what is she thinking?

Malaysia
July 16, 2011 2:00pm CST
So I got a friend in US. She's a chinese and married. I asked for her address because I want to visit her.I told her about my financial difficulties and problems with my health. She didn't gave me and one day she invited me to her real estate party. She know I am staying in Malaysia. What is she thinking?
9 responses
@besthope44 (12146)
• India
22 Jul 11
Hi Wongchoiyee, I feel your friend still have developed a trust bonded friendship with you. She seems to confused or worried about her financial status as well. So go and visit US and if she really invites you more than twice then take up. This usually happens in long distance friendship.
• Malaysia
22 Jul 11
I see. So she is not making fun of me?
@besthope44 (12146)
• India
22 Jul 11
I dont think she is making fun of you Wongchoiyee. I believe she is thinking of the charges and other things, may be her family persons. She might be having some constraints in inviting you.
@stary1 (6622)
• United States
16 Jul 11
Did you ask for her address more than one time?? I think, to be sure, you need to ask for her address again. Hopefully it was just an oversight?? Good luck.
• Malaysia
16 Jul 11
I just asked for one time. I don't want myself to be embarrassed for the second time.
@stary1 (6622)
• United States
17 Jul 11
I understand, but it could be she just forgot. Unless you ask again you won't really know. It could well be she just slipped up and overlooked giving it to you. If that's the case, you will be worrying about something which isn't totally accurate. You can act as if you never asked her before and just repeat the question. This is what I would do but I respect the fact you may not agree.
@surekharathi (14134)
• India
20 Jul 11
Ohhhh friend dont worry if she not interested to giving her address to you then you also not go there where she want. Not ask again and again otherwise she think you need her. Now good friends cant find easily so left it. If you wants to came visit in India then I will give you my address and always Welcome in my home.
• Malaysia
20 Jul 11
yay, I have a friend in India now. I will probably visit India few years coming when I have the money. Sure will go to your home. Have a nice day!
@isloooboy (1741)
• United Arab Emirates
17 Jul 11
She was thinking you are still in the US or she thought now when he is gone back I can give her my address and have no fear about you will come :D
• Malaysia
17 Jul 11
??? you mean her husband?
@owlwings (38070)
• Cambridge, England
16 Jul 11
You are very naive. This person is not a real friend at all. You have fi9nancial difficulties and health problems and you want to meet a married lady in the States? She is clearly making fun of you. Forget this person.
• Malaysia
17 Jul 11
That's what worried me. How can she treat me like a clown?
@kaylachan (4778)
• Daytona Beach, Florida
16 Jul 11
It's hard to think what other people are thinking. However, the internet has been known to give people a faulse sense of security. It is not intentional, but it does and can happen. When online we can be whomever we want to be, therefore creating an alter idenity all togeather. Quite often people act one way online, and are completely different off. Now, I'm not a trained physocologist so I can't exactly speak for this woman. But, if I had to guess... something like that probably happened. Over the time you two have spoken via the internet, may have caused her to establish some sort of bond with you on some level. She may have developed some form of trust, one to where she's comfortable to have a face-to-face with you, but not to where she's completely comfortable. She invited you to her home, but also to an event where she won't be alone. She probably got got cerious to see the man behind the keyboard, and wants to get to know you on a more personal level.
• Malaysia
16 Jul 11
Uncomfortable? Maybe you are right in some sense. But why?
@kingparker (9698)
• United States
16 Jul 11
Maybe she is teasing you, since she barely know you, and you request her address. Now, she knew that she barely can visit her in the state, she now invited you to a party. Something is ironic about this. Anyway, if I am in facebook, someone I barely know, I won't dare to visit them or want to see them in person, it might be dangerous.
• Malaysia
16 Jul 11
She is my secondary school friend in Malaysia.
• United States
16 Jul 11
She may not have wanted to post her address because she did not want everyone on face book to have it. What I would do is send her a private message asking her again. I know a friend of mine asked for my address and I had responded in a private message because I did not want the whole world knowing where I live. As for her inviting you to the party she could have forgotten that you live in Malaysia, people do forget things sometimes.
• Malaysia
16 Jul 11
No I private message her.
@yspmyl (3438)
• Malaysia
18 Jul 11
Sometime people who refuse to give their address because of inconvenience, they might afraid that when you go there, she have to arrange place for you to stay. May be she have her own problem that she can't tell you, because of that she ignored your request.