long distance relationships

India
July 28, 2011 1:06am CST
Hhhhhhhhhhhiiiiiiiiiiiiiii My lotters.............. You must have seen & in fact facerd many relationships in your life time.Must have heard abt Long Distance Relationships.I have seen a lot of people staying in love at the same place,but when they have to live at distant places their relationship starts going weak.They arise a lot of doubts for their partners & also loose their loyality on them. Some create new flurts & unaware of this the partner loves blindly........... Tis is not right.I don't think that LONG DISTANCE RELATIONSHIP LAST Have u faced so & what do u think...............................
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9 responses
28 Jul 11
in my opinion long distance relationships survive but both people involve need to work for it, it needs a lot of trust and need good communication, if they don't have this quality or the other don't have it, it wont work.
• Philippines
4 Aug 11
The most important on a Long distance relationship is Trust, never doubt the you Love, you give all your trust to her/him , no matter what. In some point of the long distance relationship communication may cause of some misunderstanding in the future. Just give all the trust and honesty to the person involved in any long distance relationship.
@laydee (12814)
• Philippines
28 Jul 11
I am in this type of relationship and we're on our 6years together. It's true that it isn't easy, but I think what makes it easier than for some is the fact that we constantly meet every chance we get. We need to meet at least 2x or more in a years' time, I know it's pretty expensive, but I think if you're going to be overly frugal with this relationship, it wouldn't work. Further, I think what separates some relationships from others (both in long distance) is how it all started. You see, before we became a couple, we became friends first. Which means that our communication is great. We share a lot of things and the conversation isn't heavy all the time. What I mean is that we have fun together and we do activities apart but it would still seem that we're together. Like example, if there's something good on television, we'd watch it together (in our own homes) while both are online as if we're just side-by-side. Another would be the fact that we'd have a normal life as if we're a couple who goes to work then when we come home we need not really talk, but we're just there through the camera, he does his stuff and I do mine and when we have stories or questions to share we'd share it. I think the relationship is great because we're now more mature and no longer on the shallow side of things. But of course, we often miss each other a lot, which is why we are constantly planning trips and other plans that we could do together. There are a lot of ways to make relationships work, and I think what we could all best do is to stop thinking about the negative things (barriers, etc.) instead focus on the fun part of the relationship - but of course, both should have plans of being together soon else each would be left frustrated. Have a great MyLot experience!
• United States
28 Jul 11
i totaly agree with laydee i have been in a long distance relationship for around 5 years and there are alot of hard times and alot of great times.
• Philippines
3 Aug 11
My boyfriend and I in our six years relationship , I received a great opportunity for me but i have to leave and to work abroad. It's a hardest part on our relationship at first, the things that you usually shared together, our treasured moments together..It is BIG adjustment for both of us.Our Relationship will be tested,new challenges may encounter..Trust to both of us should always be in a Long distance relationship and to stay constant communication in any means..
@Danzylop (1119)
• Philippines
29 Jul 11
Long distance relationship is really hard to keep. You really have to trust each other and that the both of you should be committed to keep each others trust (which is the main issue regarding LDRs or Long Distance Relationships). Ive had a LDR before and just like I said, it didnt work well. ALthough I trusted her alot, still that was not enough. She found another man and got pregnant with him. I just let her go so as to make things work for me. at the moment I am dating another girl, although she gets me annoyed most of the time, I love her. I hope she would not be just the same as my first 3 GFs.
@jdex_143 (1094)
• Philippines
29 Jul 11
I have been in a long distance relationship before. I find the first few months sailing smoothly but as time passes by, I felt like my love and affection for him was starting to fade each day. Our relationship didn't last that long actually. Now, I don't like long distance relationship anymore. But there are others who can be successful in this kind of relationship. I think, I just can't. :(
@jricky1 (6809)
• China
29 Jul 11
It depends,some people could deal with this situation well,they telephone each other each day or some other ways,but i think if this is me,i certainly love to see him everyday,to be honest,i'm afraid that some partners could lose loyalty.
• Philippines
29 Jul 11
With new technology available today communication is very easy. The formula for this to work is time. Time for each other despite the different schedules, time zones and work commitments. I think this might just work for those who are really into, this has worked for other people too.
• India
28 Jul 11
if love is there long distance relatinship can be successful too..and the advnced technology helps to stay conncted with our love.
@kahano42 (53)
• United States
28 Jul 11
Being that my husband is in the army we have definitely done long distance. In fact we only dated for 3 months before he left to basic training where we couldn't speak or see each other, we could only send letters back and forth. I also got pregnant right before he left, so not only were we doing a long distance relationship so early on, we also couldn't talk and we were pregnant. He got out of basic in April and we got married in May. We lived apart for another 2 years due to other training he had and yes it was the most difficult thing I've probably ever had to do. We would plan as many trips as possible but there were many times that I felt unappreciated although I know I wasn't. I was working, taking care of a baby, and trying to keep time for myself. Communication is key!!! He had no idea how I felt because I wouldn't tell him those were my thoughts. We hit many rough patches, but whether or not you make it through depends on how much the pair really want it to work and how much their love grows while apart. Like the say distance makes the heart grow fonder. I believe this quote but you also have to keep the fire burning while the heart is missing that person. Fun getaway trips to places you've never been or even visiting and playing tourist would be a great time and keep the love growing.