Other family
By dreamertink
@dfollin (24307)
United States
July 5, 2011 11:20am CST
When I was a baby,my parents had split up.My father was not a very good person.We moved about a thousand miles away back to my mothers family.She never let me have any contact with the family,even thou not everyone was not as nice as my father.
When,I was an adult I found out that my father had died.But,his lifestyle had improved thru the years.I have had contact with the family and a lot with some of my half siblings and cousin's.
But,there are people in my family,on my mom's side that think that I shouldn't as well as some half siblings on my father's side that will not talk to me.
What do you think? As me and my whole sister,who just recently came around to associated with them and some half siblings....We didn't chose who are parent's would be.
When,I was an adult I found out that my father had died.But,his lifestyle had improved thru the years.I have had contact with the family and a lot with some of my half siblings and cousin's.
But,there are people in my family,on my mom's side that think that I shouldn't as well as some half siblings on my father's side that will not talk to me.
What do you think? As me and my whole sister,who just recently came around to associated with them and some half siblings....We didn't chose who are parent's would be.1 person likes this
5 responses
@ANTIQUELADY (36440)
• United States
5 Jul 11
tHAT'S RIGHT U DIDN'T CHOOSE & IF I WANTED TO HAVE SOMETHING TO DO W/THEM I WOULD NO MATTER WHAT THE OTHERS THOUGHT.My mother never had a kind word to say about my dad sfter they divorced. I got tired of hearing it & i told her i didn't choose my dad she did.
@dfollin (24307)
• United States
5 Jul 11
That's right she did!
Sometimes my mom will look at it that way and then the other day she was talking to her friend in front of me and left the impression that she did not like me sending my sister a birthday card.She is trying to discourage me from going to see them and she convinced my son not to want to go with us or have anything to do with them.
Sometimes my mom will look at it that way and then the other day she was talking to her friend in front of me and left the impression that she did not like me sending my sister a birthday card.She is trying to discourage me from going to see them and she convinced my son not to want to go with us or have anything to do with them.1 person likes this
@ANTIQUELADY (36440)
• United States
5 Jul 11
Some times mothers can be very difficult to get along with. Mine sure was. have a good night.
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@dfollin (24307)
• United States
7 Jul 11
I understand that,but she said that she only disliked my father not his sister.She said that she could not understand why one of the mother's of some of my half siblings did not like me because of me having a different mother.Yet,when I mentioned it being a half siblings birthday in front of a friend of hers she said with an attitude,"Oh she is just another one of her father's kids!"
I too am split up from both my son's father's and I have no problem with my son's,that are now adults having contact with their half siblings.Mater of fact,I would not have any problem spending time with them and their families.I have never kept my son's away from their father's or their families,even thou they are both irrespondsible father's and were not good to me.
@stephcjh (38473)
• United States
6 Jul 11
I think this kind of thing is going on in alot of families, especially these days. You have to do what you think is best for yourself and make decisions from there without worrying what others think about it. In some cases, you just have to find out no matter what others had already told you but then you have to make the right choices after that also with the other side of the family too.
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@kenzie45230 (3560)
• United States
5 Jul 11
I think it's healthy to have relationships with as much of extended family as we can.
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@dfollin (24307)
• United States
5 Jul 11
I do genealogy and have met a lot of extended family.I agree with you.
@ludyvel04 (311)
• Philippines
6 Jul 11
You have right to communicate with your father's family cause you were his child no matter what other would say. Others are telling that you shouldn't cause they let their pride/ego to hinder your happiness. Being connected with your family is something that will boost your confidence in a sense that family is a part of our life as a human being, being able to feel acceptance and happiness that can't be filled only by one parent but of both parents. Others won't understand what you feel, its only you who feels the hunger to get connected with your father (atleast with his remnants).
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