Facebook can cause jealousy!!

South Africa
July 1, 2011 4:56am CST
I really enjoy spending time on facebook and I think its a great way to keep in touch with friends. But I just want to warn everyone that sometimes it can be dangerous to relationships! I just had a situation where a good friend of mine broke up with her boyfriend because he saw messages on her wall from other guys. The thing was, though, that the messages didn't mean anything and were actually from these guys who liked her, but she had no interest in any of them. So it caused this huge rift in her relationship for nothing, as she would always be faithful and loyal to her boyfriend. Have any of you had similar problems with facebook?
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11 responses
@xtedaxcvg (3191)
• Philippines
1 Jul 11
I think that was for the best. It's a good thing that the boyfriend broke up with your friend this early in their relationship just because he saw some posts from other guys that really don't mean anything. That way, your friend now knows that his boyfriend is the jealous type and that could be dangerous.
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• Philippines
4 Jul 11
it is true that some social networking site give us trouble but if it is up to us to control it just like we should know who are we going to accept friends and etc.
@Hvaniday1 (550)
• Malaysia
2 Jul 11
Nope, I don't face such problem. Maybe there are still young and unable to take it or it might cause misunderstanding. How young is your friend? Why her boy friend so jealous about the messages? I couldn't understand why just a small things can cause relationship breakup.
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@moirai (1853)
• Philippines
1 Jul 11
I wouldn't really blame facebook. Haha. =P This would have happened too even outside of facebook. I think the guy was a jealous type and maybe communication and trust between the two were not that good. What I'm trying to say is, if the relationship is strong and the couple trusts and respects each other, things like this won't be enough to shake them.
@moirai (1853)
• Philippines
2 Jul 11
I see nothing wrong with the girl having guy friends, in the same way I see nothing wrong with the guy having female friends. I don't think that just because someone is in a relationship, it automatically means that the world should shrink into a place with a bunch of people of the same gender and only one of the other (that is, the boy/girlfriend). Hehehe. =P What is needed is to know their place, their limits, and to have enough trust and respect for each other. And communication and honesty are very important too. Yes definitely. He should have talked with her first before breaking up. =)
@nezavisima (7418)
• Bulgaria
1 Jul 11
haha I had not heard of such jealousy. How can there be so jealous of people for one position and separation. I think that love will be split with a girlfriend to talk among themselves. I think we should be careful with this and Facebook to know what you posted there. Have a nice day!
• Bulgaria
3 Jul 11
just as a friend. I think we should be careful with these things. Who and what we write. Thank you. nice day!
• Philippines
2 Jul 11
hehehhe, me and my boyfriend sometimes check on each others facebook account, last time he got jealous to one of my friend from Italy because he is getting sweet to me, I just laughed at him and said I always love you, and he said he doesn't like that sweetness so i decided to unfriend him huhuhu.but i love my boyfriend more than anyone else and he shows faithfulness to me too so i don't want to broke his trust to me.
@jazel_juan (15767)
• Philippines
2 Jul 11
it happens, happened to me. lol but well if he trust her, he could have not mind those messages!
• United States
2 Jul 11
Facebook allows many to freely use it how they choose, many do not realize what they are posting at times and it can cause issues in relationships, but really it depends on the person. My boyfriend uses Facebook constantly and to date is respectable enough not to use it in this way. He is not afraid to leave it open at all times at home as he does not use it for intense of purposes as some who do for cheating purposes. I don't use mine much, but have noticed a great deal of inappropriate behavior amongst friends and families which has later caused issues.
@jameygc (453)
• United States
1 Jul 11
That's the reason why I only have my family and good friends y facebook. My husband is not too cyber so he doesn't has facebook, believe it or not. But he is cool about me having contact with my friends and family. I think the key is to have a limit on what you permit in your page. People will reach the limit you let them. That is why you should stop them before they get too far to the point to create problems between your boyfriend, husband, etc. and you.
@jaiho2009 (39019)
• Philippines
1 Jul 11
I can say that,that's being immature for the boy to broke up with his girlfriend all because of those messages. If someone wants to cheat...why published in public? In my opinion,the boy is so immature and too much jealousy really could lead to distraction. I guess the girl should be thankful,at least she have come to know the real attitude of her boyfriend. have a great weekend and welcome to mylot
@GemmaR (8526)
1 Jul 11
I think that you're right, and it can cause many problems in people's relationships. I know that whenever another man posts on my Facebook wall my boyfriend asks me who they are, how I know them, and whether they're looking for something else other than friendship. This is unfair, as it implies that he does not trust me to speak to people without trying to get into a relationship with them, and he should know by now that he is the only person I want, and that I wouldn't think of anyone else in that way while I'm still with him.
@lheynne (27)
1 Jul 11
Yes, i had that problem before. My boyfriend got jealous not because of the messages on my wall or comments in the pictures but to the person always beside me in the pictures taken together with our colleagues when we had our outing. He accused me of of having a third party and it became a fight eventually. Anything is possible in facebook...it makes communication easier,it creates a better way to spread good or bad news,it can make you popular yet it can damage also once repution or relationship.