how to court a girl?

Philippines
July 7, 2011 5:58am CST
Hi, I found someone I like and I wanted to court her. I don't know what would be my first move and I don't know what to say if will come to her. what should I do and what should i say?
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7 responses
• United States
7 Jul 11
Hi Leon, how refreshing your question is. All I can share with you is what I would like done for me if someone wanted to court me. I would want the person to talk with me a few times, just being a friend or being friendly. This is so I can find something to like about him, and then I would like him to maybe just offer me some flowers and have him tell me that he likes me, and would I like to start spending time with him. I'd want you to just be yourself and only say what you feel and not try to force it. Just be the charming you.
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• Philippines
7 Jul 11
wonderful, thank you. i think would follow what you are suggesting. what would be the best keyword to use if i will tell her that i like her. just to say i like you or i am in love with you?
• United States
7 Jul 11
Just say you like her. Saying you love her when you barely know her wouldn't be sincere. It also would be kind of clumsy. You don't want to scare the girl off. Just be yourself.
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• Philippines
9 Jul 11
for example; me: would you mind if i tell you something? she: i don't mind me: i would like to say to you that i like you. she: ? I don't know what's next.
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7 Jul 11
I've always been one for simplicity: try just asking her out. "Want to go for a coffee/drink/burger/meal/walk on the beach together some time?" is so simple and obvious. There's really no need to play games: as Pointless said above, just give her time to get to know you and see if she's interested. By the way, I'd avoid the whole gifts approach - you can give someone the impression you're trying to buy them and you'll never be sure if they like you for you or your money. A gift every now and again is great, just don't make a habit of it.
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• Philippines
7 Jul 11
great suggestion. and thank you for the reminder. i think i could use the line you suggested. it's just simple and i think that will work.
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7 Jul 11
Oh, one other thing. If she says "no" (which she won't, of course), don't beg. Just say "OK" (with an optional "See you around!" if you know her as a friend), smile and leave.
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• Philippines
7 Jul 11
wow, i've been learning here. i feel that i am still a newbie when it comes to coursthip when i am old already. great, if ever she says no i have already a bullet to shot at her. this is good. i may not feel sad when she turned me down. now theboozebrothers, you are now kidding.
@Aryna120 (30)
• Malaysia
7 Jul 11
I only got 1 advice for you. From my experience, don't try to hard but be yourself. If she don't like you being yourself, that means she don't deserve you. As simple as that.
• Philippines
7 Jul 11
do you mean i should stay as myself? don't do things that does not corresponds who i am? i think make every thing to impress her but just show my friendliness to her first.
• United Arab Emirates
7 Jul 11
One thing that a girl really like is for someone to be able to make her laugh. You don't have to be a clown but you should be humorous. But the best thing is to just be yourself, be a friend to her first and then tell her your true intentions. Goodluck! :)
• Philippines
7 Jul 11
i think that would be hard for me to tell my intentions, i don't know how to say it. i think i just want to make friends with her so that i may know her better and not to reveal my intention first in order to increase my chances of winning her heart.
• Philippines
7 Jul 11
first thing you do is be gentlemen and loving always update to here what she do? where is she? and try to say to her that dont skip your meal...taht was your first thing to do try to get your attentions to her. and be sincer to her...and go for a date....and you bring her to a memorable place and quite... you tell her everthing what you feel...cu what next....goodluck hope fine....
• Philippines
7 Jul 11
well that is a simple thing to do, i think i can do this but before this, i should ask her contact number first since i don't contact information with her. and that's the time i could invite her and talk to her in a beautiful place.
@Reyah23 (641)
• Philippines
7 Jul 11
Well i believe courting a girl will depends on the culture in your county. But what i could suggest you is just be yourself and not pretend to be a man that you are not just to get the approval of the girl.
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• Philippines
7 Jul 11
great. thank you for the reminder. be myself and don't pretend to be someone when i am not.
@nurseclare (2210)
• Philippines
7 Jul 11
hahahah,,You haven't courted a girl yet?too funny,, well, I'm not a men so i really don't know how. But few men courted me so I think i knew some tricks.. You just gave her flowers, chocolates, stuff toys or sweet text mesages.You can call her or just visit in her place. As easy as that leon. :) I know men herein mylot will give you a good suggestion :)
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• Philippines
7 Jul 11
you are great, yeah this would be my first time to court a girl whom i like. i courted many girls before just for the sake of having girlfriends and i don't love them. now i find it hard to court a girl you really like than a girl you don't like.