know that a hug and a kiss can heal a broken heart, but if there is a weakness of women, it is that they forget their value.
@visavis (5945)
• Philippines
12 Jul 11
I agree with you the womans heart is an ocean deep and full of secrets like other said but some says that they don't have any secrets mean they are transfarent, even if you asked them about emotion and feelings they said everybody knows - so what you ssaid ocean deep of secrets is contradicted... How you can say about?
@aerous (13474)
• Philippines
26 Jun 11
I have many secret in life but not afraid when the time revealed all those things because they are not into others and into my family... Life really has full of secret and surprise. We don't understand about it. But I'm sure there is a reason for those things
@visavis (5945)
• Philippines
27 Jun 11
Yeah and that is good stand that your prepared in case such secret revealed without your permission or knowledge. for me the main reason is "if there is a smoke, for sure there is a fire"
@adex19 (114)
• Malaysia
26 Jun 11
well we all have secrets for a reason maybe big or small and we all know the reason of keeping it secrets
@visavis (5945)
• Philippines
26 Jun 11
that's same I know but other said that they don't have secrets in their life seems they are peaceful and perfect - are you agree to that, even their feeling nothing to hide..
@ravisivan (14055)
• India
25 Jun 11
Secrets are no longer valid in mylot. I find many of our friends share certain things which I may not like to share but kept as secret. That shows their confidence and culture also. Of course nothing much in life is secret because I share with my relatives freely.
@visavis (5945)
• Philippines
26 Jun 11
Maybe some of your secret or other secret revealed or share here but I'm still sure that everyone who said no secret at all - still having in his/her soul or themselves, which sometimes bothering whether to reveal or not..
• Romania
25 Jun 11
i think there is any person with no secrets! fortunately, my secrets i,m not ashamed afraid! are secret " innocent"
@visavis (5945)
• Philippines
26 Jun 11
Yeah from the beginning of this discussion I always telling everyone having secret and everyone are affraid to share it because of something might be effect to him/her.
• India
25 Jun 11
I think,Secrets of life is the only thing that give a person to live a hopful life, due to this a human always hope for a better tomorrow.If god reveal anyone life secret, then no any will do his right duty, and this will effect our life cycle.
@visavis (5945)
• Philippines
26 Jun 11
It is a challence to us to survive in this life. Whether such secret can motivate you or destroy you. Through that secret you knowing something and strong to face the reality of this life.