Doesn't feel like attending our class reunion...
@penrockerchic (1903)
Philippines
July 18, 2011 8:32am CST
It's been 10 years since our high school graduation and some of my classmates have initiated plans on making a reunion possible. At first, I was glad to hear that a plan exists but as realization sinks in, I have realized that I might just be wasting my time, money and effort if I will attend the reunion.
The thing is, I belong to a group from my batch that had grown into deeper friendship all throughout college and even now that some of us have families and with careers of our own. My friends pointed out that it doesn't feel right to join the reunion when the people we want to see are the people we see almost every other month or during the holidays. You see, my friends and I get to see each other once in a while and had stayed in touch for years now. We've had summer outings together and bonding moments that we plan when every one had some free time to spare.
I would have to admit that our high school batch isn't the batch that had been really close with each other back in the days. There were lots of factions and they were so obvious.
AS my friends had pointed out, if we do get to decide to attend our high school reunion by the end of this year, then a question arises... What's the point of going to a high school reunion when the people you're going to mingle and talk to are the same friends we see and mingle with at least twice a year. By the way, our group is pretty big in number. I think we're at least 20 in our group and they don't include the partners and kids of our friends. Just the original members of our peer group that happened to be batchmates as well.
Just this year, we had a summer getaway that almost felt like a mini reunion on our part. Well, I don't know how to feel about this reunion. My friends have a point and actually, I'm quite clinging to what they really see with regards to this reunion.
Do you think it's going to be pointless or would it be worth it?
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8 responses
@beingwell (3625)
• Thailand
19 Jul 11
Hi there pen! It's really up to you if you want to see your batchmates altogether in one roof, one more time!
Personally, I'd love to see my old classmates and batchmates after so many years. I'd love to hear what's been going on in their lives. Who married who?!hihihi..., etc. etc.
I'm thinking it's gonna' be fun!
Personally, I'd love to see my old classmates and batchmates after so many years. I'd love to hear what's been going on in their lives. Who married who?!hihihi..., etc. etc.
I'm thinking it's gonna' be fun!@penrockerchic (1903)
• Philippines
19 Jul 11
Yeah. You have a point there beingwell. I'm truly curious of some things as well but the thing is, there's Facebook that had helped me keep updated on who ended up with whom. But I guess, seeing some of my other old friends in the flesh would be nice as well but I still have doubts if I would truly enjoy the whole reunion experience. Thanks
@beingwell (3625)
• Thailand
20 Jul 11
I wasn't one of the popular girls at high school or in the university. But, I have my circle of friend to go back to. I'd like to see how they've been doing. And I'd love to talk about the funny stuffs that happened in school. I find it fun to go back to memory lane. Anyway, whatever your decision would be pen, I wish you all the luck!
@SIMPLYD (90722)
• Philippines
19 Jul 11
since you said that your group has been almost always hanging out, i think there's no use to go to the reunion.
I myself do not ever go to reunions. I long to see some of my former classmates, but i know some of those braggarts will be there too and i don't feel good about it. So, i stay off from those reunions. Sometimes, it's an avenue for others to brag more.
I am happy with my friends now. They suffice for my friends.
@penrockerchic (1903)
• Philippines
19 Jul 11
That's one other thing I kind of hate about reunions.... People bragging and showing off. It's not that there's nothing I am proud of but I just find such moments to be a total waste of time. On the other hand, some of my classmates have really been nice to keep in touch through chatting and social networking sites. I guess, I can be contented with that. Thanks for the response.
@hardworkinggurl (37063)
• United States
18 Jul 11
I will tell you that I too was not in the mood to attend my 10th year reunion, but glad I did go as while there I had such a good time listening to the many with the wonderful happenings in life. We exchanged contact information and to date email, call and get together once in a while. There are some who fly in from other states just to meet.
If you already see them I can see where it would not be such an event. As for us our group was 1400 graduates and none of us or rather not many of us kept contact so it was fun to meet up again. So yeah I agree if you have had contact all along it probably would not be really festive to do so at a reunion.
