how do you deal with office conflicts?

Philippines
July 8, 2011 10:27pm CST
my favorite phrase for today is, "stop! i've had enough!" because true enough, i've had my own share of these and seeing some more issues boiling up is not a great idea. why do we end up scrutinizing each others mishaps? why do we always treat each other as if everything is under control and then start backstabbing? why cant we get enough of these? it's very tiring, right?
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12 responses
@sanjay91422 (2728)
• India
9 Jul 11
I think that best thing to deal with the office conflicts is to turn to a complete professional. Never engage yourself in the office talks about one another. Don't share your personal life in there, always avoid to tell anything about it. When you see others in a professional way you will have your professional image in there and everyone will treat you in same way.
• Philippines
9 Jul 11
my mom always tell me not to disclose my whole life even if i feel a close relationship to a colleague.. she says a colleague will always be a colleague, no matter how close you get, there will be a time that negative issues will come out and they might use some personal information against you. thanks for your reply sir
• India
9 Jul 11
That is a good advise for you because in family you have to solve all your personal problems but when you are in profession then forget the personal and go completely professionally. Avoid the people who talk about others in office and then stabs others from behind.
• Philippines
9 Jul 11
indeed! ill just be careful next time, ive been a victim of these for so many times, could be because im too gullible for them. anyway, as much as i can, i dont want to hold grudges... but seeing them everyday, having them on the same team, its pure torture.
@zandi458 (27952)
• Malaysia
9 Jul 11
Office politics is normal in any organizations. Just don't get involved in this grapevine gossiping that could lead to bad bloods among staff.
• Philippines
10 Jul 11
easier said than done, friend. sometimes no matter how hard one tries to avoid this office politics it catches upon you. and there are so many manipulators and invalidators in the workplace, right?
• Mexico
9 Jul 11
I will go and talk to the person I am having a conflict with and ask to talk to them in private. I'll explain what's bothering me and what can be done to fix the problem. If they act cocky or immature I'll just go and talk to my superior. Normally this works very well and I've never had to talk to my superior :)
• Philippines
9 Jul 11
this must be what aggravated the situation, because they started the discussion in public and it ended up in an heated argument.. later on, even those who are not related to the conversation/issue are throwing comments here and there making matters even worse... its really ideal if issues are spoken/talked over privately...
@SIMPLYD (79764)
• Philippines
9 Jul 11
I now make it a point now , never to say anything when somebody has done some errors. That way, i avoid conflict with my office mates. However, when the misdoing is obviously gross, i wouldn't have the qualms to make an incident report about it.
• Philippines
9 Jul 11
i also do this, there are even times that when somebody offended me, i just shrugged my shoulders as if nothing happen. but i realized sooner that these are the same people who would always offend you because you dont fight back.
• Philippines
4 Jul 12
Hi Katzar, We couldn't really get away from office conflicts...so as much as possible, I try to consider and I would try to lower down my pride when it comes to misunderstandings and arguments. I just don't want to have that kind of working environment similar as what I experienced years ago. As of the moment, we are united with our fellow colleagues. So, no problem as of the moment. Happy Mylotting.
@r3jcorp (1384)
• Philippines
19 Mar 12
I wish I could do that... to yell to them to stop because I've had enough. But work ethics does not approve that so I just always tell that on myself when I am alone. Yap, there are lots of backstabbing... the greater problem is giving the issue their own interpretation, making it more worst by adding to it and sometimes judging before hearing my own side. I guess they love torturing other people, they forgot what we have done to them even for a mistake that is not actually ours. Yes, I am too tired of defending myself. I just waited for things to happen and for God's will... Yes, they tell us that we should not rely everything to God but to work for it too... but when you are at the end of the road, sometimes, you just wanted to seek for God to have a Fatherly hug and to be a little child again, having Him control our life to bring us to the best path.
@didi13 (2927)
• Romania
26 Feb 12
Avoid conflicts. But when we feel impossible avoided, I give a very wrong state. Irritable. Not offer less than he demands. And do not ask more than I deserve. And yet ... I have said I have a problem, to be employed ... But I do quite well, every day is harder when there is a conflict-generating situation. In the beginning, just because I can not say no, or I can not clearly express the view, it's conflicts. Crushed. Then, frustrations and tensions somehow find loopholes, and give out. And affect involvement, dedication, desire to make things happen. Are, in fact, an employee easy to please. Because asking is fairness. Ok, do things right, meet all that I ask, I mold perfectly to the role I'm asked to play it and ... it's good. Very well. Receive the crown even comforts, like "you're a good dog" and give their best, not for heads or salaries but from a sense of satisfaction of work well done. When, however, lacks feel that my involvement, but not complacency and gratitude, the simple, normal correct result, a change in me. When all you expect is respect and recognition value when I ask is, certainly, even less than they would normally be. So I do not like conflicts. For they know not to fix things so that after him, to be as before.
@pibi713 (187)
• China
18 Aug 11
Colleages stay in the same office everyday. It is very likely to have arguments. You have to face him everyafter, so don't make the little things become big. And you don't have to be intimate with him, because you are friends.
@beingwell (3627)
• Thailand
29 Jul 11
I don't know why some people enjoy being in trouble or having conflicts. They're not healthy at all. The best recourse my dear is to focus on good things. Let them do their thing and just continue doing yours.
@alquizar (480)
• Philippines
12 Jul 11
I think I should better be quite unless they want me to say something but not to aggravate the conflict.I will just say what is really the truth and based on what I had observed.Sometimes at the office their are lots of people who had a crab mentality which we should not mind them because they won't really help us.They are just jealous on what you had achieved at work and they tend to pull you down.
@dkboss (134)
• India
9 Jul 11
In office you must try to team building and make some backward steps if any conflict .. so you can save your energy to solve the conflict.. if you build a group and team then all teammates consult at same time to remove any conflict.
@amoyube1980 (2233)
• Somalia
9 Jul 11
This might seem like doing nothing but I just shrug my shoulder, do my job and not try to add to the animosity that people throw at each other. This is something that exists in all workplaces I beleive, since a workplace is a small representation of a community made up of different personalities which whether we like it or not, there would always be 1 or 2 or 3 that would clash at one point or another, for whatever reason under the sun. Or moon.