What to do with your ex husband, when he doesn't want to see your son?

So why bother if he does not bother at all? Let him get lost! You are already living a good life with your new husband and you can always give your son the parental love he needs. You don't need that uncaring ex to complete the life of your son anyway. Just forget about him and don't even mind if he does not really care about seeing your son or not. Don't be so stressed about someone you and your son do not really need.

How old is your son? I'd sit down and discuss it with him.... see how HE feels about this situation with his dad. If dad really doesn't seem interested in regular visits, then I wouldn't push it. If he signed his rights over, would he then not have to pay you child support? Maybe you could use that as a way to sweeten the deal. I know that one reason non custodial parents fight so hard to still see kids (or at least pretend they will) is because they don't want to pay more money to the cusstodial parent. If you take the money off the table, sooner or later their real motivations will show. They either ACTUALLY care about the child or they don't. A non custodial parent who still really cares about their child will still want to see their child whether they have to pay more or not. Someone who doesn't will willingly walk away if they don't have to pay child support any more if they walk away. As far as the driving, I think it would be a wiser idea for you to both meet halfway. That way neither of you is stuck with the whole 8 hours, yet both of you have to drive at least 4 each way. That's reasonable, in my opinion and shows effort on both your parts to attempt to make things easier for your son.

It sounds like your ex-husband is going through a busy or difficult time at the moment. Therefore I think it would be wise to give him some space to sort himself out. Life is full of things to do after moving. It is great that you have such a lovely current husband. Time could fly by and your son will be happy living with you and your current husband. Maybe your ex-husband will phone when he is ready. It is not a good idea to fight legally to get your ex to sign his rights away. You shouldn't have to drive a long way after all he was the one that moved. Good luck.

I know after my brother got his divorce, his ex moved from California (where he was attending law school) back to Oregon where her boyfriend lived. They shared custody and they usually met half way between where the two of them lived. It sounds like your ex doesn't really care if he sees his son or not. You might suggest meeting half way if there is an interesting area where you could take a trip to on the way to where he lives. He might not like it, but it would be better than having to make two round trips all the way to where he lives and it might be a break from being at home. How does your son feel about his biological father? Does he want to see him or would he be just as happy to not see or hear from him? Just curious. Have a great weekend!!!

For me never mind let your son called him to visit and set a location they want it so that he feel guilty to be with his son.

Phil Collins describes this situation perfectly, "its a game of give and take." It is not fair to you to drive there and drop off your son and drive back and then drive there and fetch him after a little while. Your ex needs to show some love, what is the point of spending time with ones son if there is no love or feeling and if there is then such a trip is no burden. How old is your son?