Could you please ask/talk to me first before judging ME ?

Without talking, how can I judge my friend!! To judge you, talking to you is one important way.

There are times we are forgot to ask first the person we hate. specially when we are angry or upset to that person and most of the time we call them in a not so good name. we usually notice the bad side of this person. her bad attitude and all bad things about this person.

Hi Jai! If any misunderstanding occurs between me and my friends/relatives, I prefer to clear the misunderstanding first before making comments or arriving at any conclusion. I get inclined to go to the root cause of the problem and try to solve it. I do not judge anyone without cross verifying the facts. I believe that 'communication' is necessary to clear any doubts.

personally i say, both is not good for me. as long as i can talk with the person, i do and i will not judge him/her. but i know one that she better talk and talk and talk but tries her best not to hurt people, especially her children.

I don't judge sweetie. It's not my job. But misunderstandings do happen more than often. We just need to deal with it, though.

Hello my friend! I have this habit of not saying anything first until I don't hear the side of the other party or concerned person/s. I just listen and don't comment at all. When I hear both sides,that's the time I say my opinion or comment. I feel I don't have the right to judge anyone as I am not a perfect person. All of us commits mistakes. Instead of judging,I say anything that will resolve the issues of both sides. I don't usually just take part or agree to one side. I stay neutral and try to make them united.

I usually do not judge unless things are very very clear (and even then it is rare and I feel guilty then). If it is a loved one, I try to talk/ask first. But I'm not always successful because they usually do not open up enough or say the wrong thing or judge ME! But hey...I try!

I don't easily believe in what others are saying. I need to hear the side of the story by the person involve. I know how it feels to be judged base on rumor alone by a member of the family. It is hurtful and infuriating at the same time. What hurts more is if that person still believes in the rumor after you have told the truth and explained what has really transpired.

It is unfair to everyone when we judge someone without getting all of the information that is needed first. it hurts the one we judge but we also hurt ourselves. feelings do go both ways.

Hi di Not sure if this is okay but I think I am too egoistic here. I dont talk about other people unless necessary (and that too professional). I normally use the good works of the people as examples for my students and even others. I dont believe in cursing or backbiting others as I feel that in any case they portray me(or the speaker) in a negative sense and it mostly says that the speaker is weak and non confident. In case I have any grudge against anyone, I always feel it right to confront and get rid of the problem that might have happened between us. Always better to be clear and sound rather than keep on dragging a set of misunderstanding between us. That is my view only and no other intentions here.

All said and done first impression is the best impression. without our knowledge or with our knowledge we form impressions in our mind and it is difficult to erase it.I do talk to people before judging others. It is always like this --give respect and take respect. It is not as if problems do not come. In my experience problems come from areas or quarters from where we are not expecting. that is the interesting aspect of life.

Whether or not I could ask the person first I still don't think that i am entitled to others, especially badly. And if I have something in mind to judge him and if it is really bad I would rather just keep it to myself because i will never know that is just the way they choose to be. But some are just really biting as if when they judge you they seem to know everything about you and the things that you say when the fact is they just annoyingly want to contradict in what you believe in. Perhaps that gives them pleasure when they attack someone. But let us not mind them, because they are actually the ones who are weak up there.

Not everyone has the capacity to identify misunderstandings. Many people believe that everyone thinks the same way they do and that they can judge them harshly for something when really the person just has a different viewpoint.

you are right, sometimes we judge people by only their bad habbits, but never look upon their good one's that cover up the bad ones, usally sometimes we see a person at a wrong time at a wrong place doing something wrong, which is actually not like as we see,, so we can never judge anybody without completely understanding him/her..

Ok, I am ready to start judging you, but I don't know what about. I can make some things up, or I can charge you with the default crime - being a sinner, like all people. Your point is valid, people are often way to quick to judge others. When we judge others it puffs up our pride, but hurts the other person. In the end we hurt ourselves too.

Don't misunderstand and do not just before knowing the things and facts. Especially in family matters we will move with trust and confidence. Have to kill the problems share the joy.

hello jaiho, I can understand if someone will judge me but if it is a family member I rather let them speak and hear their side of stories. It is better to physical hurt me than backstabbing The wounds can heal but the words will remain always Everything will be fine miss yah

I always try to keep a open mind when it comes to people.Never judge a book by its cover is what I have always heard.Words do leave a emotion scar on people so I always try to watch my words and be careful with another persons feelings.

Hello Jaiho, When there are people misunderstanding do occurs at time but to clarify it with the concerned person is always better to avoid further bitterness.Its bad to judge a person without knowing his/her voice. I normally prefer to do it but of course i am human not monkey ( hehehe) so sometimes i also do mistakes of judging before knowing things from the concerned person.

I guess nobody have a right to judge on anybody. Whether we ask or not or know the person well, curses and bad words will not make a bad situation better. It is only widen up gaps and destroy bridges between the ones we love. Nothing beats calm talking and understanding whenever we can. And when people judge you. Just ignore, what's important is that you know yourself better.