My wife was ill yesterday!

@sjvg1976 (18407)
Delhi, India
July 21, 2011 6:53am CST
Hello MYLOTTERS, This was the first time in my life when my wife was so ill yesterday she was suffering from cold,slight fever,cough.She was not able to wake up in the morning as unlike all days when she normally wakes up and prepares breakfast for me.I was very confused to see it what has happened to her. Finally i touched her and asked her what happened are you OK? She did not reply but i understood that she is not well today. Then i decided i won't go to office today and look after the kids today.So i did it and the whole day it was like OMG how she manages all things i could not managed to look after the kids for one day forget about lunch & dinner. Really women are great they are expert when it comes to looking after kids and kitchen work.Their management is perfect we can never catch up them. How do you feel when it comes to looking after kids & kitchen work together?? Are you comfortable with managing both with ease?? Remember mine are twins so she has to manage two kids of same age.
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@thetis74 (1525)
22 Jul 11
It is good to hear that you are getting to fell how great we women can be. Haha. I think we can manage because that is our responsibility and it is embedded in us to face these duties. But there are some mothers who can't or chose not to do things well. It must be harder for her because you have twins, but if the body is healthy and if a mother is loving her job as a mother and a wife then whatever she does for the family will be relatively easy for her and won't be such a burden too. I can also handle things well. I do everything in the house, that even at this point that I am pregnant I still get to do things alone because I am not blessed with a partner who believes in the division of domestic labor. He just stay in front of the computer and all the paperwork, since he is a consulting engineer. But although I can sometimes understand I would just hope he would get to help sometimes especially with my condition, because it would really would make me happy. At least in such a way he can understand and realize why there are times that I have to cry because I can't take it anymore.
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@Hatley (164485)
• Garden Grove, California
22 Jul 11
thetis you are making me cry too as your husband as an interest in the family too and its only fair he help you when you are overburdened. look if you get sick he will ha ve to get help so try asking him to pitch in and do some of the chores with'yuol men can diaper babies, feed them. read to them, they are his kids too you know. He has to have a b reak occasionally so ask for his help on his breaks. he owes it to you.
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@sjvg1976 (18407)
• Delhi, India
25 Jul 11
@ Thetis, This is bad on your husband part he should understand your condition and he should help you in your work after all it is his baby also.You cannot expect a woman to do all work when she is not well or pregnant you need to support her with the best you can. @ Hatley, Nicely said i feed my babies, get them bath,change diapers,get them sleep,engaged them in playing with me when my wife looks after kitchen work so there are many ways in which you can support your wife. These small works also make her relief.
• United States
21 Jul 11
Hi sjvg Oh wow I sympathize with your wife. I too was so sick all last week. I had the same a bad cough, congestion and fever the entire week. There were two days I had to stay in bed. I do remember when my children were little and being sick and staying in bed was not an option. Thankfully you were so helpful in helping her. Ah ha! Now you know all her efforts and hard work with the kids so maybe though she may not be sick you can chip in a bit more some days. This will help her be more energetic each day.
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• United States
21 Jul 11
Oops forgot to add that I do hope she starts to feel better. I know how it is after also because although I am better this week I feel bit weak still.
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@sjvg1976 (18407)
• Delhi, India
25 Jul 11
Hello HWG, Yes it was better that i took an OFF to help her out because she needed rest to get speedy recovery.And now because she got rest she is OK now.But really it is tough to look after household work & to look after kids. At least i cannot do it.
• United States
21 Jul 11
Hi! OUCH! Hope she is feeling better and good show in looking after the kids for her! Hehehehe--it does take some planning to look after two little ones! What did you do that day with them? Do they like going to the park (indoor or outdoor), library, or just connect with a few friends? I often find myself planning a couple of events each day (weather permitting) and that allows me to do more if schedules allow or if it doesn't, hey I got something done! Thanks for saying what you did about management skills. :-)
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@sjvg1976 (18407)
• Delhi, India
25 Jul 11
Hello Cricket127, I just spend my whole day playing with my kids and i told my wife to sleep/rest for whole day.At the end of day i was tired so were my kids but my wife was feeling better.
