Own Life

Malaysia
July 1, 2011 10:16pm CST
I don't like Saturday, simply because occasionally I can't attend the church service and I need to lie to my husband. My husband made me feel guilty for not able to attend church service. He kind of mentally torturing me with these as I am not faithful to God. I can't attend because I need to work. Why can't he take the blame himself? If he is capable to take care of the family financially, I'm much willing to stop work and go to church with him every occasion. We have quarreled over these matter a few times and I'm tired about it. Am I wrong for not attending church service because I need to work? When can I live my own life !!! I wanted so much to walk out from him!
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4 responses
@barehugs (8973)
• Canada
2 Jul 11
I'm a senior who grew up in a Religious family where everyone went to church every Sunday. Religion didn't seem that important to me, and I began to question the importance of Religion in my life. Consequently I gave up my Religion entirely when I was 23, and walked away from the Church, never to return. I've had a very happy and fulfilling life, and I have never missed religion at all!
• Malaysia
3 Jul 11
Barehugs - I do agree with you to a certain extend. I do believe there's God but at the same time, I'm also a realistic person. I need put food on the table, pay bills/loans and other unexpected expenses every month. Is only staying with a religion fanatic that spoil my life. Scarface2010 - I agreed totally with your comment and share your view regards with religion.
@angie20 (191)
• Philippines
2 Jul 11
I'm not married yet and too young to have one. But, as I see you're having a serious problem with your husband to the extent that walking out from his life is the best solution. Why don't you let him read what's in your mind? I mean, talk to him earnestly and tell him what you really feel. I think he's old enough to know whether or not that people around him don't appreciate his actions anymore. Whatever his response is, just ignore it especially if the ending of your conversation turns sour. It's not bad skipping church services for work. But, I think you better sincerely ask God for possible new opportunities that can both help your family's needs and your own spiritual growth. Trust God with all your heart and he'll never fail you. God bless! ^_^
• Malaysia
3 Jul 11
Angie20 - thanks for your comment. Yes, many times I wanted to walk out but I don have the courage yet. Frankly, I am asking God to give me these courage, very weird right ?? Scarface2010 - You are young but very understanding and gentleman. Really need skill, patience, understanding and true love to sustain a marriage, is not easy.
@daeckardt (6237)
• United States
4 Jul 11
I know that the first time I had to work on Sunday, I felt really bad about missing church. I talked to my pastor about it and he said not to worry about it because I have to work. He said that God would understand and that it isn't like in the old days where no one had to work on Sunday. This is the real world today and your husband should learn to deal with it. I'm not sure what kind of church you go to or what their rules are, but most of the time there should be a way to "make up" the missed service. At my church, I had the option of attending Saturday night instead of Sunday, but most of the time I didn't. If it is a major problem, perhaps you could talk to your employer about possibly changing your work schedule. Have a great week!!!
@EdnaReyes (2622)
• Philippines
6 Jul 11
Hello, Sometimes couples fight for odd reasons. Why not talk it over him and make some compromise like you will take another day of church service which is not hamper by your work or you can change church affiliation where you can have church service on your free day. You have to talk and pray together and God will lead you to the right solution to your problem. But I think ,there's more than this inability to join him in church service. You ear holding grudges against your husband as not a good provider and you hate working for the family. You can get free and be on your own, all you have to do is take some action. But always be sure, you bear all consequences that may result from your actions. Deep in your heart, you know what you want and what do to!