making things right
By thatgirl13
@thatgirl13 (7294)
South Korea
July 17, 2011 8:20am CST
There was this good friend+classmate I had when I was kid but then something happened between us and we just separated and never talked to each other again. I think it was partly more my fault than it was his. He left school after 2years and we have no contacts as of now. I do want to apologize but have no idea how to coz he moved to a different country years ago with his family.
I have seen him in my dreams couple of times. The situation is still the same though, we pretend to be strangers, even in my dreams. But last night I saw a pleasant dream. I saw the two of us had talked things out, made things right and we were friends again. It felt so real and I was so happy. I was disappointment after I woke up coz that was just a dream and a bit confused coz I had never had a dream like this before.
Why are dreams so real and better than life itself?? I couldn't get this out of my head the whole day. I had not even thought of him and I'm really surprised as to why I saw his dream 
Have you ever had this kind of dream?? Where you made things right??
Have you ever had this kind of dream?? Where you made things right??3 people like this
13 responses
@stanley777 (9402)
• Philippines
18 Jul 11
I guess your dream is telling you to do what is right.And since you have realized that the fault was more on your side you must initiate the first move.The problem is you don't know where he is right now and you had no idea how to contact him.
At least in your dreams the two of you have talked things out.You can never know maybe he had dream of you too.
@stanley777 (9402)
• Philippines
23 Jul 11
I guess you are really attached with this friend of yours my friend.Imagine years have past and still you have not forget him/her.It's easy for me to say because I'm not the one involved and I know too that it's really hard to forget a friend who we regard as our own brother/sister.You have to move on with your life my friend and if it's destiny that the two of you meets again than you know what to do.Maybe he/she had thought the same thing you do.Good day my friend.
@thatgirl13 (7294)
• South Korea
20 Jul 11
I really would make things right if I ever got to see him again. Though it has been a long time I can't seem to get it off my chest. I do wish our path soon cross 
Thanks for the response!
Thanks for the response!
@penrockerchic (1903)
• Philippines
18 Jul 11
hi thatgirl13. I actually have a pretty similar experience with you. I had a fight a few years back with one of my girl friends and we haven't spoken in years but I definitely remember having her in my dreams at least a couple of times, where we actually made up and became close friends again. During which time, I had been trying to reach out to her and trying to befriend her again but to no avail. I guess she's one of those cold-hearted people that soap operas portray. 
I think that deep inside us, we yearn for a reconciliation and regrets and wishful thinking of undoing things that we can't undo. As of now, we're still strangers even though we have the same set of friends. One thing's worse is that she's migrated in Canada and keeping in touch with her would be pretty difficult. I just wish you the best my friend and hopefully you can both restore the friendship that was lost.
I think that deep inside us, we yearn for a reconciliation and regrets and wishful thinking of undoing things that we can't undo. As of now, we're still strangers even though we have the same set of friends. One thing's worse is that she's migrated in Canada and keeping in touch with her would be pretty difficult. I just wish you the best my friend and hopefully you can both restore the friendship that was lost.@thatgirl13 (7294)
• South Korea
20 Jul 11
I sometimes wish dreams like these weren't a dream but reality. It looked so easy for him to forgive me and we were friends again in my dream. Wy isn't life so easy 
and why is the world so big? Big enough for two people to not find each other
Anyway I hope things turn out good for both of us in the future and thanks for the share 
and why is the world so big? Big enough for two people to not find each other
Anyway I hope things turn out good for both of us in the future and thanks for the share 
@daeckardt (6237)
• United States
17 Jul 11
Maybe that is your subconscious mind telling you it is time to make amends. Do you have a way to reach him? Does he have a facebook account? Some people are able to find old acquaintances by looking there. I don't know if that would work, but if you know anyone else around your school that might have stayed in touch with him they might be able to tell you. Good luck in finding him!
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@thatgirl13 (7294)
• South Korea
18 Jul 11
Thanks. I have tried searching for his name and looked for every result but couldn't find him. There were a few boys who were his best friends but they are out of reach too and since this happened about 8-9 years ago i have no idea where they are
Anywya thanks I'll keep looking. There must be someone who is still in touch with him, hopefully
Anywya thanks I'll keep looking. There must be someone who is still in touch with him, hopefully 
@kingparker (9673)
• United States
23 Jul 11
Maybe subconsciously, you want to correct things that was wrong for you. You want to make it up to that person, and you really want to meet him once again, and befriend with him. Although I have no such experience myself. I hope that you will do the right thing.
@thatgirl13 (7294)
• South Korea
23 Jul 11
Thank you so much and yes I really wanna make things right and go out there and reach him but I seriously have no idea after all these years where he is. I have tried but failed. I just hope our paths cross in the future. I promise I wont let the chance slip.
@edsss17 (4394)
• Philippines
17 Jul 11
Its a good thing that you realized that it is really your fault!
I have also a friend, but we didn't have any misunderstanding before we apart! But when I last saw her last March she seem so distant to me and didn't even talk.. the moment between us is really awkward! :(
You're KOREAN right? Oh.. I really love KOREAN people! :)
@thatgirl13 (7294)
• South Korea
18 Jul 11
@edsss17: I have realised it but I think it's too late now. I have no idea how to get in touch with him. And yes I am korean. Thanks for the complement
@itsstewiepeterson: ??^^
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• South Korea
18 Jul 11
@itsstewiepeterson: Oops!! Sorry I tried typing in korean but it turned into ???s !!
