Why we are friendless?

India
July 12, 2011 12:11pm CST
We are now so busy with our own activities that we find no time to spare for others. Moreover, we are now so selfish and self-centred that we even never try to afford any spare time for others. This attitude makes us friendless because friendship always needs some time to spare for friends.
19 responses
@beingwell (3625)
• Thailand
26 Jul 11
Hi DoctorDD! On the contrary, working online has led me to a number of new friends. I may not know them in person but I am learning from most of them on how to enjoy and appreciate life more and more.
@myfb2009 (8304)
• Malaysia
28 Jul 11
Same like you, i had got the chance to know many new friends who are wonderful. I had also gained a lot of new knowledge when working together with them. Seems like, working from home not a boring matter, too.
@beingwell (3625)
• Thailand
28 Jul 11
That's right myfb! I'm really comfortable with what I'm doing right now. If only the earnings would multiply fast. I meet a lot of people online and I learn a lot from them as well. Yay!
• Netherlands
12 Jul 11
Time is Money now, People do look for their profits these days. This is one reason why friends just don't even think for a meet. But oneday when we meet true friend who gives joy which is more precious than money., we understand the warmth of friendship.
• India
14 Jul 11
Yes, we are now all running after money and so we can never manage any time to spare for others. We are all aware of this simple truth of modern life. But we cannot come out of it, we are all a victim of the system we have created ourselves.
@SynDash (133)
• Lithuania
12 Jul 11
Well... Not anyone is like you described. It IS pretty silly to think that everyone is like you (a wild guess). I don't have many friends, but those who are my them, are special, so I'd do a lot for them (anything is too strong of a word here :D).
• India
12 Jul 11
I have also mentioned the same like you that you have to spare time for friends. If you can do a lot for them, they will also treat you as their friend.
@myfb2009 (8304)
• Malaysia
28 Jul 11
I must agreed that recently i had been less communicate with my friends due to too many commitments that i had to handle in my home. Although i am busy, i still find some time to call and even send text message to them. Only, we spend less time hanging out together, since they are also busy with their own household matters. Luckily, i had found a good place like mylot where i can chat and get to know some new friends as well. At least, i don't feel boring with my life since i have both online and offline friends to chat everyday.
@jak2010 (1550)
• Papua New Guinea
20 Jul 11
There may be many thing contributing our freindlessness. Some you mentioned and others I think of are, our ego, we do not look out of ourselves.politics, religion and greed etc.
@rappeter13 (5298)
• Romania
18 Jul 11
No matter what, I always try to make myself some time to speak and meet my friends. I am not a very socializing type, but I have a few good friends and I like to spend time with them, to have fun, to go to a party, to have some drinks, to play some football or to go to swim or things like that. Yes, personal relationships need time and physical meeting, and we have to organize our lives in a such manner that we have to maintain the contact with them. Money is not everything and we need mental and spiritual wealth as well.
@dorannmwin (36698)
• United States
16 Jul 11
Well, for me I would never be the kind of person that is friendless. Now, I will admit that I really don't have a lot of friends, however, I really do treasure the friends that I do have in my life. I am the kind of person that tends to have many different acquaintances, but only a few very close friends. Most of the close friends that I do have have been my friends for at least the last ten years because I don't quickly learn to trust other people.
@rajeshfgh (1627)
• India
14 Jul 11
I believe that even if one is busy, friendships can be maintained. Friendship does not mean that you need to hang around with each other all the time. It is actually a mutual feeling that both persons have. It is actually said to be respect and affection for the other person, that even if you have not contacted each other for ages, the spark and the friendliness will emerge once you meet or speak your long-lost friend. As for catching up, I think a short phone call or SMS is enough to make the other person know that you care and even keep the lamp of friendship burning.
• Philippines
14 Jul 11
Even we are busy and we don't have time to meet our friends. It doesn't mean that we are friendless. A true friendship is not only by seeing each other, getting together and having a good time with them. I think it's a matter of how you will communicate and talk to them even you don't have time to be with them. As a matter of fact, what is the goodness of having so many friends if they are not true? So its better to have a few friends that all is good and true to you than to have a million friends but all plastic and hypocrite. Am I right?