• United States
25 Jul 11
YAY!!! Hope everyone had a good time!
@sjvg1976 (18407)
• Delhi, India
26 Jul 11
Thank you cricket.
@aprilmom (172)
• United States
21 Jul 11
I like kids and don't mind house work and cooking. I am about to be a mom in few months. However, I still want to spend time trying to earn money and stuff. Also if a woman can do it why not you to :). Sounds like you got the easy end of the deal in the marrage. Lucky. Hope you helped her out while shes sick. :) Goodluck.
• United States
21 Jul 11
Congrats on becoming a mom! Are you excited?
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@aprilmom (172)
• United States
21 Jul 11
Yes I am. I love my baby so much already. I can't wait to be a mom.Thank you :)
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@sjvg1976 (18407)
• Delhi, India
25 Jul 11
@ Hello aprilmom, Welcome to MYLOT. Congrats for you being Mom in few months.Its better to try your hands on online stuffs in these critical days of yours don't go for offline job till you have a baby.
@Bannybanzie (1398)
• Philippines
21 Jul 11
Hi! I guess it's sickness time. My family also got sick and my cousins and aunts.. Hope she gets well and really well!Wow.. all this time I thought you're a woman! Anyways, yes, mothers do a lot of heavy jobs.. and I heard one say that if mothers/women were paid for their jobs at home, they would earn a lot.. as in lots of money! This is why men should value their hardworking wives more.. and show them love and respect... Be happy and may she be well!
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• Philippines
21 Jul 11
HI! Noooo.. I checked your profile a lot of times since I always see you around.. I guess I just was not looking at the gender.. I'm more to "Hey, from what country are you? Oh that's nice".. Hope she gets fine and happy mylotting!
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@sjvg1976 (18407)
• Delhi, India
25 Jul 11
She is fine now.
@ebuscat (5949)
• Philippines
22 Jul 11
For me yes it is hard to deal with so you grateful if you find a wife who not said of what she done through that day and no salary to be taken from the boss so it is good you think of your plan for this day keep up the good work.
@sjvg1976 (18407)
• Delhi, India
25 Jul 11
Hello ebuscat, Thats right i have a good wife she did not say anything about her health to me but then its husband's responsibility to support her when she is ill.
@Hatley (164485)
• Garden Grove, California
22 Jul 11
hi sjvg aha now for ahwile I was going he is a she then I remembered no you have a wife. you know so many husbands do not really recognize all we women do while running a home and caring for our children. I had my husband saying the same thing when I had to have surgery and was in the hospital a week. he finally got my mom to baby sit so he could carry on his gardening route and of co urse she loved it as she was always asking me to let her baby sit for me. she was the right choice too as she knew our kids so well and she was competent while the neighbor kids just were not. My husband was wonderful though at helping me with housework and the kids. he loved to read to our little daughter. My two were not twins but they were only 11 months apart so quite a handful even if they were well behaved kids. lol lol My hubby hated only one thing the dishes,those he refused to do as he had done so many in his life before meeting me. lol.
@sjvg1976 (18407)
• Delhi, India
25 Jul 11
Hello Hatley, Those men who don't see their wife's problem are not men. They need to understand that the woman is your wife & you need to support her at the time when she need your support & i don't find any ego problem while supporting her & most men should not have it as while helping their wife with small works.
@youless (93655)
• Guangzhou, China
21 Jul 11
You are a very sweet husband because you can take a day off to take care of your wife and manage the housework for a whole family. I hope your wife will get well soon. Now you can understand actually it is not easy to be a housewife. You know that you just do it for a day. I rather say that I prefer to go to work:) I love China
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@sjvg1976 (18407)
• Delhi, India
25 Jul 11
Hello youless, Truly now i came to know that being a housewife is tough as she has to do lot of work which i think we don't do in job.Its not easy to perform all house hold works & looking after kids.