@diala84 (138)
• United States
18 Jul 11
Often times dreams offer counseling for our emotional baggage. Since you cannot see or make up with this friend in real life you have the dream to help you come to peace with that. I have had dreams where I yelled at someone I was frustrated with or heard a closure dialogue from an ex boyfriend. I know it is frustrating that you can't really make things right but this is the best you can do and you obviously have feelings about it even if you haven't thought about it for awhile. These feelings don't just go away it still lingers somewhere in your brain. Your brain is trying to tell you to move on and not to feel guilty about this anymore.
It is natural for kids to drift apart with age and distance. Many people have childhood friends that they never see again and never hear from again. There isn't any certainty that you would be the same people you were back then or that you could fit into each others new lives. Be happy with the time you spent together and hopeful that they are having a good life.
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@thatgirl13 (7294)
• South Korea
20 Jul 11
I really wish i could meet him once and make things right but like you said I guess it'll be best for me to move on. I can be worried and stressed over something I can't correct so yeah thanks. And thanks for the response!!
@secretbear (19448)
• Philippines
21 Jul 11
Hi thatgirl!
I think dreams are representations of our subconscious. I mean, at the back of our minds are the things we badly want to happen, or things that we might have forgotten, or things that we thought we forgot but are actually deeply embedded in our minds. I think whatever we have in our subconscious emerges in our dreams only not in a very exact way.
Since you've been wanting to apologize to your friend, that desire surfaced in your dreams. Because you want to make things right so badly, or you've been wanting to make things right for a long time that it even reached your dreams. I have had these kinds of dreams and it's really disappointing when you wake up and realize it's not real. But at least it's like a reminder that these are the things we want to happen.
@thatgirl13 (7294)
• South Korea
22 Jul 11
Yes it is such a bummer once you wake up to reality . Some dreams feel so real and i wish it were as easy as it was in my dream to make up things. I seriously have no idea as to where he is or what he is doing right now. I just hope he is leading a happy life and remembering me at times.
Thanks for the response and have a wonderful day!!
. Some dreams feel so real and i wish it were as easy as it was in my dream to make up things. I seriously have no idea as to where he is or what he is doing right now. I just hope he is leading a happy life and remembering me at times.
Thanks for the response and have a wonderful day!!
@thatgirl13 (7294)
• South Korea
18 Jul 11
Thanks a lot. I do hope to meet him and correct things before I die
@blue65packer (11826)
• United States
17 Jul 11
That has never happened to me! When I remember dreams they are really bizarre! I have come to realized the more I dream weird dreams the more stressed out I am! I would love to have normal dreams but that doesn't seem to happen to me! I really hate dreaming!
@thatgirl13 (7294)
• South Korea
18 Jul 11
I often have bizarre dreams too. They're crazy and sometimes I wakeup with my heart beating so fast. Some of my dreams are like fairytale stories, so wonderful, other times they scare me. Dreams are really mysterious!
@cerebellum (3863)
• United States
18 Jul 11
I have never had that kind of dream. The closest I have come is being normal in my dreams. In real life I am handicapped, but not in my dreams!
If you could contact him in some way and say your sorry, you should do it. Your dream might have been telling you how good everything could be again!
@thatgirl13 (7294)
• South Korea
18 Jul 11
Yes I definitely will if I ever get a chance again. It eats me up inside sometimes
Anyway I hope your dreams come true too
Anyway I hope your dreams come true too 
@hardworkinggurl (37063)
• United States
17 Jul 11
Hi Thatgirl
Dreams are part of our subconscious thoughts and perhaps you have been thinking about the wonderful times you both shared so they are spilling over into your dreams. I would say since you do not have any contact to allow life to somehow bring you two back some time.
Accept the errors of the past and do remember that when we are younger we do commit many mistakes. As we mature we somehow pay it forward with others in life. If he was a good friend in the past he will someday realize that in our youth we are bound to make errors. Therefore, one day I am sure he will be forgiving and or will think privately that it was all just out of youth errors. Don't be hard on yourself and just simply wish him a great life and until you meet again someday.
Dreams are part of our subconscious thoughts and perhaps you have been thinking about the wonderful times you both shared so they are spilling over into your dreams. I would say since you do not have any contact to allow life to somehow bring you two back some time.
Accept the errors of the past and do remember that when we are younger we do commit many mistakes. As we mature we somehow pay it forward with others in life. If he was a good friend in the past he will someday realize that in our youth we are bound to make errors. Therefore, one day I am sure he will be forgiving and or will think privately that it was all just out of youth errors. Don't be hard on yourself and just simply wish him a great life and until you meet again someday.@thatgirl13 (7294)
• South Korea
18 Jul 11
Actually i don't really have many memories of him and me together coz I was really young. I do remember a few things though, and some of them aren't very clear. But I know he was a good friend and I miss him.
And thanks, I do wish him a happy life and hope he's forgiven me. I really want to meet him again but I seriously have no idea how to!!
@miessy24 (235)
• Philippines
18 Jul 11
Maybe the dream is a message to get in touch with a long lost friend and catch up things to reconcile with the past issues. Old friends are really the best.
@thatgirl13 (7294)
• South Korea
18 Jul 11
Yep that is so true. There is no one better than old friends. I really wish I could get in touch with him though. I;d tell him how sorry I am how much this guilt has been eating me for the past few years. I hope our paths meet somewhere, I'd be really happy!
@pinkpiglet (330)
• Philippines
17 Jul 11
Dreams have meanings and they should be listened to. I also have those kinds of dreams from once in a while. I think dreams speak to us. Maybe it really is time to make more efforts and make things right with him again? :)
@thatgirl13 (7294)
• South Korea
18 Jul 11
Hey thanks. Yes I guess some dreams really do speak to us. I really would like to make things right but i don't know where to start I don't know how to reach him!!
I don't know how to reach him!!