@Althafk (172)
• India
13 Jul 11
If you are not sparing time with your friends means you either doesnt like those friends and you need some better ones or else you are so busy with your own life.If second is the case,then that is a sad case,you just will have to arrange some spare time and must enjoy your life to the fullest with your friends.If you are not doing this,then you are jerk,who put onesown life to boreness. Come on :-) Cheer Up :-) Your Friends will be waiting for You :-) :-)
@ebuscat (5949)
• Philippines
13 Jul 11
For me you don't have time to said hi and hello to your friend that's why you are now friendless.
@angie20 (191)
• Philippines
13 Jul 11
I don't think that we are friendless. The underline statement may be it depends on the person, himself. We don't have to necessarily be on coffee shops to talk and be with someone just to befriend him. There are some people who are busy but tends to maintain to have a healthy and sustainable friendships. I mean, it depends to you, if you let your selfish attitude eat your system in which will later turn you into an all alone man. You can send short messages to someone you love or your friends even once in a while. A kind of gratitude for having them as a part of your life. Though, anyways you're busy right? But, the use of online networking will be useless if we will just ignore it. Some people use this gift of computer generation to find friends. I even read from a Reader's Digest about a story of a woman who found a better friend from a blog site. You don't have to push too much just to spare really time for your friends. Friends understand you but never abuse. Greet them during birthdays or even treat them at lunch. I think those deeds will never let us be friendless. There are many simple ways of acquiring true friends, only if you'll try. ^_^
@marguicha (100267)
• Chile
13 Jul 11
I wouldn´t know how to answer as I have many wonderful friends. But I do know that in order to have them, you have to be for them too. That means that if you want to be near anyone, you have to spend time and love in the relation. I find people nowadays center more their lives in having than in being. It´s a pity. They might have material riiches but they are utterly poor.
• China
13 Jul 11
Hi,DoctorDidi,you are right and your analysis is right and frondose. As we grow up,we spend more time on more things,the things used to be important to us seems not so important now,it include our friends and some thing with our friends,we have to work,so we only can meet them after work,but when we after work,we have our family or we have to do some thing that can make our work better,or we just tired ,we just don't want to spend time on our friends. Then,one day ,maybe we feel upset or sad,we want to talk to our friends,they may have the same situation with us,so our friendship become less and less important. Value our friendship,it 's really one of the best things in life.
@toniganzon (53205)
• Philippines
13 Jul 11
When over time you have invested good friends, nothing can keep you apart, not even time. True friends are someone who will always be there, but it doesn't mean physically there. Moral support can be given in various ways. As long as there is constant communication, doesn't have to be everyday, true friends will remain that way.
@savypat (20246)
• United States
12 Jul 11
It's true friends can take a lot of time, but isn't it time well spent? In times of need who come to your aide? Friends.
@polaris77 (2031)
• Bacau, Romania
12 Jul 11
Unfortunately,it's true,we have less and less time for our friends,and they have less and less time for us too.It's a shame that such a thing because many of us become estranged from their longtime friends,and there comes a time we have no one to communicate and share our joys and sorrows unless we are online.That's why it is very important to get out from time to time,meet friends and have a good time,that will prevent us becoming completely friendless.
@puccagirl (7316)
• Israel
12 Jul 11
Well, it is true that people have less time for other people these days, but it doesn't have to be like that. One can make time, if you really want to. I do it on a regular basis, and I am glad I do. Friendships are important, and if you neglect your friends, it will often be too late when you try to go back to them. All that said, I think there are plenty of people out there like me, who do value their friends and make time for them. At least I hope so! :)
• United States
12 Jul 11
I am out of nature a very friendly person. I can't say the same for everyone that I know but at least I do what comes natural to me and am a very caring person. I will take time to make sure the people I care about are doing okay. Even if I can't help them fully, I do always try and make sure they are aware that I do care. Some perhaps take friendships for granted feeling that life will stop and everything will always remain the same. I am sure there are many like me that know that tomorrow is not promised therefore, we must always take a few moments to care.