Forgive me, but I need to vent, seriously.

Canada
June 25, 2011 3:49pm CST
I was thinking about this last night, I am so frustrated right now, I am so stressed out. Certain people are really annoying me right now, and I can't get rid of them. Yes, my husband is being quite an annoyance. For some reason, he wont stop talking about anything. I can't get any peace and quiet anymore. My boss suggested that I give him a sock and tell him to stuff it. Sad thing is, I feel like doing it. The other day, the guys had me digging in the garden to put new plants in, despite having a broken foot, and having picked them up myself. For the last 2 weeks, I've been working, despite a broken foot, I should be staying off of it and relaxing, but I don't have that option. Last week I only got paid $300, my boss owes me so much money for working, and I'm angry that she hasn't paid me yet. She knows I have bills to pay, our hydro company is hounding us for money even though we don't get mail anymore due to the lockout. The lockout doesn't help, no mail comes in at all, and I don't do online billing at all since everyone here shares the bills, they want to see paper copies of them. We now have an infestation of cockroaches and that's the last thing we need around here. I know how we got them, despite efforts made to keep them outside. Today, having to work again, 6 days in a row, of course I'm frustrated. I'm in pain and needing to stay off my feet for a while. But most of our day was spent driving, 80km round trip to be exact. And it was not an amusing drive at all. On the way back to the city, some dumb twit decided to make a u turn from 2 lanes over and I almost rear ended the guy in front of me. I slammed on the brakes so hard that everything in the van went flying. I jammed my foot so hard that my cast went askew. I needed to fix it and we needed to fix everything that had gone astray in the van. We finally got back to the city and did 2 lawns, by then it was about 3pm and I was really wanting to get home. On the way home, some dumb idiot decided to ignore the fact that I'd signaled a lane change and almost rear ended me. What was he doing? Playing with his cell phone. And he had the nerve to give me the finger. Some other dumb driver behind him decided to give me a nasty look even though it was the guy in front of her who nearly caused an accident. Now that I'm finally home, I'm trying to destress myself, and it's not very easy to do. I don't know why I'm so stressed. Actually I do. All of the above stress factors have caused this. I need to take some time off, but I can't, we're backed up with work. Unless it rains a lot, there's no way I'm getting time off work. I really need a laugh, but can't get one any time soon, and nothing that will really destress me enough to get through the week.
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11 responses
• United States
25 Jun 11
I am sorry to hear that you are under so much stress lately. I believe all the annoyances are literally bothering you because of the stress. Maybe the painful foot is adding even more stress for you. I would love to send you a hug. With hopes that maybe it will put a smile for you. I realize that when I am very stressed out everything and anything around me annoys me too. Do try and enjoy the rest of your day.
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@GardenGerty (97958)
• United States
25 Jun 11
It would be nice if we could all send a hug. And a nice recliner, and a nap in the recliner, with no worries.
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@Hatley (164672)
• Garden Grove, California
25 Jun 11
gardengerty and a boss who wou ld let her stay off her broken foot for a few days at lest.
• Canada
25 Jun 11
That would be nice. I don't have a recliner so I can't really keep my foot up, which I should. But the air cast gives me the option to take it off so I can shower or sleep without it. It's hard to shower while in pain, but at least I can without worrying about getting a plaster cast wet.
@carolscash (9501)
• United States
25 Jun 11
If your husbands talking irritates you just ask him to please let you have some peace and quiet or go sit in another room from where he is. Also, I would not be working on a broken foot. Does your boss know it is broken? Will the doctor take you off work? I would think that they would.
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• Canada
25 Jun 11
I can't take time off work, I make the most money in the house and we really need the income. My boss is fully aware of this issue, that's why we haven't been doing really hard work lately, but unfortunately with some of the jobs coming up, I have no choice but to do this work. Another 2 weeks of this and hopefully it will be healed. But given that I have to be on it almost constantly, it will probably take longer to heal.
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• United States
26 Jun 11
I am really concerned that you aren't going to heal properly without getting off your foot and letting it rest. All this stress is going to slow down the healing process. You should have worker's comp or something.. or insurance to keep you going until you can get back to work... what about sick leave?
• Canada
26 Jun 11
We're a 2 person company with no compensation. My boss needs someone to drive and that's me. So I have to work, I have no choice in the matter.
@GardenGerty (97958)
• United States
25 Jun 11
I guess we really need to pray for rain for you. None of this other stuff would get to you so much if you had a day off every now and again, oh, and if you got paid for all your hard work. I hope venting here was useful at least. When I had my foot surgery it was just the time I could not be off my foot. I had quit my job, but my son's personal life got in the way (long story) and that is just miserable. I know how you are feeling or at least can sympathize.
• Canada
25 Jun 11
It might rain on Tuesday, but that could always change. I was off for most of the day yesterday due to rain, but there was no way I was able to just relax. Between the dog and my roommates downstairs bugging me all day, I couldn't just sit down the entire time, which was what I wanted to do. And my week is getting busier, between work and having to run errands, I just can't get a break. It's not hot out, which is a bonus, the cast doesn't irritate me as a result, but next week when it gets hot, it's really going to get annoying.
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@GardenGerty (97958)
• United States
26 Jun 11
I know you cannot expect the dog to understand, but what on earth do the roommates need to bother you for? They are grown ups and have each other for company to boot.