@penrockerchic (1903)
• Philippines
19 Jul 11
The truth is, there are only a few people I might want to see at the reunion but I have doubts that we would actually be socializing comfortably at the reunion. I do see myself spending the night of the reunion socializing with the same people I usually see once in a while.
@BalthasarTheRat (656)
• United States
18 Jul 11
You are essentially right about everything and it would likely not be worth it, for you. The reunion's not really for people who have kept in touch with those they wanted to keep in touch with. It is more for those who lost touch and the people that miss them. If all you are going to do is hang around the same people you already do, then don't bother. If, however, you are interested in renewing old friendships or just morbidly curious how some people are doing, then it can be quite rewarding.
Like all things in life, it is how you approach a situation or event that determines how much you will enjoy it or hate it.
Kool sidebar: While responding to this post, Toby Keith's "How Do You Like Me Now" came on my randomized iTunes. Now that's a good reason to go to reunions!
@penrockerchic (1903)
• Philippines
18 Jul 11
Nice. That was quite a new way to look at things. These are what needs to be pondered upon. I guess, I'm contented with the people I see most of the time during our summer getaways and I feel like it's a bit pointless to see people I haven't really thought of keeping in touch with in the near future. Thanks!
@igatiful_badass (1222)
• Philippines
19 Jul 11
my batch had plan already for a reunion, but till now i am still undecided to attend the said reunion due to some circumstances occur on talking about the reunion. I can still see the un-reunited decisions and programs and what to happen. For me i am happy to meet them again and had some communication for a long time. FB brought us together again. But really i don't know if i will attend or not to attend.
@penrockerchic (1903)
• Philippines
19 Jul 11
May I ask what circumstances are you referring to that makes you undecided to go tho your reunion? What are these un-reunited decisions? Do you mean that the venue and other details of the said reunion hasn't been finalized yet? I hope you can decide soon as well.
@angie20 (191)
• Philippines
19 Jul 11
I don't feel like attending my high school reunion aside from personal issues with them, my batch mates always have at least once per year. I don't find reunion that essential because those really close to each other can communicate and spend some time together. What is the use of social network by the way? I think your friends are right, you can save at least few penny. If you're really into meeting your dear friends from the reunion you can meet them separately in different time with a cheaper cost.
@penrockerchic (1903)
• Philippines
19 Jul 11
Yeah. One of the things that concerns me would be the expenses. Besides the fact that when you go to such formal gatherings, it automatically implies you to buy a new dress or a new pair of shoes and frankly, I really hate buying something that I know would only be used once in my lifetime. Anyway, the said reunion would probably fall on between Christmas day and the New Year and I know for a fact that expenses are way too high during those times.
@GardenGerty (157908)
• United States
18 Jul 11
I have never even wanted to attend a high school reunion. I have attended a few of my college reunions, but I likely will not attend more. My time is important to me, and I want to spend it with people that I value, and I do not have to turn it into a big social thing.
@penrockerchic (1903)
• Philippines
18 Jul 11
I see. Our high school reunion was supposed to be this December and I'm guessing that since it's the holidays, I might be busy like the other previous holidays. That's what I thought so. Time is also important to me. It makes me feel more accomplished to know that I have made use of my time wisely in any circumstances.
@SomeCowgirl (32191)
• United States
18 Jul 11
I don't plan to attend my high school reunion when we have one. I just don't feel it's necessary because like you those who I really want to correspond with I alredy do offline or online. It's just not something I plan to do as it wasn't like I was in such a big group or high staning in high school that many people who can't search me out online won't find me anyway.
I agree with you and your friends, why go when you see the people you want to see ever so often anyway?
@penrockerchic (1903)
• Philippines
18 Jul 11
I guess, you and my friends are quite on the same page on this topic. I do see them most of the time especially when we're not busy and it actually feels great to have friends I've been with for almost 16 years now. In our group, I was always the shy one and almost like the anti-social friend. But the good thing about my friends is that they accepted me for who I am, my eccentricity and moods. Thanks for the response.