@jaiho2009 (39001)
• Philippines
21 Jul 11
Now you know how hard it is to look after kids while doing the meal (preparing and cooking) It's not easy to look after kids while washing clothes,eventhu there is washing machine. It's not easy to look after kids while cleaning the house and making things in order before the husband arrives and also to manage to have a quick shower so when the husband arrives the wife still looks fresh and dashing without any shadow or stress and tiredness :) Now you know it...
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@sjvg1976 (18407)
• Delhi, India
25 Jul 11
Hello Jaiho, Yes now i know how much work a housewife do but still look fresh when her hubby returns from a job. Its really a great job housewives do.
21 Jul 11
I can not manage like that
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@sjvg1976 (18407)
• Delhi, India
25 Jul 11
Hello Kumar, Welcome to MYLOT. Even i cannot manage it.Its only women who manage it with ease. My wife do all household work so easily also she looks after the kids while doing it. Its great to see her.
@thatgirl13 (7307)
• South Korea
21 Jul 11
i am not married yet but i can say housewives are super moms I remember once our parents had gone for a vacation and left me and my siblings with the house. i swear that was the most difficult period of my life. we had to cook for ourselves, three times a day, clean the house, do the laundry, take out the garbage, water the plants and so on It was so tiring and we kept forgetting to do somethings everyday. when my parents returned, my mom almost cried seeing the state of the house!! i seriously don't know how mom does it all by herself. she's great, she's my hero and i love her
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@sjvg1976 (18407)
• Delhi, India
25 Jul 11
Hello thatgirl, Hahaha it happens when someone do the work it seems to be easy but when you yourself do that then you come to know how is that work.Similarly it happened with me i thought household work to be easy when my wife was doing it but found it difficult when i myself did it.
@sreesai (216)
• India
21 Jul 11
Hi sjvg1976, Thank you for understanding and taking care of her. Men understand women only if she is gone for some voccation to her mothers house or when she is ill, because men go to office( stressed up) and come home watch television, So they don't know what's the lady is handling. I don't blame anyone, It's the situation, that's all. If both are working I can't say because both will be tired. I feel both should share work, no relative interferrance on judging his/her work. Then every relation will be strong enough and happy lifetime. I pray to God for her recovery.
@sjvg1976 (18407)
• Delhi, India
25 Jul 11
Hello Sreesai, Yes it should happen if both are working then they should share household chores as its not possible for woman to see household work and doing job also.People should understand it to have more stronger relationship.
@mellaw (84)
• Philippines
21 Jul 11
Hello friend! sorry about your wife hope she feel better soon,yeah the rule of a housewife is not easy, even if I am unmarried but I observe my sister how she manage and take care take of her two children, husband and a 90yr old mother in-laws.So my sister invite me to stay with them to help her look after her very old mother in-laws that have hearing problem, while her still at work.
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@sjvg1976 (18407)
• Delhi, India
25 Jul 11
Hello mellaw, Welcome to MYLOT. Now my wife is OK.Its not that easy to do house hold works & look after the kids together. Its tough task but we man always think it to easier job which is wrong in my opinion.
@isloooboy (1740)
• United Arab Emirates
21 Jul 11
First of all I wish and pray for your wife to get well soon after that when I said Mother should stay at home main reason behind was, "How selfish we are who demand to do job when she is already overload with home work". So now you realize how hard job she is already doing? instead of helping her we think she can help us financially too by ding job. I admit I have no courage and power to work at home and take care of kids even I am unmarried but I wish whenever I will marry I will try my level best to give her every kind of support which she will need at home instead of asking her to go to job so you can help family financially.
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@sjvg1976 (18407)
• Delhi, India
25 Jul 11
Hello isloooboy, Now she is fine. Thats true its become difficult for a woman to work outside & also look after the household chores. But then its always a woman wish if she wants to work outside and in case if she do that then you should help/assist her in household works.