• Canada
26 Jun 11
They wanted to go out and needed me to move the van. I told them to do it themselves so they did.
• United States
28 Jun 11
My goodness if anyone has the right to be stressed it's most definitely you. I was getting stress for you just reading your discussion. I understand that you have to work, but after work you really need to stay off that foot or it will never heal properly. If that means allowing a few things to go undone in the house then so be it. You need some relaxation time or you will have a breakdown, both physically & mentally. I will keep you in my prayers tonight & hope that you get some relief from all your stress soon.
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@ravisivan (14055)
• India
26 Jun 11
Yes. My daughter is also of more or less ur age has now shifted to Toronto. She is also of your type. She gets tenses quickly. Getting tensed is not going to solve issues. You see on one day when u start with bad mood every thing will go bad. Similarly if you had some wound in one of the legs you will get hurt again and again. Solution -- the heaven will not come down if u stop working for six hours--take rest totally switching off your mind. You need rest and nothing but rest. If u want consoling words let me add -- that some people are bad always in one way or the other and we good people should keep ourselves away from those bad paople!!
@ravisivan (14055)
• India
26 Jun 11
Let me add-- with all anger also you have been able to write a lllleeengthy paragraph. have a good day.
• United States
26 Jun 11
oh you poor thing! I don't envy you at all for that broken foot. I'm so sorry you are going through so much. Why do you have to work so much with a broken foot? Why isn't your husband doing anything to help you? I wish I could make you laugh and make all this go away, but I just don't know what to do.
• Canada
26 Jun 11
My husband is working, but he can only do so much.
@Hatley (164672)
• Garden Grove, California
25 Jun 11
hi kris oh my dear you should have been off that foot, that was probably the major cause and all the rest just added to it. Could you not get sick leave from your boss? oh those darned cockroaches once you get them you do have problems . Driving with a broken foot was really a bad idea. I see you are working but whats hubby doing? if nothing else could he not work extra hours and let you stay home? I have a headache and my own hip hurts just thinking about you working with a broken foot. I know in this dreadful economy everyone is working too long hours just because they want to keep their jobs.Sounds like you are working for a gardening service? my husband ran one for a number of years. I used to help him when I could hard work but interesting too. Need a laugh? I was just thinking of odd names. when my husband ran that gardening service I had taken a call and it sounded like the man said he was Mr.Clackensnitch so I called my husband who was just getting dressed to take his call. I asked him later what the man's name was as I was sure I had not gotten it right and my husband said "He said his Name was Robert Clackensnitch. He even spelled it for me. " We found out later that although he had the weirdest name he was one to the most wealthy men in our county. but Ialways felt like lau ghing when I heard that name.
• Canada
25 Jun 11
He's working too, but it's minimum wage. I make more than him when I actually get paid. Yes it is gardening, but I do everything to do with landscaping, and we were looking at projects that are going to be difficult to do with a broken foot. I can't take time off, I'm the only one of us who drives, and right now it is only the 2 of us working this company. We've never had clients with funny names like that. I wish we did, I'd definitely laugh at them. I wish my husband could work more hours, but his boss is a b!tch and wont give anyone extra hours. It would help if he could get the extra hours.
• Canada
30 Jun 11
You sound like you need a drink. Are there any good bars around there?
@TeamCholent (2843)
• United States
26 Jun 11
Seems like you have a lot going on right now! I hope things get better soon. Have you found anything you can do for 5 minutes a day that will either take you away and make you forget the current conditions and have fun for few minutes(cooking for me used to do that). The positive side is that you are working unlike so many others in the world today Have you tried speaking to your boss about the rest of your money that is owed as it's not fair to you to have to suffer the stress for her blunder and face the risk of being placed in collections. Hope things get better and every cloud has a silver lining.
• United States
26 Jun 11
Hi! WOW--I can understand why you need to vent and just laugh. You said you needed to get off your feet--what about a silly movie like Spaceballs, Robin Hood Men in Tights, or perhaps one of the original Pink Panther Series? Those are usually good for a silly laugh. Can you get to a library or are you signed up with Netflix? You can find some great stuff there! About the guys--tell them you need to get off your feet and tell them what happens if you don't. See what you are able to do (if anything) and get them to work with you. As for your husband (mine does this too at times), if he is rambling on and on, ask him politely if there is a point to whatever the topic is. Is the topic really important to him and is he venting? Can you participate effectively in the conversation or is there something you are able to do to help him out? These are only suggestions and I do hope that they will work or at least help you feel better. We all need our time alone and we do need to communicate what we need even though it may seem obvious to us. Hang in there!
@daeckardt (6245)
• United States
26 Jun 11
I'm sorry life is so stressful for you right now. I think that it would be very frustrating to be in your situation. It is ridiculous that they can't get you at least one day off in order to give you some much needed rest! I know one of my neighbors had worked three weeks straight without a day off and they tried to talk her into working Friday night when she was scheduled off, but because her daughter cried so much when they called her she decided she couldn't do it. It's too bad you can't do something like that. If your foot is in such bad shape, you really shouldn't be on it and the fact that they are forcing you to work is almost criminal. Don't they have worker's compensation or something like that in your country? Usually, if you are injured, you should be able to get time off to recover. Were you hurt at home or on the job (I really don't recall right now)? I hope rain comes your way so that you have some recovery time. I wish I could find a way to give you a good laugh because I know you need it. Take care of yourself!